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Venting I really need advise. I can’t bring myself to study or work (please read below about my situation)

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How can I study something at university when I don’t have motivation to bring my self to study at all. It kills me. I mean I have to either study or work. I hate myself for wasting the last 5 years getting a degree in something unemployable. The thought of doing another degree again from zero makes me wanna jump. All the effort I put into my current degree will go to waste, and I’ll have to repay tuition. What makes it worse is that I just no longer have that spark in me. I can’t bring myself to study. I really need help as I’m in a lot of pain.
 
What trade did you learn ? Is it lucrative?
I haven’t learned any trades yet but I’m going to apply to a trade school since I failed college twice at this point.

I don’t know what trades I want to learn yet, it’ll probably be welding or HVAC most likely.
 
ow can I study something at university when I don’t have motivation to bring my self to study at all.
You treat yourself after you have studied successfully and it becomes something natural. Like a reflex. After a long studying session I go out for a hike or buy myself some sweets.
As for actually unassing yourself and studying just sit in a library where others are also doing the same. It is important that you do not study near your pc.
 
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I haven’t learned any trades yet but I’m going to apply to a trade school since I failed college twice at this point.

I don’t know what trades I want to learn yet, it’ll probably be welding or HVAC most likely.
What were u studying at college
 
You treat yourself after you have studied successfully and it becomes something natural. Like a reflex. After a long studying session I go out for a hike or buy myself some sweets.
As for actually unassing yourself and studying just sit in a library where others are also doing the same. It is important that you do not study near your pc.
I can’t sit in a library cause I see girls and couples then I feel immense soul crushing sadness/anger and spiral out of control on the inside. Going to classes is difficult on its own. It’s over.
 
I can’t sit in a library cause I see girls and couples then I feel immense soul crushing sadness/anger and spiral out of control on the inside. Going to classes is difficult on its own. It’s over.
I just space out when I am at the library, if the couples are loud (and most times they are) I make it a personal mission of mine to tell them to shut the fuck up. It fills my soul with joy to make their fun time a shit time.
 
How can I study something at university when I don’t have motivation to bring my self to study at all. It kills me. I mean I have to either study or work. I hate myself for wasting the last 5 years getting a degree in something unemployable. The thought of doing another degree again from zero makes me wanna jump. All the effort I put into my current degree will go to waste, and I’ll have to repay tuition. What makes it worse is that I just no longer have that spark in me. I can’t bring myself to study. I really need help as I’m in a lot of pain.
Do it first thing in the morning. Can’t use your phone at all until you finish today’s work.
 
That’s how I felt with my major last semester. I wouldn’t study as much and skipped a lot because I just hated my classes. I changed my major this semester basically restarting and I feel much better about classes.
 

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