Telling a man that he needs a personality, confidence, and assertiveness is just a head fake by foids everywhere, because in all reality they don't want to admit publicly what their sexuality is really about and what it entails or revolves around in all actuality. Hint: It's none of those things. If women were really honest publicly about what they find sexually attractive most men would be appalled or disgusted instantly which is why they do everything they can to actively conceal it behind a variety of numerous false social pretenses. They virtue signal these false pretenses constantly because in all reality their sexuality is the opposite of virtue entirely as it is savage solely based alone in human inequity, more specifically in male inequity.
It's all just a head fake to baffle or stupidfy men with bullshit, the problem with that is they have done that so much in the last sixty years that the majority of single sexless men are catching on very quickly what they're really all about beyond their social pretense, it's a strategy of theirs that unfortunately for them has worn itself out very thin where it is no longer effective, but whatever you do, don't tell them that. It's failing maladaptation of theirs that a majority of men now are completely conscious or aware of.
Since foids are pretty much one trick ponies they still continue with the pretense thinking to themselves that it masks and camouflages their true sexual nature for anybody else to see, since for thousands of years it has always worked for them, so it must still work for them now, right? Wrong, unlike any other portion of human history there hasn't been this majority of single sexless men as there are now, so now we have a world where that social camouflage tactic of theirs no longer works for them to which all men everywhere in unison are basically saying out loud, "We see you, you're not fooling anybody any longer as we see you exactly for what you are, you can drop the pretend act now as it is no longer necessary."