You should support the movement, but you can't. Going ER is an optics disaster, but not going ER leads to us existing only to please and reward society as a reward for punishing us, making them go, "Hm, punishing incels works! Let's hurt them EVEN MORE because we enjoy causing others suffering and ostracizing a weak group when it's socially acceptable to do so!" -basically everyone in society who isn't an incel.
Incels do this too, though, such as with transgenders (who are now quite socially powerful but it is still quite encouraged to ostracize and bully them to literal DEATH in right-wing and "manosphere"-adjacent circles) or male homosexuals (who help us by taking themselves out of competition and the gene pool).