it's all about the home life, the average incel has a weird home life, there's lots of fights and he never feels comfortable inviting friends over, if he even has any, and that bad vibe from home he carries with him everywhere he goes, school, playground, whatever
one of my early bad memories was visiting a birthday party for a girl once when i was a kid, i didn't know her well but our parents knew each other, and somehow i was invited
her parents were hosting it at a chuck e cheese type place, and there were like 40 fucking guests there, they had put in a massive amount of effort
i remember i went through the motions, but still got a bit sad and overwhelmed because my birthday parties averaged from 0 to 2 people, and i thought many other kids were like that
ironically and poetically this made my parents seethe and get angry and unreasonable, just like they would get at home, all while blaming it on me for "not enjoying it", and not on their weak nerves and bad temper

indeed, the whole thing was planned as an exercise in "keeping up appearances" and i had failed it and shamed them
this was also the first time that the "it's because he would rather be at home playing video games" cope and accusation was deployed, very early
in the end no attention was paid whatsoever to the simple facts:
- the girl's parents cared and put in a massive amount of effort
- the girl's parents got along very well and thus could organize big events like this regularly, without collapsing into arguments and bickering
- the girl now had a massive social network that dwarfed that of many boys, an inversion of gender roles creating an emasculating experience even for a very young boy
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