Venting I want the motivation to change my life. But how?

[Caesercel]

When I was a bluepilled teenager I used to have a lot of motivation. I wanted to do something big. I thought if I followed the right path the world will be at my feet. And eventually I may get a foid(JFL).

But after 4+ years of almost LDAR I've lost all motivation. Many great opportunities lost and doors closed. Can feel the body weakening and the mind deteriorating. Certainly past my peak in looks and youth(which was never that great to begin with).

Now stuck with this mediocre job, the future looks bleak. All I think about are past regrets. The fact that I am still a virgin, still a nobody. While others have moved on with their lives. The things I have missed that I couldn't make up for.

The copes are failing as well. Even exercise only works as a temporary distraction. I can play vidya or watch anime, but that bluepilled voice back in the head always tells me to stop wasting time and push forward to change things. Ruins all the copes.

I want to believe that things could get better if I do something. But I don't know what, and I can't bring myself to lift a finger. Its like I am stuck and there is no way out.

There's only so much one can do to objectively change one's situation, we can only find ways to cope with it better. But I don't want to just cope.

 

[Deleted member 20790]

I recommend mastering your own self. Exterminate any and all addictions you have holding you back. Nofap, excess sugar and sweet foods, smoking, etc etc. Its something to work towards at least, once you beat all those addictions if you find life is still not any better on the mountain top then simply descend back down. Still plenty of time to do these things

 

[Deleted member 8353]

Rotting for so many years has sapped nearly all the motivation and energy that I had remaining.

but that bluepilled voice back in the head always tells me to stop wasting time and push forward to change things. Ruins all the copes.

Yeah, that's why I've claimed that hope actually makes you feel worse rather than better. If you don't believe that your situation can change, then the only path forward (other than suicide) is trying to be content with your life. I was sort of like this at one point, but then I realized that what I want doesn't even exist, and the amount of time it would take me to change anything would be more effort than it's worth.

I could tell you that you need to try and eliminate your desires if you can't fulfill them, but that's extremely easier said than done.

 

[Caesercel]

I recommend mastering your own self. Exterminate any and all addictions you have holding you back. Nofap, excess sugar and sweet foods, smoking, etc etc. Its something to work towards at least, once you beat all those addictions if you find life is still not any better on the mountain top then simply descend back down. Still plenty of time to do these things

I don't have many addictions. Financial condition, general laziness and lack of motivation which has become part of me after 4 years,wasting time in front of a screen, social anxiety and cluelessness are some things holding me back.

 

[taloh]

but that bluepilled voice back in the head always tells me to stop wasting time and push forward to change things.

I dont have a bluepilled voice

 

[Deleted member 27495]

Same, but I look in the mirror and realize that is never happening.

 

[Caesercel]

what I want doesn't even exist, and the amount of time it would take me to change anything would be more effort than it's worth.

Good observation. I kind of feel the same.

is trying to be content with your life.

As you said. Its not that easy.

 

[Sportbro]

same position,if you try to get real life advice (from therapy,friends,relatives) you would just get bombarded with bluepilled advice
i dont think there is a realistic exit

 

[Transcended Trucel]

Find a religion and religious cope towards the essence of divinity and beyond

 

[Caesercel]

Find a religion and religious cope towards the essence of divinity and beyond

Religious cope is good. But there doesn't seem to be an endgoal