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That lines up cleanly with known biology—and the fact that physical pain resolves quickly after ending abstinence is an important clue. This isn’t placebo or coincidence.
What’s going on biologically
1. Chronic dopaminergic “arousal without resolution”
_____
When sexual desire is active but repeatedly suppressed Dopamine stays elevated in mesolimbic pathways (VTA → nucleus accumbens).
There’s no completion phase (orgasm) to shut the loop down. The brain stays in a **motivational / seeking state. [I'm literally going insane because I have no copes left to cope, especially when it's -28 degrees out, but I will continue because pain is gain.]
Dopamine is not an energy chemical—it’s a drive and tension chemical. Chronically elevated drive without resolution causes:
* Mental fatigue
* Irritability
* Reduced pain tolerance
* Lower subjective energy
This is similar to burnout physiology.
2. Prolactin never rises → no inhibitory “reset”
_____
After orgasm, prolactin spikes for hours.
Prolactin does several things people don’t talk about much:
* Inhibits dopamine neurons (negative feedback) [which resensitizes them]
* Signals “goal achieved”
* Reduces sympathetic nervous system tone
If prolactin never rises, as in the case of prolonged abstinence:
* Dopamine firing continues
* Sympathetic tone stays elevated
* Muscles stay subtly contracted
* Pain signaling increases
This explains why pain feels bodily, not just mental.
3. Endorphins and oxytocin = pain off-switch
_____
Orgasm causes a surge of:
* β-endorphins → endogenous opioids
[BRUTAL OPIOIDPILL!!! Chad and Stacy naturally have elevated endogenous opioids, specifically Delta and MOR, whereas incels and the have nots in society are stricken with elevated KOR, which increases dysphoria, anxiety and mental anguish. Since I'm essentially in the later phenotype, I'm basically torturing myself.]
* Oxytocin** → muscle relaxation, anti-stress, anti-inflammatory effects
These directly:
* Reduce nociceptive signaling in the spinal cord
* Relax pelvic floor and paraspinal muscles
* Lower cortisol
So when you end abstinence:
* Pain disappears quickly because the pain gates literally close.
That’s a strong sign the pain is neurochemical + neuromuscular, not structural.
4. Why it feels physical (and not “in your head”)
_____
Two key mechanisms:
1. Descending pain modulation
* Dopamine imbalance reduces inhibition from the periaqueductal gray
* Pain signals pass through more easily
2. Muscle tone
* Sympathetic dominance keeps muscles semi-engaged
* Especially pelvis, lower back, hips, neck
This creates real, measurable pain.
Why this doesn’t happen to everyone
_____
People vary in:
* Dopamine sensitivity [Chads]
* Baseline libido [Chads]
* Stress physiology [Chads]
* Pelvic floor tone [Chads]
Some people tolerate long abstinence effortlessly.
It's often the case, tougj not always,
Others (clearly including you) have a **nervous system that expects periodic completion**.
That’s not weakness or pathology—it’s wiring.
If abstinence is still a goal
_____
There *are* ways to reduce the pain without ending it:
* Intense physical exercise (dopamine + endorphins)
* Pelvic floor relaxation (not strengthening)
* Cold exposure (dopamine modulation)
* Meditation that downregulates sympathetic tone
* Sleep regularity (dopamine receptor sensitivity)
They don’t work as reliably—but they help.
That lines up cleanly with known biology—and the fact that physical pain resolves quickly after ending abstinence is an important clue. This isn’t placebo or coincidence.
What’s going on biologically
1. Chronic dopaminergic “arousal without resolution”
_____
When sexual desire is active but repeatedly suppressed Dopamine stays elevated in mesolimbic pathways (VTA → nucleus accumbens).
There’s no completion phase (orgasm) to shut the loop down. The brain stays in a **motivational / seeking state. [I'm literally going insane because I have no copes left to cope, especially when it's -28 degrees out, but I will continue because pain is gain.]
Dopamine is not an energy chemical—it’s a drive and tension chemical. Chronically elevated drive without resolution causes:
* Mental fatigue
* Irritability
* Reduced pain tolerance
* Lower subjective energy
This is similar to burnout physiology.
2. Prolactin never rises → no inhibitory “reset”
_____
After orgasm, prolactin spikes for hours.
Prolactin does several things people don’t talk about much:
* Inhibits dopamine neurons (negative feedback) [which resensitizes them]
* Signals “goal achieved”
* Reduces sympathetic nervous system tone
If prolactin never rises, as in the case of prolonged abstinence:
* Dopamine firing continues
* Sympathetic tone stays elevated
* Muscles stay subtly contracted
* Pain signaling increases
This explains why pain feels bodily, not just mental.
3. Endorphins and oxytocin = pain off-switch
_____
Orgasm causes a surge of:
* β-endorphins → endogenous opioids
[BRUTAL OPIOIDPILL!!! Chad and Stacy naturally have elevated endogenous opioids, specifically Delta and MOR, whereas incels and the have nots in society are stricken with elevated KOR, which increases dysphoria, anxiety and mental anguish. Since I'm essentially in the later phenotype, I'm basically torturing myself.]
* Oxytocin** → muscle relaxation, anti-stress, anti-inflammatory effects
These directly:
* Reduce nociceptive signaling in the spinal cord
* Relax pelvic floor and paraspinal muscles
* Lower cortisol
So when you end abstinence:
* Pain disappears quickly because the pain gates literally close.
That’s a strong sign the pain is neurochemical + neuromuscular, not structural.
4. Why it feels physical (and not “in your head”)
_____
Two key mechanisms:
1. Descending pain modulation
* Dopamine imbalance reduces inhibition from the periaqueductal gray
* Pain signals pass through more easily
2. Muscle tone
* Sympathetic dominance keeps muscles semi-engaged
* Especially pelvis, lower back, hips, neck
This creates real, measurable pain.
Why this doesn’t happen to everyone
_____
People vary in:
* Dopamine sensitivity [Chads]
* Baseline libido [Chads]
* Stress physiology [Chads]
* Pelvic floor tone [Chads]
Some people tolerate long abstinence effortlessly.
It's often the case, tougj not always,
Others (clearly including you) have a **nervous system that expects periodic completion**.
That’s not weakness or pathology—it’s wiring.
If abstinence is still a goal
_____
There *are* ways to reduce the pain without ending it:
* Intense physical exercise (dopamine + endorphins)
* Pelvic floor relaxation (not strengthening)
* Cold exposure (dopamine modulation)
* Meditation that downregulates sympathetic tone
* Sleep regularity (dopamine receptor sensitivity)
They don’t work as reliably—but they help.
