I remember talking to a social worker about inceldom vs. rape comparison. She listed all the typical behaviors and expressions of suffering the rape survivors she had worked with had been displaying. And they were, to a large degree, typical incel behaviors. Self-harm, complete isolation, consistent and recurring episodes of suicidal urges. Disgust and hatred for the own sexuality to the point of wanting to cut it out of your life completely.
The line "you people aren't ready for that discussion" is so overused as to be unusable by now. But I think this would be an actual good use case for it. People aren't ready to talk about how inceldom has similar effects on men as rape has on women. And as OP said, inceldom is life-long suffering without any support from society to help you cope or get back up. No sympathy, no help, only gaslighting and victim blaming and more bullying. To top it off, the men suffering from inceldom often were suffering right from the start. Being autists, being ugly, being outcasts. No / few friends, all their social needs unsatisfied since the day they were born. Abuse / dysfunctional families. Violence, bullying, extreme humiliation by their peers since childhood. And a complete lack of positive experiences in the social realm.
We suffer, but it's not a single traumatic event that we then can spend the rest of our lives coming to terms with while being shown kindness and support from the world around us. It's constant, never-ending abuse and hatred, one horrible traumatic event after the other after the other. A pattern which often started while we were still young boys / pubescent teens and which continues till we end up as completely broken and isolated adults with no hope and no will to continue fighting for anything. Empty husks waiting for a merciful end, by our own hands or by the hands of time.
The idea that our suffering can't compare to the suffering of rape victims is based purely on what is socially acceptable to think and say. Which is much more important to normies than the logical and moral consequences of ignoring suffering equivalent to that of rape victims, should the socially acceptable way of thinking turn out to be wrong.
I don't make ER "jokes" because I'm kind of afraid to have those read back to me one day in court or something similar. I would like to keep my online presence such that I could still continue living if my accounts were one day connected to my person publicly. But this is an example of the kind of thing that would make me want to use highly inflammatory language to express my helpless rage and violated sense of justice.
