Story Is being abused preferable to loneliness?

[D. B. Gooner]

I'm talking about friendships, not relationships btw.

The last time I hung out with another person was about a year ago. I had made a friend at uni, or at least a person I would make stupid jokes with during classes. We hung out like twice outside of uni. One day, we made plans to go for a run together. It takes me 30 minutes to walk to the running tracks. So I show up, and right at the time we had set to be our meetup time, he calls and tells me he can't come. I told him it was cool but it really pissed me off. So disrespectful, he couldn't even cancel beforehand. I gradually stopped talking to him, though I would still say hi and pretend like we're fine. Eventually we stopped talking, and it's not like he ever made any attempts at hanging out again. I felt it was necessary for me to draw the line, I shouldn't let people treat me like that. I wasn't bothered by it at the time, no love lost, but now, in retrospect, I'm in desperate need of a friend.

So my question: Is enduring abuse preferable to this isolation I'm experiencing right now, because it sure feels like it. Should I have sucked it up? Did I overreact? Really I know the answer, no real man should let that kind of thing happen to him and then go crawling back, but I'm no ordinary man, I haven't had a real friend since middle school. I'm about to finish uni so my friendship making opportunities are dwindling.

 

[ToBurble&Pine]

You should know the answer by now

 

[Janaki]

TLDR?

 

[DreamCoper]

I think the existence of Stockholm Syndrome answers that question, albeit it’s mostly just hybristophilic foids tbh

 

[D. B. Gooner]

TLDR?

Was ghosted once a year ago by only potential friend I had since middle school. I slowly stopped talking to him, but am now wondering if that was a mistake since I'm losing it due to the isolation.

 

[Janaki]

Was ghosted once a year ago by only potential friend I had since middle school. I slowly stopped talking to him, but am now wondering if that was a mistake since I'm losing it due to the isolation.

Nah cut that guy off

 

[tranny destroyer]

Just cut him off and mange the loneliness

 

[FatalityOfHumanity]

Yes cut him off. I have some people i know who are even more subhuman than myself and i dont ignore them. I slowly got into the habbit to delete the whole chat if i get ignored. Sometimes i feel like they dont have half the conscience i have

 

[m3nt4Lbl0ck3d]

I've been through both. The loneliness is intensified even more so I would say because of it. So I honestly can't give you a definite answer. I would choose loneliness over abuse though. I like my own company. Most people are bloody sucking parasites and pests. They're an insult to my intelligence and they fuck me off very quickly. Better for everyone if I'm left to my own devices. Unless I finally snap. Than it's a wrap.

 

[exposesociety]

Yeah it's disrespectful to cancel plans like that, but that's not abuse.

 

[D. B. Gooner]

Yeah it's disrespectful to cancel plans like that, but that's not abuse.

Yeah ik I like to talk in extremes.

 

[D. B. Gooner]

Yes cut him off. I have some people i know who are even more subhuman than myself and i dont ignore them. I slowly got into the habbit to delete the whole chat if i get ignored. Sometimes i feel like they dont have half the conscience i have

It's not even about me being subhuman, he is also a virgin (idk about khhv but I would assume so too), I honestly kind of mog him he's just a lot more NT than me and has tons of buddies he hangs out with, so to him that hang out was probably not very valuable, but to me it was like an annual event so it made me sad.

 

[curryboy420]

That ain't even that bad I had friends do way worse shit to me and it just became normal to be treated like a dog shit stuck on someone's shoe. But now I think, there is a life where people are wanted by others. And I wanted that life. But I don't even know what it would feel like