Venting I should of passport bromaxxed when I turned 18.

[Shinichi]

I’m currently 27 right now, as previously posted, and going on a trip to the Dominican Republic with my old man to get laid. Recently, I have been a lot more on eggs than I ever have before. I have these intense feelings of depression and anxiety stemming from the fact that I am close to turning 30 and still no girlfriend. I try to do some exes shit beforehand a year or two ago and I had a bad experience. I’m pretty sure I posted it on the form, but it really didn’t go as expected and I kind of cooled off on that for a while. I Jim acted a bit lost some weight and I actually on ironically feel healthier physically now but ever since this summer started I’ve been starting to gradually feel more and more depressed about a lot of stuff. I felt this way before though back in college. In my seventh semester as an undergrad I really stopped giving a shit about some classes and ended up fucking up my GPA. I was really close to getting something about a 3.5 but I just couldn’t muster any energy because I just felt so trapped and isolated. I never straight up, approached a girl, but I’ve been subtly denied by a bunch of women during that time to the point where my self-esteem was dog shit. The only thing that really gave me energy was that the next semester I had was when Covid began and I along with. I’m sure many of you forgot about my inceldom for a little. Fast-forward five years now and the one girl that I’ve made a direct approached with ending up accepting my offer to get coffee, then standing me up when I try to meet up with her. They had really did fuck up a part of my life trajectory and I still see that girl at my job at times. I posted about that whole incident over two years ago, but it was bad. So bad that she actually felt bad and try to become my friend, but I still avoid her like the plague. At this point, I’m really am pinning all my hopes on sleeping with a bunch of Afro Latina chicks on the cheap over my trip over there. There might be a chance that having physical touch in positive sexual experience with multiple women over there will give me the emotional and spiritual reboot. I need to keep going. But damn I do really wish I did this earlier in my life that way it wouldn’t seem dire. If I did the same thing I played right now when I was 18 with my old man, I think I would’ve had a completely different life path than I do right now.

 

[Ryo_Hazuki]

I have been a lot more on eggs than I ever have before.

I try to do some exes shit

I Jim acted a bit

on ironically feel healthier

....looks like speech to text still has a long ways to go.

Also good thing I know you use that, otherwise that second quote could have gotten you in trouble.

 

[Shinichi]

....looks like speech to text still has a long ways to go.

Also good thing I know you use that, otherwise that second quote could have gotten you in trouble.

Oh fuck. I didn’t even catch that. Thanks man.

 

[Ryo_Hazuki]

Fast-forward five years now and the one girl that I’ve made a direct approached with ending up accepting my offer to get coffee, then standing me up when I try to meet up with her

Same thing happened to me with a few women many years ago. A lot of women do this because it's easier for them to agree to a date then just flake out or stand you up rather than tell you "no" directly. Some women will reject you directly, some even harshly, but a lot are just really non-confrontational, so they reject guys indirectly like this.

Some guys end up thinking they "messed up" or "blew it" but the reality is they never had a chance to begin with. She agreed to the date knowing she's going to flake out or stand you up (because she never had any interest or intention) because that was the easier option for her. Some guys just can't accept that though. I've known a few incels in real life who I tried to explain this to but they couldn't accept it.

This is probably the main reason why some guys get labeled creeps and stalkers. A woman will reject a guy indirectly, but the guy doesn't understand or can't accept it.

>Guy asks out girl
>Girl agrees to date
>Girl flakes out
>Guy asks why
>Girl makes up excuse
>Guy believes her, asks her out again
>she makes up another excuse like "i'm just so busy these days"
>Guy believes her, waits a while, and tries again
>Girl thinks "omg this creep is stalking me"

I've seen this play out multiple times. Even when I was young, I always knew this was an indirect rejection, so I never made the mistake of asking out a girl multiple times, but I've known guys it's happened to. I've also known women who did this. I remember this happening with a girl in my social circle many years ago. She complained that this "creep" was "stalking her" by constantly asking her out. Then when I asked for more details she admitted to agreeing to dates then flaking out and making excuses. I told her she could put a stop to it by rejecting him directly in no uncertain detail, but she of course didn't want to hear that. She also had this idea that the guy KNEW she wanted nothing to do with him and was doing it just to bother her, but I sort of knew the guy who was asking her out (though more of an acquaintance than a friend) and he was really just a clueless, naive bluepilled guy.

These situations could easily be avoided if women were more direct or men were more blackpilled.

But the worst of the worst are the hardcore redpillers who insist these rejections are just "shit tests" and that if you accept them for what they are (indirect rejections) you "failed the shit test". This is straight up malicious advice.