How much influence did your parental upbringing have on inceldom?

[PUNK2006]

I was raised by a non NT nerdy single mother who just threw me behind a screen growing up and my dad wasn’t in my life at all during
my childhood, my parents split when I were 3 or 4.
As a result I learned absolutely nothing growing up, didn’t know how to socialise like normal kids, didn’t fit into the culture of my country, didn’t enjoy the same things other kids did, you get the point.
This wouldn’t be a huge problem if I lived in an individualist country with lots of subcultures but everyone where I am is the exact same. You’re either like everyone else or an incel outsider.

 

[Caichan]

we grew up very poor

 

[AutistSupremacist]

Neurotic single mother with a few siblings while being poor. I attribute my inceldom entirely to looks tbh

 

[Animecel2D]

Don’t think upbringing had much effect on my inceldom specifically but it definitely did fuck me over in many ways

fucking cunts should’ve never reproduced

 

[zd60]

I grew up very poor, homeless or around addicts and neglected

 

[Sperg Abomination]

0% i am only an incel because of my face + other mental disorders

 

[InvoluntaryChigga]

I was raised by a non NT nerdy single mother who just threw me behind a screen growing up and my dad wasn’t in my life at all during
my childhood, my parents split when I were 3 or 4.
As a result I learned absolutely nothing growing up, didn’t know how to socialise like normal kids, didn’t fit into the culture of my country, didn’t enjoy the same things other kids did, you get the point.
This wouldn’t be a huge problem if I lived in an individualist country with lots of subcultures but everyone where I am is the exact same. You’re either like everyone else or an incel outsider.

was bullied and ostracized but I turned out relatively ok

 

[Chaos.Jr]

I grew up really poor, my father was heavy alcoholic since I can remember. Died when I was 14yo. No healthy male role models, no cool uncle or anything. Mother and three sisters. All of them beliteled me as a man, even tho I am youngest member of the family. They never saw real man, since my father was drunk fuck, so they projected what he did to them on me since I was born. Always telling me I'm not manly enough no matter what I do. Never proud of me. Foid sisters ended up marring 6'2 chads. All of them. Still telling me that I'm ugly and not manly to this day. All of them. I would say, being raised by 4 femoids with daddy issues made me completly insecure and took huge part in my inceldom. I remember telling one of them, that she don't know what is a life of a manlet, since she's a femoid that found 6'2 chad with ease. She said some stupid shit, that "women want to feel safe and it's because of that". So they feel unsafe with incel like me because I'm short? Good. As they should. lol But yeah, not having any male role models fucked me up totaly and it's main reason for my inceldom.

 

[kapri]

Bad predispositions: shy, awkward, bad physical traits, sensitive
Environment: manipulative - which made me shut in more, aggressive - which made me distance myself avoid confrontation and stay alone whenever I could, poor - which brought shame + closed most social opportunities, also parents were divorced so I was basically alone completely but when they were there they made sure I was suffering

All in all the predispositions I have (mental ones) I'm not 100% sure I was born with or developed those, since they were there from my earliest memories, but I can tell you that with time they got so much worse, while people developed further and further I was sinking deeper and deeper. Don't know if I would have been incel If I had a healthy life. I say that honestly. Even with me looking how I look, even with me being completely socially incapable, I just can't know.

 

[pauseforever]

Parents were generally busy with work as I grew up, but I wouldnt say upbringing is the major reason for my inceldom. In my case it's height combined with ND traits. All first-degree ralatives are NT, but I perceive things differently (pleasure, pain, spoken language, etc) since as far as I can remember, and my problems come downstream from that. Likely result of de-novo genetic mutation(s) rather than upbringing.

My country is not individualistic either. For one, there is draconian pressure to force everyone to conform, and people like myself have to stay invisible

 

[Excalibur]

I was raised by a controlling, anxious mother with OCD and a weak father who never bothered to teach me how to be masculine in a meaningful way.

Besides my genetics, they're the reason why I'm such a shut-in with little interest in interacting with the world.

 

[Dead End]

I had a very normal and healthy upbringing, which indicates that my current situation is the result of genetics rather than environment. Therefore, if I were to have kids of my own through some miracle, they would likely be doomed to share a lot of my issues. Environment also had little to no impact on my height or facial appearance, of course.

 

[Mr.Breb]

a lot, still just with my genes im incel

My parents, in case they're not autistic, they're on the bottom of social intelligence, really on the bottom. In fact i would say im more socially intelligence than them, and it surprises me that when it comes to that trait as im their son. Bc im much much more above them.

When it comes to raising a son as you can imagine, they're a piece of shit. I remember i had clare signs of being socially awkward since i was a kid. Which they did nothing, well better said they increased that social awkard bc as i said im even more socially intelligent than them

The worst part came in teenage, that's when the true hell started. My life in teenage was constant humilliation, which my parents again increased. Lot of public shaming, lot of helicopter parenting... Maybe in early teenage, before me being fucked in puberty i could had my first kiss, and yes that's a zone where my parents influenced a lot on me not getting anything.

i will always hate them for, besides giving me shitty genes, not allowing me to enjoy a little bit from my early teenage. Not allowing me to grow up. Nowadays they're a little bit helicopter or atleast they do all things for me. But anyway there's a long time i don't go out.

Just to put you an example, when i was a kid i didn't socialize. I spent the school breaks with a kid with mental retardation who couldn't even talk. I was like that for 4 yrs. My parents gave a fuck about the fact that i had not actual friends. Imagine, childhood really important years for your life and you give a fuck about your kid social skills

They're also the kings of gaslighting

 

[NotoriousLoser]

My parents were losers themselves, so am i.

 

[LeFrenchCel]

Unpopular opinion but it has as much as an impact on inceldom than looks.

 

[Solid State]

My mother died from cancer complications when I was 15, she was a materials engineer, and my father was a college professor of anatomy and physiology.

My parents did not know what to do about me when I was a kid. Both of them had their minor eccentricities, but neither of them had a rather serious psychiatric disorder like I do and I was diagnosed when I was a preteen. Nobody was quite sure where it came from, but genetic recombination seems to have fucked me over right out of nowhere on this one.

They tried to be good parents, but there were some hard limits as to what they or anybody else could do. They were sympathetic when I got out of the mental hospital after being in one for three days during my first month in high school. This prompted the school forcing me to be followed around by an aide from then on, but a lot of this stuff was out of my parents' hands as well as the school principal said it was either this or go to a different school.

 

[Ricecel Sungnodius]

Not much. I had good parenting. But alot of the blackpill is genetic, so not much can change that.

 

[LowIQ loner]

My mother died from cancer complications when I was 15, she was a materials engineer, and my father was a college professor of anatomy and physiology.

My parents did not know what to do about me when I was a kid. Both of them had their minor eccentricities, but neither of them had a rather serious psychiatric disorder like I do and I was diagnosed when I was a preteen. Nobody was quite sure where it came from, but genetic recombination seems to have fucked me over right out of nowhere on this one.

They tried to be good parents, but there were some hard limits as to what they or anybody else could do. They were sympathetic when I got out of the mental hospital after being in one for three days during my first month in high school. This prompted the school forcing me to be followed around by an aide from then on, but a lot of this stuff was out of my parents' hands as well as the school principal said it was either this or go to a different school.

you must be a highIQcel then right?

 

[Solid State]

you must be a highIQcel then right?

I suppose. I always did well in school and I do have a Master's in histology.

However, I found out the hard way that many STEM fields are being enshittified by the FIRE sector.

 

[lugubriouseanastar]

100%. My parents are abusive narcissists.