How to cope WELL

[Watercel]

How do u guys minimize depression and cope your way through each day? I'm simply not able to avoid a single day without excruciating emotional pain. I used to think I outgrew crying and it's pussy shit that only people have never cried do but no. I literally either suffer excruciating pain or cry all throughout the day. It's driving me fucking insane. What the fuck man. How do I function let alone be content or happy or whatever

 

[LDARbeforeROPE]

Exercising regularly and not eating like shit helped me in the past

 

[Watercel]

Exercising regularly and not eating like shit helped me in the past

What about meditation? Does it help at all or does it just turn you into a delusioned schizo

 

[LDARbeforeROPE]

Michael Sealey's videos on youtube helped me for a while, but im pretty sure i didn't meditate correctly. They could work for you

 

[polar inertia]

Meditationmaxxing to develop Acceptance. Some copes you like

 

[your personality]

What about meditation? Does it help at all or does it just turn you into a delusioned schizo

What you do is waste time lol, that's what meditation is

If you literally just carried the process (closing your eyes, calming your mind, calm breathing, etc) to its logical conclusion (go to sleep), you'd benefit way more. You'd be calm, well rested, have more energy, your stress levels would go down, etc

Meditation is literally just half assed sleep, you get none of the benefits of sleep (significant reduction in stress levels and an increase in energy) and none of the benefits of being awake (completing necessary tasks or leisure activities)

Its nothing but a placebo that wastes time

 

[Jungle]

ejercicio

 

[polar inertia]

What about meditation? Does it help at all or does it just turn you into a delusioned schizo

meditation was a on-off thing for me until this year. i always tried sticking to a schedule in the last years but it would end up making me more aggressive and crazy, so i stopped out of fear that i make my situation worse.

This year i restarted once again and pushed through the crazyness phase. Turns out the subconciousness starts to bring up everything in suppressed thoughts and you have to face that and work through that. Its one big mental cleaning mechanism in the end. After a few weeks it even upped the pace and i started to feel old somatic stress symptoms that i had during my youth (~20 years ago). i pushed further and after two more weeks, the crazyness vanished and the calmness and the normal benefits that you associate with Meditation came.

Having a therapist might be helpful in that phase tho, cause the subconcious will throw all the shit in your face that you suppresed into itover the years and you need to have to process it in a healthy way, so you can leave it behind.

its complex but worth it tho.

 

[Watercel]

meditation was a on-off thing for me until this year. i always tried sticking to a schedule in the last years but it would end up making me more aggressive and crazy, so i stopped out of fear that i make my situation worse.

This year i restarted once again and pushed through the crazyness phase. Turns out the subconciousness starts to bring up everything in suppressed thoughts and you have to face that and work through that. Its one big mental cleaning mechanism in the end. After a few weeks it even upped the pace and i started to feel old somatic stress symptoms that i had during my youth (~20 years ago). i pushed further and after two more weeks, the crazyness vanished and the calmness and the normal benefits that you associate with Meditation came.

Having a therapist might be helpful in that phase tho, cause the subconcious will throw all the shit in your face that you suppresed into itover the years and you need to have to process it in a healthy way, so you can leave it behind.

its complex but worth it tho.

Any resources you recommend that can link to help me do this properly and consistently?

 

[Pengwin]

I have my bed and depression naps.

 

[Watercel]

I have my bed and depression naps.

That's such a reverse cope I've been doing since forever and has made me ask about copeing well in the first place, it's that unsustainable

 

[polar inertia]

Any resources you recommend that can link to help me do this properly and consistently?

i dont have a link or an page at hand, i ll try to write some random hints down that helped me:

-set a timer for 15 mins and stick to it, even if the urge to do something else comes. also gives an feeling of accomplishment ("I managed to do 5/10/15 mins today") try also to build a habit, do it every day.

-focus on your breath, breathe through your nose with slow deep breaths in a 4-7-8 pattern
4sec deep inhale - 7 sec hold - 8 sec slow exhale. the body somehow relaxes during the exhale

- see your mind as that restless little monkey that it is, it will never stop to blabber and get distracted, but it is ok to get distracted. if distractions happen accept it gently and refocus on your breath

- i have adhd and and am very prone to sensory distractions like sound and light. i used a sleeping mask at times and at the moment i do meditate in my bathroom which i can turn completely dark. find the way you like best (sitting, lying in your bed, while walking in the woods or whatever, with or without an app, focusing on counting numbers or a mantra or just the breathe )

- external sounds can be distracting for me but i reframed them as "extra weight" during a session and try to get back to the breath when they distract me

if you do it right and dive into the calm state, it can happen that things from the subconcious arise. memories, pleasant and unpleasant things from the past. if that happens - congrats - your brain started the cleaning process - think of it as emotional pop ups.
You wouldnt go crazy if you had a popup coming up right now in the browser, you'd just be bothered a bit and click it away.

observe but do not get scared, just observe and accept that it happened. forgive yourself or the involved persons, let go and focus back on the breath. Taking notes and talking about the bad memories that popped up with a friend or therapist is optional.

Good luck, i hope it can help you

PS: If you're super sedentary and in full LDAR mode and start it, it can be a bit overwhelming and pull you into the air, like you're flying away with a balloon. Some light movement (walking, riding a bike, a bit of fitness) can help to stay more grounded.

 

[Watercel]

Quality post. Thanks

 

[Deleted member 20207]

I am apathetic most of the time, neither depressed nor happy. Although I sometimes have short depressive episodes that last for some hours to some days. Physical exercise, sleep and a healthy diet, especially consistig of meat, eggs and milk products, should help to prevent those episodes though. Personally I also enjoy masturbation. I also take a supplement of omega-3 fatty acids daily and ZMA before bedtime.