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How do I deal with the constant social embarrassment from not having a girlfriend?

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iiiTeMpeR

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Whenever my parents friends invite my family over for dinner, they ALWAYS FUCKING ASK ME HOW'S MY DATING LIFE, JUST STFU OLD CUNTS. For real every time I tell them I'm single they all giggle, I know that they aren't serious but I'm iunsecure about my virginity and that just makes it so much worse. Also why in social hierarchys are you more of "a man" and respected more (by everyone) if you've got a girlfriend?

Older incels who have gone through this, how can I deal with it? It's kind of annoying and makes me suicidal again, I haven't felt suicidal since high school (HS in canada is filled with justin bieber type boys and Stacies), any sort of advice is welcome.
 
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iiiTeMpeR said:
Whenever my parents friends invite my family over for dinner, they ALWAYS FUCKING ASK ME HOW'S MY DATING LIFE, JUST STFU OLD CUNTS. For real every time I tell them I'm single they all giggle, I know that they aren't serious but I'm iunsecure about my virginity and that just makes it so much worse. Also why in social hierarchys are you more of "a man" and respected more (by everyone) if you've got a girlfriend?

Older incels who have gone through this, how can I deal with it? It's kind of annoying and makes me suicidal again, I haven't felt suicidal since high school (HS in canada is filled with justin bieber type boys and Stacies), any sort of advice is welcome.

1) tell them the truth, or; 
2) bring an escort round next time and lie and say its your gf. This will keep them off your case for a while ;
3) say you're gay. This comes with it's own problems though

4) lie
 
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I just say "I haven't had a girlfriend in a few months so im taking a break from dating." I would never admit to anybody that I never had a girlfriend. The only people who know are my parents, close family, and childhood friends who I still talk to.
 
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say to them: no I don't please please help me to find one
 
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iiiTeMpeR said:
 Also why in social hierarchys are you more of "a man" and respected more (by everyone) if you've got a girlfriend?

Older incels who have gone through this, how can I deal with it? It's kind of annoying and makes me suicidal again, I haven't felt suicidal since high school (HS in canada is filled with justin bieber type boys and Stacies), any sort of advice is welcome.

Don't worry! Soon, they'll all just believe that you're gay, and then they'll shamefully drop this topic and feel too insecure about how to talk about this ("How do they even want to be called these days?") anyway. Maybe some hot roastie in your family will come to your defend those and always make explicitly pro-gay remarks. Maybe she'll also come out as pansexual, and ask you to go shopping with her when she buys presents for Chad. 

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And I also hate it how your worth as a man is linked to your ability to make women happy. Then you are considered a "real" man. If you're a single man, it's shit - if you do something alone, people always assume that something's wrong with. I mean, they are usually right, but still!
 
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if they keep asking you and it makes you uncomfortable, i think it's just fine to say it's a topic you aren't comfortable talking about and that you'd prefer it not be brought up. if you're polite about it and they don't take it well, that's their problem.
 
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They still haven't given up, that's good. My family knows not to ask.


AlexanderR97 said:
I just say "I haven't had a girlfriend in a few months so im taking a break from dating." I would never admit to anybody that I never had a girlfriend. The only people who know are my parents, close family, and childhood friends who I still talk to.

They know.
 
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YOU DON'T. You just take it as it comes. Being an incel is a shame.
 
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you say "Allah akbar"
 
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Attractive people don't get asked that question by their relatives.

It's only because your relatives KNOW you have no gf so they try and embarass you by asking.
 
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alsalsk said:
Attractive people don't get asked that question by their relatives.

It's only because your relatives KNOW you have no gf so they try and embarass you by asking.

My relatives never ask me, but that's because they know me that well. If I got a gf, they'd all be shocked.
 
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For yourself, you should take the Black Pill so that you don't care about it anymore.

For dealing with your family and their friends; make it clear that you cannot get anyone and ask them to either stop asking about it, or help you find someone. If you have to remind them that you're straight but incel, then do so.
 
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I lie about having a gf constantly.
 
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iiiTeMpeR said:
Whenever my parents friends invite my family over for dinner, they ALWAYS FUCKING ASK ME HOW'S MY DATING LIFE, JUST STFU OLD CUNTS. For real every time I tell them I'm single they all giggle, I know that they aren't serious but I'm iunsecure about my virginity and that just makes it so much worse. Also why in social hierarchys are you more of "a man" and respected more (by everyone) if you've got a girlfriend?

Older incels who have gone through this, how can I deal with it? It's kind of annoying and makes me suicidal again, I haven't felt suicidal since high school (HS in canada is filled with justin bieber type boys and Stacies), any sort of advice is welcome.
They already know u r a hopeless case. It's a mild way of poking you/harrasing you. But you said they were nice so I'll stick to poking.
 
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Tell them it's none of their business.
 
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Just fucking blackpill them already you fag
 
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>I don't want a relationship at the moment
>I haven't found the right one yet
 

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