In my experience, being NEET/LDAR only works until your early 30s

[Hoppipolla]

I'm 33 now. And it's like... shit. Shit! What do I do now? I feel like I haven't prepared to have a true adult life. No woman, no job, no cash. And it hits you fast, too. Because now I'm like "Damn I need a woman like NOW if I want a real chance of settling down, having kids, all that stuff".

I mean, my life hasn't all been bad or purely NEET/LDAR up until this point but... it's kind of like being the mouse who didn't prepare for winter in that Aesop's fable. Now I'm running out of time and I wish I'd done more.

So this is just a warning, I guess. Don't be too lazy about things. Chill out and enjoy life by all means but try to build things too, so you're not trying to rush it all at the last minute!

Just my 2 cents

 

[th62eathhts2]

Because now I'm like "Damn I need a woman like NOW if I want a real chance of settling down, having kids, all that stuff".

 

[Rassimov]

Fucking around LDARing in your 20s is still pretty 'romanticized'. Even the most 'blackpilled' cynic secretly hopes he will end up discovering he's actually a late bloomer. In the 30s you feel like you are approaching the doomer stage at incredible speed.

 

[VST]

That's like the only purpose of life, to settle down and reproduce.

 

[acnescarcel]

how do you neet? with your parents?

 

[Villain]

So this is just a warning, I guess. Don't be too lazy about things. Chill out and enjoy life by all means but try to build things too, so you're not trying to rush it all at the last minute!
Just my 2 cents

Im gonna work hard so i can LDAR and be neet on my 30+

 

[wizardcel]

By the time you reach your 30s you are so far behind that it takes a colossal effort to catch up. But you shouldn't lose all hope. There are guys out there who were locked up for decades but they still managed to turn their life around.

 

[Hoppipolla]

To be honest, on a more positive note I think one of the main reasons I'm thinking about this now is because my life is calmer. Up until about 9 months ago my life was chaos, sometimes in a kind of positive way and sometimes negative, but it was very active and usually very unstable. Now it's stable. But I also have very little.

Also, I now have no more potential love interests. So I need to find new ones.

In theory this is all possible but I just don't know how to do it in a timely fashion especially when finding a woman is based largely on luck.

how do you neet? with your parents?

Mostly welfare and some support from parents. Not the whole time but I think that was the bulk of it.

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

coping with LDAR is totally delusional and ridiculous, i've had panic breakpoints at 26 and 30 that were unbearable and i was actually working and had plans, the panic was just 100% focused around being unable to be motivated to become established, cool and wanted.

 

[Fontaine]

Being NEET/LDAR is an irrational decision largely driven by crippling major depressive disorder. Now that I have had my depression cured, I don't feel any compulsion to LDAR. I'm still a bit lazy, but I sure want to learn, to work, etc.

 

[AlwaysLawRoute]

Why the hell do I only find people with this mentality on the internet? I know plenty of foreigners and gypsies in my town who are perfectly fine with having never worked a day in their lives receiving welfare money every month just for existing or maybe some garbage cleaning job and they have sons and family and shit,just be like them.

 

[Deleted member 1410]

not always. I stay NEET/LDAR for much longer and my kike landlady will evict me. and yes she's actually jewish.

 

[PersonalityChad]

 

[IsolationHurts]

28, still LDARing, almost no chance of getting a job and no chance at all of ascending.
Tbh, im waiting for the moment to end it all, i dont worry about the future anymore.

 

[rudolfhess]

Why the hell do I only find people with this mentality on the internet? I know plenty of foreigners and gypsies in my town who are perfectly fine with having never worked a day in their lives receiving welfare money every month just for existing or maybe some garbage cleaning job and they have sons and family and shit,just be like them.

Because we have guilt and shame, unlike gypsies

 

[Hoppipolla]

By the way I'm not sure if that story about the mice is in Aesop's Fables but here is somewhere I definitely remember it from!

Why the hell do I only find people with this mentality on the internet? I know plenty of foreigners and gypsies in my town who are perfectly fine with having never worked a day in their lives receiving welfare money every month just for existing or maybe some garbage cleaning job and they have sons and family and shit,just be like them.

Yeah but finding a woman is the hard bit, lol

 

[Fontaine]

28, still LDARing, almost no chance of getting a job and no chance at all of ascending.
Tbh, im waiting for the moment to end it all, i dont worry about the future anymore.

You can easily get a job that nobody else wants. Night shifts, moving dead bodies around, etc. Don't lose hope.

 

[IsolationHurts]

You can easily get a job that nobody else wants. Night shifts, moving dead bodies around, etc. Don't lose hope.

I wish. Too socially retarded for that. But thanks.

 

[Fontaine]

I wish. Too socially retarded for that. But thanks.

The best set-up for you would be night security agent. LDAR in a factory or housing complex all night, watching movies and waiting for the time to pass. Almost no social contact.

But honestly, you should rather try to fix your depression first. Have you tried drugs or TMS?

 

[Robtical]

I gave up on kids and a wife long ago, and I'm not even 33 yet.

 

[IsolationHurts]

The best set-up for you would be night security agent. LDAR in a factory or housing complex all night, watching movies and waiting for the time to pass. Almost no social contact.

But honestly, you should rather try to fix your depression first. Have you tried drugs or TMS?

If i want to be a security agent i guess i should seem like a strong male at least... but i have the body of a 12 y.o. girl and a big deformed head. I dont look healthy and trustworthy. I went to the gym in the past and solved nothing, idk if my genes are so bad that i cant get strong muscles at all or that i dont really know how to use a gym. Anyway, i actually never tried to get a security job. I can at least try, why not. Another rejection cant hurt that much.
And i didnt even know TSM was still a thing. I tried antidepressants before, but they do nothing from my perspective. I smoke weed everyday tho, and thats the closest thing to happiness and calmness i can experience.

 

[Bangkok or bust]

I don't think its a bad thing if YOUR VERY YOUNG looking like I was in my 20's and early 30's. (mistaken for a 16yo at 24, mistaken for 19 at 29 etc is what I endured). Its was best for me to shut myself away than put my self through daily torture of not being taken seriously (being treated badly) over a physical condition I had no control over.

But yes it hits you hard once you approach 33, 34, you feel you have more responsibilities. You start coming into your man looks more. You know, deep down, you have little chance of sex with a trim/thin girl if your unemployed and broke. Also I find being neet through my 20's made me insane. It was the boredom. Its boring sitting at home all day, rotting and not having a routine.

 

[Existentialcel]

I def feel the urgency to get shit done. Haven’t hit 30 yet but I’d be really depressed if I wasn’t financially stable/on track by then

 

[Incel801]

You are having an early mid-life crisis..it will pass and you will be happy neeting again in a few yrs

 

[GeneticDysfunction]

The rope is approaching you at the speed of light

 

[Hoppipolla]

The rope is approaching you at the speed of light

Nah I'd never do that. What's the point?

 

[anon]

You sound like a normalfag. I hate NT fags.

 

[Hoppipolla]

You sound like a normalfag. I hate NT fags.

NT?

 

[jerrycan dan]

Did you expect to waste two thirds of your breeding-age adult life and then suddenly have a family? Are you retarded?

 

[anon]

NT?

You're NT aka normalfag if you don't know what NT means.

 

[Hoppipolla]

Did you expect to waste two thirds of your breeding-age adult life and then suddenly have a family? Are you retarded?

OK calm down, lol.

I did try but it was hard and I'm also saying I should have tried harder. Wow. Overreact much?

 

[NEETAndTidy]

Being NEET and receiving autismbux is the best thing that has ever happened to me tbh.

Wouldnt trade it for the easiest job in the world. I just do what I please when i please and how I please on doing it

 

[Hoppipolla]

Being NEET and receiving autismbux is the best thing that has ever happened to me tbh.

Wouldnt trade it for the easiest job in the world. I just do what I please when i please and how I please on doing it

You don't find you get lonely though? How do you maintain a social network?

 

[NEETAndTidy]

You don't find you get lonely though? How do you maintain a social network?

I have no friends. Agoraphobia too so leaving the house is difficult. Dont get too lonely. I have this place.

 

[RopeMaXXer]

Holy fuck OP I started sweating cold juices just thinking about being in that situation.
I need to get my shit together

 

[Hoppipolla]

I have no friends. Agoraphobia too so leaving the house is difficult. Dont get too lonely. I have this place.

Do you live with parents or something? You have to be careful with relying on family like that because eventually you will probably have to move out/on and... then you end up feeling much more alone, you know?

Holy fuck OP I started sweating cold juices just thinking about being in that situation.
I need to get my shit together

Yeah that's a big reason I posted it. As a warning, basically! And of course to get feedback and stuff.

I think I'll head back on places like OK Cupid and get chatting to girls not only for a gf but also because... I am one of what seems to be a minority of people on here who enjoys having female friends. So even if it takes me time to find a gf, maybe I can make some friends in the meantime

 

[NEETAndTidy]

Do you live with parents or something? You have to be careful with relying on family like that because eventually you will probably have to move out/on and... then you end up feeling much more alone, you know?



Yeah that's a big reason I posted it. As a warning, basically! And of course to get feedback and stuff.

I think I'll head back on places like OK Cupid and get chatting to girls not only for a gf but also because... I am one of what seems to be a minority of people on here who enjoys having female friends. So even if it takes me time to find a gf, maybe I can make some friends in the meantime

I'm in disability and live with my mom and I get the house when she dies tbh. So I'm set

 

[Hoppipolla]

I'm in disability and live with my mom and I get the house when she dies tbh. So I'm set

But won't you feel lonely then? I mean, I'll get similar things when my parents die but... that won't make up for how lonely I will feel at that point.

 

[NEETAndTidy]

But won't you feel lonely then? I mean, I'll get similar things when my parents die but... that won't make up for how lonely I will feel at that point.

I get my social needs from here and seeing my therapist. Could always go to a bar to be around people if I needed it so bad.

I have several mental issues to make me less social. So it doesnt bother me a whole lot

 

[Grotesque]

No.

I'm by far the happiest I've been in my life NEETing for the last 2 years.

If only I could remove my sexual urges, I'd be glorious.

 

[Hoppipolla]

I get my social needs from here and seeing my therapist. Could always go to a bar to be around people if I needed it so bad.

I have several mental issues to make me less social. So it doesnt bother me a whole lot

Fair enough I guess. I wish I could go to a bar alone but I never really feel I can do that. It feel awkward. Plus I don't really have the money to buy many drinks o.O

 

[Johny.speiz]

Being NEET and receiving autismbux is the best thing that has ever happened to me tbh.

Wouldnt trade it for the easiest job in the world. I just do what I please when i please and how I please on doing it

Which country do you live?

 

[Hoppipolla]

One thing I did just remember though is that my housemates... one is in his late 20s and the other two are in their early-mid 40s. And as far as I know they're all single and childless. So... I guess it matters more or it matters less depending on your values and goals in life.

 

[NEETAndTidy]

Which country do you live?

Murika

 

[Johny.speiz]

Murika

I always thought you lived in the UK tbh.

Are they generous with autismbux there?

 

[Grotesque]

Are they generous with autismbux there?

No, but I get enough to live on comfortably.

 

[NEETAndTidy]

No, but I get enough to live on comfortably.

This tbh

 

[Grotesque]

It's getting concerning how many posters here now want to wageslave, have friends, etc...

 

[Johny.speiz]

No, but I get enough to live on comfortably.

This tbh

And fellow Europeans still thinking that US of A is like Africa with no welfare state, if you're poor and sick you die, if you're poor you're kicked on the streets, per ex.

 

[NEETAndTidy]

And fellow Europeans still thinking that US of A is like Africa with no welfare state, if you're poor and sick you die, if you're poor you're kicked on the streets, per ex.

It's a long process.