Serious I really have problems with the concept of confidence

[AshamedVirgin34]

As an incel, I hate confident people and I also don't want to be confident because I don't want to be similar to those confident women I dislike. I'm not confident, I never was, not even when I was a child, I always felt my own family saw me as a useless person and a waste of time, I always felt not good enough and women do nothing but reinforce that belief by always sleeping with men who are more attractive than me.

To me, confidence doesn't make a lot of sense, I don't see how it would make me a better person, and I hate the fact that women are attracted to confidence because I'm not a confident person, how can I get a girlfriend without becoming too confident? Could it be possible to do that if I looksmaxx enough?

 

[The Wolf]

Me, too. I have ZERO confidence. I'm boring, high-inhibited, extreme social anxiety (scared of even going outside without a hat)..... hell, I wouldn't know what to even say on a "date" (but then again, I don't have to worry about that).

Are you 34?

 

[AshamedVirgin34]

scared of even going outside without a hat

Brutal. Simply brutal.

hell, I wouldn't know what to even say on a "date" (but then again, I don't have to worry about that).

Same. Even if a woman flirted with me, which will never happen, but even if it happened, I'd be like "ok, what's next, what do I do here, how do I flirt", flirting is like a foreign language others just were born knowing but I don't understand, I hate and resent people who can flirt naturally, I don't know how to sexualize a conversation without accidentally coming across as creepy or needy, it isn't natural for me at all. Even if a woman flirted with me, I would still give up.

Are you 34?

I'm 22yo.

 

[wastedcodeine]

Try xanax bro

 

[turbosperg]

Confidence is almost synonymous with competence, skill and success.

As a rule, you become "confident" by acknwoledging your own success, competence and skill.

In rare cases a person is skillful, successful but not confident, that is called "impostor syndrome".

In other cases a person is incompetent but confident, that's called "Dunning-Kruger effect".

But if you have zero interpersonal success, you're not off-the-mark by having zero confidence.

 

[MRHK_57]

Ironically Looks and confidence are really not that different and works on the same mechanism.

Chad's look is so important because it's indicator of his good genes and for evolutionary reasons women will find it attractive.

Confidence is indicator of past success in interactions with girls so they will know what to expect. (None of this matters if you're ugly)

BluePill is self contradictory in this sense. Doesn't matter if it's looks or confidence, we lack these for feedback cycles which are out of our control.

 

[SoycuckGodOfReddit]

As an incel, I hate confident people and I also don't want to be confident because I don't want to be similar to those confident women I dislike.

then um just don't be a woman?

 

[SoycuckGodOfReddit]

women are attracted to confidence

no they aren't jfl

if anything the opposite is true

 

[Dollfucker]

I used to have confidence but after hundreds of rejections I gave up on it

 

[Wizardmaxxer]

confidence and personality are both useless and mean nothing if you don't have chad looks