I'm gonna escortmaxx this week UPDATE

[DukatCel]

So went to see the escort today boyos. Suffice to say it was a complete disaster. Escort was a pretty 25yr Romanian. Couldn't find the flat which was cringe as fuck so she had to direct me.

She could tell I was inexperienced as I was shaking when I was paying her, then I told her I was. She suggested 1/2 hour and I thought fuck it. She then asked me to take off my clothes - I don't think anyone has seen me fully naked. I didn't mind getting undressed, it was a little awkward but not as bad as I thought it was gonna be. She got undressed herself which didn't arouse any feeling at all. She was really fit but I didn't feel anything. She then told me to lie on the bed and got out some wet wipes and a condom. She mentioned the fact I was lying there like I was at the doctors as I was so rigid, and tried to get me to relax. She started to caress my dick which again was awkward as fuck. Absolutory flaccid. She then said that I shouldn't be afraid to touch her so I started touching her leg and ass.

She then put the condom on and started to blow me but I was completely limp, no arousal at all. She started moaning but it didn't help. I told her to stop as it wasn't going anywhere and she sat up and started to rub my belly. Being 240lb and have stretch marks on my body made me awkward, but she said she liked bigger guys JFL. She asked me if I felt confident in myself and I said kinda, that I didn't really know how to answer the question. She then talked for like a minute about how I should love myself .

I thought about going to the toilet to try and get myself up but I left 5 minutes early as it wasn't going anywhere at all.

She then told me that I should try and find a girl in a club, before I try an escort . Tried to talk to me a few times but it was really awkward and I just couldn't answer anyway because I'm retarded.

Drove 90 MPH the whole way home and started fucking screaming because it was so bad.

Fuck me mang I want to push forward and try again but goddamn. I don't care about the money. At least it's given me a taster of what I could have. At least I know I could potentially fuck foids if I want.

I must admit I didn't take viagra as it's prescription only and it didn't arrive in time - maybe it would have made a huge difference...

@ADHD_cel @diedlonely @General Alek @Incel Philosopher @PhilipBlake @Rotter

 

[asdfghjqbbbb]

unlucky brother

maybe there's a classier escort out there who would make you instantly hard

 

[dungeondragon]

What an experience, haha. Can imagine something similar happening to me, the flaccid genitals and lack of arousal. How much did that experience cost? It just sounds so unsexy, so sterile, that it makes me want to either cry or laugh - perhaps both. Will be avoiding at all costs.

 

[ADHD_cel]

She then told me that I should try and find a girl in a club, before I try an escort . Tried to talk to me a few times but it was really awkward and I just couldn't answer anyway because I'm retarded.

Kek when I was younger and less subhuman some escorts would be nice enough to say me “why don’t you have a gf?”. Now that I’m a hopeless ugly oldcel all of them take my visit for granted.

 

[DukatCel]

What an experience, haha. Can imagine something similar happening to me, the flaccid genitals and lack of arousal. How much did that experience cost? It just sounds so unsexy, so sterile, that it makes me want to either cry or laugh - perhaps both. Will be avoiding at all costs.

£80 for half an hour which I thought was very reasonable (IF I could have fucked her). You've described it exactly, very sterile. It's not not I didn't want to but there was just no arousal at all - maybe because it was in an unfamiliar place.

 

[asocialcel]

JFL
I will say she's a good scort, given how she tried to relax you. I think she's actually right you should stripmaxx first

 

[Incedel]

ovER for escortcel,

 

[DukatCel]

Same thing happened to me the first and only time I went to an AMP. It wasnt as scary as I thought getting naked in front of her but maybe it was because I was in shock. I was shaking handing her the money so she knew I was new.

I also couldnt get a boner for some reason and it was really hard to coom which I didnt expect at all. I thought id only last 1 second although it was only a HJ. She ended up jacking me off for like 30 min. It was so awkward and I saw the younger foid staring at me like a freak as I was leaving. I coomed in her eye so im sure they told each other what a weirdo I was.

At least you coomed though mang. She joked and said that as soon as I got home I'd probably get hard which hasn't happened. I'm beginning to think there's something seriously wrong with me JFL

 

[DukatCel]

unlucky brother

maybe there's a classier escort out there who would make you instantly hard

Yeah probably mang. I found her attractive but it was probably the environment + anxiety.

 

[Luzifer]

avg romanian hooker expierince those are the worst of the worst fucking gypsiys

 

[dungeondragon]

£80 for half an hour which I thought was very reasonable (IF I could have fucked her). You've described it exactly, very sterile. It's not not I didn't want to but there was just no arousal at all - maybe because it was in an unfamiliar place.

Reasoning how much is acceptable to spend on sex is quite difficult I can imagine. My main expense is food - spend a little over £50 a month. £80 for half an hour makes me shudder a little, haha.

I don't know. Sterile is an apt word. You go there, hand over the cash, do the preparations, and then she gets to work. I've heard of there existing good escorts who make you feel wanted, special - a personal experience. For the most part however, most escorts make the experience very impersonal - as it is a job. I guess you have to try and make the most of the experience. If you are able to occupy the right mind space in future sessions you may be able to enjoy without worry. Not sure what steps are necessary to get there though.

 

[asdfghjqbbbb]

Yeah probably mang. I found her attractive but it was probably the environment + anxiety.

a swedish escort could be good

 

[IronsideCel]

Pay toilets won’t accept me because I am scary nigger.



over

 

[DukatCel]

JFL
I will say she's a good scort, given how she tried to relax you. I think she's actually right you should stripmaxx first

Yeah I would definitely visit her again if I knew I could get hard. She said that she won't see me again, because my experience was so bad, but if anything it's made me more determined to do it again.

 

[DukatCel]

Pay toilets won’t accept me because I am scary nigger.



over

Yeah I saw that - loads here don't accept niggers - I don't know why. Maybe because they think you'll just kill her afterwards

 

[Incel Philosopher]

She could tell I was inexperienced as I was shaking when I was paying her, then I told her I was. She suggested 1/2 hour and I thought fuck it. She then asked me to take off my clothes - I don't think anyone has seen me fully naked. I didn't mind getting undressed, it was a little awkward but not as bad as I thought it was gonna be. She got undressed herself which didn't arouse any feeling at all. She was really fit but I didn't feel anything. She then told me to lie on the bed and got out some wet wipes and a condom. She mentioned the fact I was lying there like I was at the doctors as I was so rigid, and tried to get me to relax. She started to caress my dick which again was awkward as fuck. Absolutory flaccid. She then said that I shouldn't be afraid to touch her so I started touching her leg and ass.

My first time was almost the same. So awkward. Although on my first time I managed to get half-erect for like 1 minute and I penetrated her so I technically lost my virginity. But even if you manage to get aroused it's so difficult to stay hard once you put on the condom. Condoms are fucking horrible.

Drove 90 MPH the whole way home and started fucking screaming because it was so bad.

Fuck me mang I want to push forward and try again but goddamn. I don't care about the money. At least it's given me a taster of what I could have. At least I know I could potentially fuck foids if I want.

That's the spirit. You can also try going to a poorer country for escorting, it can be a lot more affordable.

 

[DukatCel]

Reasoning how much is acceptable to spend on sex is quite difficult I can imagine. My main expense is food - spend a little over £50 a month. £80 for half an hour makes me shudder a little, haha.

I don't know. Sterile is an apt word. You go there, hand over the cash, do the preparations, and then she gets to work. I've heard of there existing good escorts who make you feel wanted, special - a personal experience. For the most part however, most escorts make the experience very impersonal - as it is a job. I guess you have to try and make the most of the experience. If you are able to occupy the right mind space in future sessions you may be able to enjoy without worry. Not sure what steps are necessary to get there though.

Yeah I'd have to agree about mindset. As JFL as it was just lying there naked while she talks to me about mindset, I have to agree. I guess if they made it more personal I'd know it was fake so it probably wouldn't work anyway. I'm up for trying it though.

tbh the cost is not important. To me if I get to experience something that other people get everyday then I don't mind paying. Just pissed off that I'm sat here with a limp dick and nothing to show for £80

 

[Copexodius Maximus]

It’s completely over for you.

 

[DukatCel]

My first time was almost the same. So awkward. Although on my first time I managed to get half-erect for like 1 minute and I penetrated her so I technically lost my virginity. But even if you manage to get aroused it's so difficult to stay hard once you put on the condom. Condoms are fucking horrible.


That's the spirit. You can also try going to a poorer country for escorting, it can be a lot more affordable.

Yeah the condom sucked. But she was struggling with her fingers on my bare cock as well so I don't think it made any difference overall. Tbh I'd rather pay more and drive 20-30 mins than go abroad. I'd of probably had the same experience the first time anyway wherever I did it.

 

[DukatCel]

a swedish escort could be good

I'm willing to do more sessions to see if it was just the escort I was with - maybe I didn't actually find her that attractive.

 

[DukatCel]

avg romanian hooker expierince those are the worst of the worst fucking gypsiys

She wasn't too bad tbh. Very average looking because no makeup. Had a good body but goddamn I couldn't get hard to save my life.

 

[DukatCel]

It’s completely over for you.

Nah I refuse to be beaten. I accept that no foids will ever show any genuine interest in me. But I refuse to give up when I could potentially fuck as many foids as I want, when I want.

 

[dungeondragon]

Yeah I'd have to agree about mindset. As JFL as it was just lying there naked while she talks to me about mindset, I have to agree. I guess if they made it more personal I'd know it was fake so it probably wouldn't work anyway. I'm up for trying it though.

tbh the cost is not important. To me if I get to experience something that other people get everyday then I don't mind paying. Just pissed off that I'm sat here with a limp dick and nothing to show for £80

I've been looking for tips on what one should do before seeing an escort, but little useful info. They just talk about hygiene, treat her with respect (she is just as nervous as you are! ) and make sure to tip well (may be for the US escorts).

Someone recommended drinking a cocktail or two before to remove any jitters or anxiety. Are you comfortable with alcohol? Some also recommend letting the escort know about your anxiety and spending extra time doing foreplay with oil(?) or just chatting with each other before jumping straight into it. This whole thing seems a pain, haha. The prospect of having plenty of sex whenever you want does sound appealing however. Best not to overthink things.

 

[DukatCel]

I've been looking for tips on what one should do before seeing an escort, but little useful info. They just talk about hygiene, treat her with respect (she is just as nervous as you are! ) and make sure to tip well (may be for the US escorts).

Someone recommended drinking a cocktail or two before to remove any jitters or anxiety. Are you comfortable with alcohol? Some also recommend letting the escort know about your anxiety and spending extra time doing foreplay with oil(?) or just chatting with each other before jumping straight into it. This whole thing seems a pain, haha. The prospect of having plenty of sex whenever you want does sound appealing however. Best not to overthink things.

Yeah I considered drinking before hand as I found it kills most of my anxiety but I didn't want to turn up pissed as you'd get refused.

Tbh I think foreplay would have helped but I never asked. The chatting was nice but still didn't help unfortunately. I'm willing to keep working on it though. It was easier than I thought and I didn't get rejected or have any disdainful looks which was good.

I think most of us here over think things

Just wasn't my day today. Probably just a mixture of things meant it just wasn't meant to be. Seeing how easy it was though, it's the first time I've got excited about something in ages

 

[fukurou]

I think a 1st time escort visit should be kissing and handholding only.
I jumped into the deep ends the first time, and the need to cum under a timer took out the some of the fun.

 

[Copexodius Maximus]

Nah I refuse to be beaten. I accept that no foids will ever show any genuine interest in me. But I refuse to give up when I could potentially fuck as many foids as I want, when I want.

You were being spergy af with her jfl.

 

[DukatCel]

I think a 1st time escort visit should be kissing and handholding only.
I jumped into the deep ends the first time, and the need to cum under a timer took out the some of the fun.

Yeah I'm thinking just asking for kissing and some foreplay for my next time. The 30 mins passed fucking quickly, which wouldn't be a problem if I could have at least fucked her

 

[DukatCel]

You were being spergy af with her jfl.

That's the problem. Potentially might become less spergy with some experience tbh. I'd rather be spergy as fuck and be able to fuck though

 

[Copexodius Maximus]

That's the problem. Potentially might become less spergy with some experience tbh. I'd rather be spergy as fuck and be able to fuck though

Fair enough

 

[IronsideCel]

Yeah I saw that - loads here don't accept niggers - I don't know why. Maybe because they think you'll just kill her afterwards

always a shietbag nigger messing it up for us good niggers jfl...




it's fucking over

 

[diedlonely]

So went to see the escort today boyos. Suffice to say it was a complete disaster. Escort was a pretty 25yr Romanian. Couldn't find the flat which was cringe as fuck so she had to direct me.

Cut yourself some slack, it’s not like you were familiar with the area lmao, happens to the best of us even though we have “smart” phones and all the shite.

She could tell I was inexperienced as I was shaking when I was paying her, then I told her I was. She suggested 1/2 hour and I thought fuck it. She then asked me to take off my clothes - I don't think anyone has seen me fully naked. I didn't mind getting undressed, it was a little awkward but not as bad as I thought it was gonna be. She got undressed herself which didn't arouse any feeling at all. She was really fit but I didn't feel anything. She then told me to lie on the bed and got out some wet wipes and a condom. She mentioned the fact I was lying there like I was at the doctors as I was so rigid, and tried to get me to relax. She started to caress my dick which again was awkward as fuck. Absolutory flaccid. She then said that I shouldn't be afraid to touch her so I started touching her leg and ass.

It’s only natural that you would be nervous as it’s you first time and all. Breathing exercises work well in situations like that, preferably before entering the staging area (room). I’d probably be shitting bricks too, which areas did she wipe? Don’t want someone going near my anus.

She then put the condom on and started to blow me but I was completely limp, no arousal at all. She started moaning but it didn't help. I told her to stop as it wasn't going anywhere and she sat up and started to rub my belly. Being 240lb and have stretch marks on my body made me awkward, but she said she liked bigger guys JFL. She asked me if I felt confident in myself and I said kinda, that I didn't really know how to answer the question. She then talked for like a minute about how I should love myself .

I hate when people say “jUsT lOvE yOuRsElF”. Like you cheeky bitch, you think I haven’t thought of that?

Anyways seems like the situation was all too much for you and your brain wasn’t sending the signal that you needed to get aroused. But atleast you’ve exposed yourself to that environment now and know the emotions you were feeling in that moment. Just reflect on that and try to mitigate that feeling next time you try.

You’d be suprised even watching high production porn as soon as I can tell she trying a bit too much with the moans I get no enjoyment from it. Sounds like she definitely would have been disappointed to meet 5’8” 70kg me if she likes big guys.

I thought about going to the toilet to try and get myself up but I left 5 minutes early as it wasn't going anywhere at all.

She then told me that I should try and find a girl in a club, before I try an escort . Tried to talk to me a few times but it was really awkward and I just couldn't answer anyway because I'm retarded.

Again a bit of a retarded thing for her to say. She should have known that no one ever plans to go to an escort as the first option. It’s always the last resort.

Fuck me mang I want to push forward and try again but goddamn. I don't care about the money. At least it's given me a taster of what I could have. At least I know I could potentially fuck foids if I want.

Yeah you should try again soon. Maybe a week or two after.

I must admit I didn't take viagra as it's prescription only and it didn't arrive in time - maybe it would have made a huge difference...

Ahhh shit, didn’t know it was prescription only. No wonder there are a bunch of off brand options for sale on Amazon.

 

[Jeffery Epstein]

A pump or viagra might help with the limp dick problem. It is not uncommon for the first time to bad because you are nervous and uncertain of what to expect.

 

[Praise the Sun]

Did you masturbate before the visit?
If so, I definitely recommend to not masturbate at least 2 days before the escort visit so you are horny enough to not mind the shitty service and condoms.

 

[DukatCel]

Cut yourself some slack, it’s not like you were familiar with the area lmao, happens to the best of us even though we have “smart” phones and all the shite.



It’s only natural that you would be nervous as it’s you first time and all. Breathing exercises work well in situations like that, preferably before entering the staging area (room). I’d probably be shitting bricks too, which areas did she wipe? Don’t want someone going near my anus.



I hate when people say “jUsT lOvE yOuRsElF”. Like you cheeky bitch, you think I haven’t thought of that?

Anyways seems like the situation was all too much for you and your brain wasn’t sending the signal that you needed to get aroused. But atleast you’ve exposed yourself to that environment now and know the emotions you were feeling in that moment. Just reflect on that and try to mitigate that feeling next time you try.

You’d be suprised even watching high production porn as soon as I can tell she trying a bit too much with the moans I get no enjoyment from it. Sounds like she definitely would have been disappointed to meet 5’8” 70kg me if she likes big guys.



Again a bit of a retarded thing for her to say. She should have known that no one ever plans to go to an escort as the first option. It’s always the last resort.



Yeah you should try again soon. Maybe a week or two after.



Ahhh shit, didn’t know it was prescription only. No wonder there are a bunch of off brand options for sale on Amazon.

Just wiped my dick, although I did shower before hand. Same though, just wanted a simple vanilla experience no anus shit. The more I think about it, the more I'm not surprised it happened. I suppose you just don't know how you're going to react until you're actually put in the situation, which I'm glad I experienced, even if it was really embarrassing. I think if I was aroused then the moans might have been better but since there was none it was just really awkward.

She did look at me a couple of times when I got undressed but seemed quite chill. I think I was just shocked by the fact that she didn't appear disgusted at all, even if it was fake it was nice that she tried to be accommodating. It didn't seem to matter to this escort about body or face, though I've heard it varies. I suppose you're paying her so she has to be nice to you otherwise you probably wouldn't go back.

She had to think for a couple of seconds when I told her I was inexperienced, and then said she has seen a few clients who had the same problem of shyness etc. She said "why did you come to an escort? Do you have a girlfriend?" but I couldn't explain that I can't get girls outside so just said that I'd like the option of sex when I want.

I dunno about trying that soon mang. I've been feeling very on and off with the arousal lately and thought that going to see one might help but it's had the complete opposite effect JFL.

It's prescription only in the UK but very easy to fill out a couple of questions online and get one. And then you can get it delivered as well. I think they have Viagra Connect which is over the counter but it's more expensive.

 

[DukatCel]

A pump or viagra might help with the limp dick problem. It is not uncommon for the first time to bad because you are nervous and uncertain of what to expect.

I jumped the gun and visited the escort before my Viagra arrived, against what ADHD_cel suggested. I should have followed the advise of a seasoned escortmaxxer - from what I've read lots of people have used Viagra on there first go, as it apparently helps with the anxiety. I'm going to take some when it arrives as a test to see how I react.

 

[DukatCel]

Did you masturbate before the visit?
If so, I definitely recommend to not masturbate at least 2 days before the escort visit so you are horny enough to not mind the shitty service and condoms.

No I purposefully didn't masturbate for three days in preparation but it has seemed to have the opposite effect. I also stopped porn for those three days but again, it's made it worse. I've felt really off for about five days now, not been bothered at all with watching porn. So my current state + anxiety about the situation just pushed my mind over the edge. I thought the escort would kick me back to normal, but it unfortunately has not.

I 100% agree with being horny enough. Normally I'm low inhib so I usually masturbate 2-3 times a day, horny throughout the day etc. So fucking her wouldn't have been a problem but was just not feeling it. I had real trouble using my fleshlight the other day, so I dunno. Maybe I'm starting to get death grip.

 

[Praise the Sun]

No I purposefully didn't masturbate for three days in preparation but it has seemed to have the opposite effect. I also stopped porn for those three days but again, it's made it worse. I've felt really off for about five days now, not been bothered at all with watching porn. So my current state + anxiety about the situation just pushed my mind over the edge. I thought the escort would kick me back to normal, but it unfortunately has not.

I 100% agree with being horny enough. Normally I'm low inhib so I usually masturbate 2-3 times a day, horny throughout the day etc. So fucking her wouldn't have been a problem but was just not feeling it. I had real trouble using my fleshlight the other day, so I dunno. Maybe I'm starting to get death grip.

In that case I can only recommend NoFap for a longer time. I've also had death grip symptoms in the past.

 

[AutisticMonstrosity]

So went to see the escort today boyos. Suffice to say it was a complete disaster. Escort was a pretty 25yr Romanian. Couldn't find the flat which was cringe as fuck so she had to direct me.

She could tell I was inexperienced as I was shaking when I was paying her, then I told her I was. She suggested 1/2 hour and I thought fuck it. She then asked me to take off my clothes - I don't think anyone has seen me fully naked. I didn't mind getting undressed, it was a little awkward but not as bad as I thought it was gonna be. She got undressed herself which didn't arouse any feeling at all. She was really fit but I didn't feel anything. She then told me to lie on the bed and got out some wet wipes and a condom. She mentioned the fact I was lying there like I was at the doctors as I was so rigid, and tried to get me to relax. She started to caress my dick which again was awkward as fuck. Absolutory flaccid. She then said that I shouldn't be afraid to touch her so I started touching her leg and ass.

She then put the condom on and started to blow me but I was completely limp, no arousal at all. She started moaning but it didn't help. I told her to stop as it wasn't going anywhere and she sat up and started to rub my belly. Being 240lb and have stretch marks on my body made me awkward, but she said she liked bigger guys JFL. She asked me if I felt confident in myself and I said kinda, that I didn't really know how to answer the question. She then talked for like a minute about how I should love myself .

I thought about going to the toilet to try and get myself up but I left 5 minutes early as it wasn't going anywhere at all.

She then told me that I should try and find a girl in a club, before I try an escort . Tried to talk to me a few times but it was really awkward and I just couldn't answer anyway because I'm retarded.

Drove 90 MPH the whole way home and started fucking screaming because it was so bad.

Fuck me mang I want to push forward and try again but goddamn. I don't care about the money. At least it's given me a taster of what I could have. At least I know I could potentially fuck foids if I want.

I must admit I didn't take viagra as it's prescription only and it didn't arrive in time - maybe it would have made a huge difference...

@ADHD_cel @diedlonely @General Alek @Incel Philosopher @PhilipBlake @Rotter

you still young, aren't you? "a complete disaster"? i don't think so!!!! you had a good luck that the girl was nice and not rude and/or indifferent and did not tell you that the time was up after 10 minutes of trying even though you had 30 minutes. a good luck escpecially concerning that you went with a Romanian/Moldovan, who almost all are trafficked, forced, do not like to be prostitutes, unlike most other european women, who choose to be escorts out of their own will. at least in finland the rule is to completely avoid Romanians who almost always are Moldovans, not Romanians and without permit to stay in the country. That's why the Moldovans don't want to say their nationality and lie when they have to, because they get much less customers if they do not lie about their nationality. where did this occurr?

 

[DukatCel]

In that case I can only recommend NoFap for a longer time. I've also had death grip symptoms in the past.

How long would you recommend? A common amount of time I've seen is 1-2 weeks. Did it reduce the death grip?

 

[DukatCel]

you still young, aren't you? "a complete disaster"? i don't think so!!!! you had a good luck that the girl was nice and not rude and/or indifferent and did not tell you that the time was up after 10 minutes of trying even though you had 30 minutes. a good luck escpecially concerning that you went with a Romanian/Moldovan, who almost all are trafficked, forced, do not like to be prostitutes, unlike most other european women, who choose to be escorts out of their own will. at least in finland the rule is to completely avoid Romanians who almost always are Moldovans, not Romanians and without permit to stay in the country. That's why the Moldovans don't want to say their nationality and lie when they have to, because they get much less customers if they do not lie about their nationality. where did this occurr?

Yeah could have been worse. The flat was nice and the area wasn't too bad. Average city area. She had lots of reviews which was good.

AFAIK it's impossible to tell between Romanian and Moldovan anyway, unless you know the accents - aren't they both Romanian ethnically?

I'm in the UK

 

[Twinkcel]

It’s funny how the girl put more effort into it than you.

 

[DukatCel]

It’s funny how the girl put more effort into it than you.

I know. There was a girl literally in front of me who I could've fucked but I just lead there like I was on an examination table. If I was aroused I could have definitely done a lot more or tried to do alot more but I think I knew 5 mins in that nothing was gonna happen. Just wasn't feeling it mang.

 

[Praise the Sun]

How long would you recommend? A common amount of time I've seen is 1-2 weeks. Did it reduce the death grip?

I would say after 2-3 weeks you have reached a healthy amount of horniness and can easily masturbate normally again or go to an escort.

 

[diedlonely]

Any update @DukatCel ?

 

[DukatCel]

Any update @DukatCel ?

Not yet. I've passed my 2 week mark of abstaining from masturbation and I added no porn into the mix. My libido has dropped right down as a result so I think I'll have to give it some extra time before it gets back to normal.

Whether it's PIED or anxiety or a combination of both I don't know. In general I feel alot better after these two weeks so I think it's just a matter of time.

When I feel like I'm somewhat back to normal I'll go and see an escort again. I know at the moment I'm not ready. I'll probably ease myself in with a GFE or something so that I get used to being around women - I think that's half the issue tbh.

It's all positive though. If it's my only option I'm willing to do all I can to make sure I can take advantage. I'll make another thread if anything significant happens.

 

[decembrist_kirillov]

escortceldom turned into pscyh advice jfl

 

[diedlonely]

Not yet. I've passed my 2 week mark of abstaining from masturbation and I added no porn into the mix. My libido has dropped right down as a result so I think I'll have to give it some extra time before it gets back to normal.

Whether it's PIED or anxiety or a combination of both I don't know. In general I feel alot better after these two weeks so I think it's just a matter of time.

When I feel like I'm somewhat back to normal I'll go and see an escort again. I know at the moment I'm not ready. I'll probably ease myself in with a GFE or something so that I get used to being around women - I think that's half the issue tbh.

It's all positive though. If it's my only option I'm willing to do all I can to make sure I can take advantage. I'll make another thread if anything significant happens.

I thought libido was meant was to rise after abstaining. I usually just abstain from wacking off but still look at stuff, maybe that’s why it doesn’t work for me.

Surely you know yourself the best so you take the time you need also I don’t know why but it feels like a massage place would be a good place to ease yourself in again, atleast to get accustomed to touch.

Alright mate, tag me in the new thread if you want! Good luck.

 

[REEject]

Man, I relate with everything that you've said. Our experiences sound similar, so maybe this can help you. I've escortmaxxed 3 times so far, I'm 28 years old.

The first time, I took an anti-anxiety pill, which helped calm me down a little, and I thought being touch starved, never seeing a girl's naked body IRL before in my life would make me get a raging boner as soon as I saw her. But that was not the case. I found her extremely attractive, she tried everything to get me hard, like in your case, but nothing, I was laying there with a very hot girl and a very limp dick, being angry at myself that for the first time ever a foid was ready to open her legs for me, and I couldn't get hard. Also, I'm a poorcel, so I felt like I wasted lot of money just to get humiliated. I took this worse than you did, your reaction seems very mature.

I then researched Viagra, and found that it helps a lot with anxiety induced ED. I got it, and booked with the same escort, around 6 months after the first encounter. I hadn't fapped for 5 days in preparation.

She was really good at foreplay, like the first time, but this time I was on Viagra, so I got a boner very soon.
The sucking and fucking was great, but at the end I couldn't cum to save my life. And as she was switching hands every 10 seconds from being tired, it made me not able to cum even more. So that encounter ended without me cumming JFL.
My theory is that even though I was hard from Viagra, I was still getting fucked by anxiety which made it impossible to cum. Also, only cooming to very specific porn when masturbating didn't help either.

The third time was with a different escort, and even though she was hot, and I was on Viagra again, it took me like 20 mins to get a boner. She wasn't really doing much in terms of foreplay, so I had to direct her.
This time I came but just before the time was up. Still took longer than I thought it would since this time I hadn't fapped for 8 days.

TLDR - My advice is: Research Viagra, see if it's safe for you to take. If it is, definitely do it, and don't mix it with alcohol or other drugs. Limit porn as much as you can beforehand, don't masturbate for several days, get an escort who is good at foreplay (You still need to get horny for Viagra to work). For me, for example, getting my thighs massaged with oil gets me hard (with Viagra).

Good luck, brocel.

 

[DukatCel]

I thought libido was meant was to rise after abstaining. I usually just abstain from wacking off but still look at stuff, maybe that’s why it doesn’t work for me.

Surely you know yourself the best so you take the time you need also I don’t know why but it feels like a massage place would be a good place to ease yourself in again, atleast to get accustomed to touch.

Alright mate, tag me in the new thread if you want! Good luck.

When I have abstained in the past it does massively increase libido but since I have cut porn as well I think I've entered into a dopamine deficit. I have all the symptoms associated with a flatline so apparently it will come back on its own, just have to wait.

I agree with easing in, I think you never know how you react to situations until you actually get put in one, and the idea of how you'd react in your mind almost never comes true. In the case of foids, I never really thought of escorts as an option so I guess I never mentally prepared myself for ever finding myself in that situation.

Onwards and upwards brocel. I'll tag you if anything worthy happens for a thread.

 

[DukatCel]

Man, I relate with everything that you've said. Our experiences sound similar, so maybe this can help you. I've escortmaxxed 3 times so far, I'm 28 years old.

The first time, I took an anti-anxiety pill, which helped calm me down a little, and I thought being touch starved, never seeing a girl's naked body IRL before in my life would make me get a raging boner as soon as I saw her. But that was not the case. I found her extremely attractive, she tried everything to get me hard, like in your case, but nothing, I was laying there with a very hot girl and a very limp dick, being angry at myself that for the first time ever a foid was ready to open her legs for me, and I couldn't get hard. Also, I'm a poorcel, so I felt like I wasted lot of money just to get humiliated. I took this worse than you did, your reaction seems very mature.

I think it's a combination of anxiety and PIED - since the only stimulation you get is with yourself and on-screen sex, your brain really struggles to get you going when the real thing happens. I was contemplating watching porn before I saw her and asked her towards the end if I could use the toilet to try and get myself hard. Also because we tend to be anxious people from our years of shit, so new surroundings etc can really be a mood killer. I feel the same about the wasted money, but as time has gone on I've seen it as a test of what would really happen if you were in that situation - in that respect I'm glad I spent the money, got humiliated and failed, so I could see what worked and what didn't.

I then researched Viagra, and found that it helps a lot with anxiety induced ED. I got it, and booked with the same escort, around 6 months after the first encounter. I hadn't fapped for 5 days in preparation.

Yeah I'm going to book the same one probably as I know who she is and where she is, should help with the anxiety related stuff. Did you book any extra time from your first visit with her?

She was really good at foreplay, like the first time, but this time I was on Viagra, so I got a boner very soon.
The sucking and fucking was great, but at the end I couldn't cum to save my life. And as she was switching hands every 10 seconds from being tired, it made me not able to cum even more. So that encounter ended without me cumming JFL.
My theory is that even though I was hard from Viagra, I was still getting fucked by anxiety which made it impossible to cum. Also, only cooming to very specific porn when masturbating didn't help either.

I've read some conflicting things about Viagra, some say it worked wonders and others say it only works if you're aroused. I took some the other day just to see how I would have reacted, but since I wasn't aroused, it didn't do anything for me. When it comes time to try again, I will take some for good measure, hopefully then if I got hard it should stay that way. JFL when the anxiety kicks in you just know you won't be able to finish.

The third time was with a different escort, and even though she was hot, and I was on Viagra again, it took me like 20 mins to get a boner. She wasn't really doing much in terms of foreplay, so I had to direct her.
This time I came but just before the time was up. Still took longer than I thought it would since this time I hadn't fapped for 8 days.

TLDR - My advice is: Research Viagra, see if it's safe for you to take. If it is, definitely do it, and don't mix it with alcohol or other drugs. Limit porn as much as you can beforehand, don't masturbate for several days, get an escort who is good at foreplay (You still need to get horny for Viagra to work). For me, for example, getting my thighs massaged with oil gets me hard (with Viagra).

I would say if it took you that long AND you took Viagra AND she was hot then it was definitely anxiety related. Yeah I've realised after doing PMO for about 15 days now how much Porn has fucked everything up for me. I feel much less anxious in general, although whether that will translate to escorting I don't know. I agree with the foreplay, I think that will go a long way to making the situation more comfortable and relaxed. When I think about it, it was very mechanical, whereas I if I spent some time touching or kissing it would really help.

Good luck, brocel.

Thanks mang. Gonna try again soon when my libido returns, even if I fail again it'll be good experience. How far apart were your times - did you go recently with your last escort?