Venting I don’t feel like my age

[lugubriouseanastar]

I stay at home all day and have never had any friends or been in a relationship, so I think that’s why I still feel like I’m 14 deep down. I don’t get how people just grow up, maybe it’s because I never got the chance to. How am I supposed to develop mentally when I haven’t had any friends since I was 12? Staying in my room for years has made me completely detached from the real world and left me mentally behind everyone my age.

 

[Livonica_Irreale]

Me too. I feel both like 15 and 80 years old. 15 - because of emotional immaturity. 80, because of vast experience & knowledge.

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

Same here. When you don’t experience crucial developmental milestones like friendship, dating, or even basic social interaction, your brain just freezes at the age you last lived normally. Everyone else moves on, but we stay mentally stuck in the past. It’s like time moves for everyone except us.

 

[zd60]

i feel mentally stuck as a child and physically as old as the universe. never had any friends in my life.

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

Me too. I feel both like 15 and 80 years old. 15 - because of emotional immaturity. 80, because of vast experience & knowledge.

Same. I hate the fact my brain is like this

 

[endoftheskies]

Me too. I feel both like 15 and 80 years old. 15 - because of emotional immaturity. 80, because of vast experience & knowledge.

agreed. it feels very weird, not being able to fit in both of those categories, but instead fitting in the intersection of both.

 

[lugubriouseanastar]

Me too. I feel both like 15 and 80 years old. 15 - because of emotional immaturity. 80, because of vast experience & knowledge.

I’m even behind knowledge wise, not just emotionally.

When you don’t experience crucial developmental milestones like friendship, dating, or even basic social interaction, your brain just freezes at the age you last lived normally. Everyone else moves on, but we stay mentally stuck in the past. It’s like time moves for everyone except us.

Couldn’t describe it better.

 

[Sex-Starved Beast]

I am not my age, both in terms of experiences and mental development. Everyone IRL notices that I behave like a child. I said earlier today that when I am put beside a teenager, I fell that I am the younger one between the two. Probably others feel it too.

 

[Leon98]

Me too. I feel both like 15 and 80 years old. 15 - because of emotional immaturity. 80, because of vast experience & knowledge.

i feel mentally stuck as a child and physically as old as the universe. never had any friends in my life.

 

[shinnie]

i honestly feel the same way, i feel like i am still 14 despite being an adult ... mentally i still live in the past and find it impossible to do any "normal" adult things when i havent even lived thru normal teenage things first

 

[lugubriouseanastar]

i feel mentally stuck as a child and physically as old as the universe. never had any friends in my life.

Yes. My body’s getting older but my mind’s still the same.

 

[zd60]

Yes. My body’s getting older but my mind’s still the same.

same its endless hell

 

[PersonalityChad]

I feel both like 15 and 80 years old.

Very relatable

 

[Ahab_]

I stay at home all day and have never had any friends or been in a relationship, so I think that’s why I still feel like I’m 14 deep down. I don’t get how people just grow up, maybe it’s because I never got the chance to. How am I supposed to develop mentally when I haven’t had any friends since I was 12? Staying in my room for years has made me completely detached from the real world and left me mentally behind everyone my age.

I also feel 13.
Already knew how lookism played a Major role in every social interactions and how It shaped personality traits, but i didnt get exposed to the bp until 20.
Back then days were full of vidya, YouTube, paprika Chips and a lot of gooning .
Hope i can mantain this lifestyle (and my hair) but with financial independacy.

 

[lugubriouseanastar]

i honestly feel the same way, i feel like i am still 14 despite being an adult ... mentally i still live in the past and find it impossible to do any "normal" adult things when i havent even lived thru normal teenage things first

It feels weird when people call me out for being an adult and still living like a teen, I mean, I get it? but eventually I get tired of those people’s expectations of how I should “behave” at my age. I keep thinking about the past because that’s the only point of reference I can remember. I never even got to experience life like a normal teenager. Time keeps moving, I’m getting older but my brain is still stuck in the same place.

 

[D. B. Gooner]

That's because people today use societal milestones to define age. They let meaningless things like education and career define how "mature" they behave. In reality humans are supposed to live monotonous lives, you shouldn't change at all beyond obtaining wisdom. After puberty, you start reproducing and do the same shit every day until you die.

 

[lugubriouseanastar]

I also feel 13.
Already knew how lookism played a Major role in every social interactions and how It shaped personality traits, but i didnt get exposed to the bp until 20.
Back then days were full of vidya, YouTube, paprika Chips and a lot of gooning .
Hope i can mantain this lifestyle (and my hair) but with financial independacy.

If I weren’t ugly, maybe I’d get to have a normal life like everyone else. But I am, so I just stay home instead, people like me are never meant to go out.

 

[lugubriouseanastar]

That's because people today use societal milestones to define age. They let meaningless things like education and career define how "mature" they behave. In reality humans are supposed to live monotonous lives, you shouldn't change at all beyond obtaining wisdom. After puberty, you start reproducing and do the same shit every day until you die.

Modern society is a myth to me. People define themselves through things like education, jobs, and expect others to behave a certain way once they reach their stage of life. I just want to be a NEET and stay in my own room, but they wouldn’t like that. They expect me to be “mature” and work, because to them I’m a grown man and should act the way they think I should.

 

[TimeMachineOrLDAR]

Same here. When you don’t experience crucial developmental milestones like friendship, dating, or even basic social interaction, your brain just freezes at the age you last lived normally. Everyone else moves on, but we stay mentally stuck in the past. It’s like time moves for everyone except us.

I'm pushing 30 and my parents deadass treat me like a teenager.

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

I'm pushing 30 and my parents deadass treat me like a teenager.

Brutal.

 

[Extern]

You mature from new experiences, when you aren't experiencing new things you aren't maturing

 

[pauseforever]

Yes. My body’s getting older but my mind’s still the same.

 

[The Scarlet Prince]

I resonate heavily with that. I often feel like I never had the chance to actually 'mature' in the traditional sense, and I've just remained perpetually stuck in this state of being a teenage boy. I don't feel any different from how I was when I was fifteen. I think that I started to try and work towards 'maturity,' but some part of me ultimately came to vehemently reject the very concept itself, and instead sowed the seeds for something entirely different in place of what I was left bereft of.

 

[ToBurble&Pine]

Can relate
I'm still a kid

 

[undesiredsamsung]

My 20s are creeping up and I mentally feel 16.

 

[psycho123]

My body is aging but my mind is frozen in time, stuck in the past

 

[grandmasterwizard]

I'm 30, yet people can mistake me for being 17-18.
I look overall quite young, as I didn't get sun damage and I mostly just spent my time at home without going outside.
At the same time, I never progressed socially and I'm stuck in the same mental stage.

 

[Super Nigger Boy]

You mature from new experiences, when you aren't experiencing new things you aren't maturing

 

[Super Nigger Boy]

I look like 15

 

[Dead End]

I look like 15

Same. I've had customers at work tell me as much. Coworkers and customers are often surprised to learn I have a driver's licence, let alone that I'm an adult.

 

[Extern]

I look like 15

Same. I've had customers at work tell me as much. Coworkers and customers are often surprised to learn I have a driver's licence, let alone that I'm an adult.

It is better to look young than old as an incel, people have more patience for you

 

[Dead End]

It is better to look young than old as an incel, people have more patience for you

Yeah that's true. Still humiliating to be seen as a literal child, however.

 

[Extern]

Yeah that's true. Still humiliating to be seen as a literal child, however.

Show them your hard-on

 

[Dead End]

Show them your hard-on

Wdym by "hard-on"?

 

[Extern]

Wdym by "hard-on"?

Goon in front of them

 

[Super Nigger Boy]

It is better to look young than old as an incel, people have more patience for you

I don't want to look old i want to look like 21 years old there is difference

 

[xstermin]

I look like 15

That's why I grew a mustache and a soul patch. So instead of getting treated like a kid, I get treated like a creep.

 

[Justanotherbloke]

Same here. mentally I feel like 16 or something, definitely 18 max while im approaching my mid 20s.

 

[Emba]

Real human problems

 

[sullen]

Spot right on, I'm in my early 30s but still feel like 15

 

[goop]

Even with adult responsibilities I'd still be childish. All of my younger siblings are more mature.

 

[Super Nigger Boy]

That's why I grew a mustache and a soul patch. So instead of getting treated like a kid, I get treated like a creep.

I can't even grow a mustache if i try to grow one it'll look like this (this is not me just an example)