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during the last months i tried growing a social circle. i went out twice by inviting myself. The first time i heard people i know talking about going out for dinner and the movies so i just stepped in an said "oh x is great i havent been there for ages, im gonna join". i basically put them into a situation where saying "no we dont want you to join" would lead to a direct confrontation. it was not an exclusive meet. i knew all of them for years. everyone who got the message was invited. i think i dont need to add that nobody invited me. we went out and i was 200th wheeling there, but well it was dinner with "friends" after all. the second time i went out with two female cousins and the husband of one of them. i tried organizing a meeting for about 4 months and they finally gave in. we went to a bar for about 2 hours.
the dinner was great, even though people tried to avoid conversation with me. the usual "yes" and "no" replies to questions of any kind, going silent when i added something to a discussion. the usual stuff. to me it was the closest to blending in i have done within many months. it was like i was one of the guys. a normal dude hanging out with his friends. i slept very well that night. i can barely imagine what it must be like to have friends you can go out with. or even poeple who message you to go out with them.
going to the bar wasnt that great. my two cousins barely talked to me, but rather with each other. my cousins husband (6'5 but facially unattractive) and i on the other hand had somewhat of a good talk. my female cousins mostly talked about how they partied 10 years ago. one particular anectode stuck with me. they went out clubbing and drinking together. after dancing they sat down and the barkeeper permanently came to them. "this drink is from the guy over there", "this drink is from that guy", and so on until they had to tell the barkeeper not to bring them any more drinks. later she said that not going out partying on the weekends was a lost weekend to her. im not mad about this, but i find i rather inpolite, because she knows i have zero friends, am super ugly and spent all my weekends alone at home. even her husband was uncomfortable with her bragging like that. not that i didnt know what its like to be female before she talked about all of this, i just recalled my dinner and recalled how happy i was and how good i slept that day, while it was probably boring to the average normie.
im on my way to 30. im can fraud myself to 5'10 with 1.5 inch lifts while everyone around me starts growing to 6'3 and beyond. I am babyfaced and was happy beeing ignored during a dinner meet where i invited myself to just not to be alone.
what i witnessed was normal and nothing special to normies. for me it was a unique experience it took me months to organize. i have not been invited anywhere so far and no one ever messaged me, which is quite discouraging because i put in so much effort to organize meets.
when you are babyfaced nobody is gonna take you seriously. they look at you, think "nerd" and would never come up with inviting you out to a meet even when literally everyone else is invited directly.
people still avoid me like the plague and avoid to be seen talking to me. i honestly dont know what to do anymore. i tried everything but i cant force people to message me or to treat me like a human beeing. im beeing completely ignored.
during the last months i tried growing a social circle. i went out twice by inviting myself. The first time i heard people i know talking about going out for dinner and the movies so i just stepped in an said "oh x is great i havent been there for ages, im gonna join". i basically put them into a situation where saying "no we dont want you to join" would lead to a direct confrontation. it was not an exclusive meet. i knew all of them for years. everyone who got the message was invited. i think i dont need to add that nobody invited me. we went out and i was 200th wheeling there, but well it was dinner with "friends" after all. the second time i went out with two female cousins and the husband of one of them. i tried organizing a meeting for about 4 months and they finally gave in. we went to a bar for about 2 hours.
the dinner was great, even though people tried to avoid conversation with me. the usual "yes" and "no" replies to questions of any kind, going silent when i added something to a discussion. the usual stuff. to me it was the closest to blending in i have done within many months. it was like i was one of the guys. a normal dude hanging out with his friends. i slept very well that night. i can barely imagine what it must be like to have friends you can go out with. or even poeple who message you to go out with them.
going to the bar wasnt that great. my two cousins barely talked to me, but rather with each other. my cousins husband (6'5 but facially unattractive) and i on the other hand had somewhat of a good talk. my female cousins mostly talked about how they partied 10 years ago. one particular anectode stuck with me. they went out clubbing and drinking together. after dancing they sat down and the barkeeper permanently came to them. "this drink is from the guy over there", "this drink is from that guy", and so on until they had to tell the barkeeper not to bring them any more drinks. later she said that not going out partying on the weekends was a lost weekend to her. im not mad about this, but i find i rather inpolite, because she knows i have zero friends, am super ugly and spent all my weekends alone at home. even her husband was uncomfortable with her bragging like that. not that i didnt know what its like to be female before she talked about all of this, i just recalled my dinner and recalled how happy i was and how good i slept that day, while it was probably boring to the average normie.
im on my way to 30. im can fraud myself to 5'10 with 1.5 inch lifts while everyone around me starts growing to 6'3 and beyond. I am babyfaced and was happy beeing ignored during a dinner meet where i invited myself to just not to be alone.
what i witnessed was normal and nothing special to normies. for me it was a unique experience it took me months to organize. i have not been invited anywhere so far and no one ever messaged me, which is quite discouraging because i put in so much effort to organize meets.
when you are babyfaced nobody is gonna take you seriously. they look at you, think "nerd" and would never come up with inviting you out to a meet even when literally everyone else is invited directly.
people still avoid me like the plague and avoid to be seen talking to me. i honestly dont know what to do anymore. i tried everything but i cant force people to message me or to treat me like a human beeing. im beeing completely ignored.
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