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I browsed i/incels before it was banned and was extremely active on this forum in 2019, I had around 1k posts on an account that has since been deleted. I eventually saw incel spaces as a net negative, and wanted some time away.
Leaving has been good for my mental health. It's way too easy to waste too much time browsing and ruminating about the content you see here (this is applicable to any form of social media, but especially forums and image boards). I have made new friends, and acquired hobbies outside the internet. I am in much superior physical shape than I was during the pandemic. I have invested a lot in my physical appearance besides physique, spending thousands on skincare, haircare, and fashion.
However, I am still a virgin. A much older virgin that I was in 2019, which exacerbates my insecurity about it.
I have rejected much of the incel philosophy, but at the same time I think many tenets hold true even after years of self reflection. I think that personality is extremely important, but it does not matter unless you meet a certain prerequisite of physical attractiveness. Physical appearance will always be the paramount variable to dating and selection. Personality can help you stand out against those who are similar level of attractiveness, but it will never make up the difference between you and someone who outright mogs you.
Women will almost always say that they always hold personality in higher regard than looks, but in practice this is simply not true. Almost nobody, man or woman, is likely to answer such a question honestly in a way that makes them seem shallow or vapid. I have enormous anecdotal evidence from my own experiences, and empirical evidence compiled by the incel community to suggest that appearance trumps personality 9/10 times. Exceptions exist as they always do in such large sample sizes, but they are effectively irrelevant in day to day life.
It's so hard to meet people. Using dating apps makes me want to cry. I am simply unremarkable in every regard. I am short, plain, and of middling intelligence. I try every day to be more kind, empathetic, and polite, but these qualities do not make you stand out. This does not diminish the importance of these qualities to me, but to women they are basically irrelevant for their selection process.
I think the desire to travel the world and own a home are the two primary things keeping me from suicide. The latter is unlikely, but I intend to see some interesting and beautiful places before my time on Earth comes to an end.
Leaving has been good for my mental health. It's way too easy to waste too much time browsing and ruminating about the content you see here (this is applicable to any form of social media, but especially forums and image boards). I have made new friends, and acquired hobbies outside the internet. I am in much superior physical shape than I was during the pandemic. I have invested a lot in my physical appearance besides physique, spending thousands on skincare, haircare, and fashion.
However, I am still a virgin. A much older virgin that I was in 2019, which exacerbates my insecurity about it.
I have rejected much of the incel philosophy, but at the same time I think many tenets hold true even after years of self reflection. I think that personality is extremely important, but it does not matter unless you meet a certain prerequisite of physical attractiveness. Physical appearance will always be the paramount variable to dating and selection. Personality can help you stand out against those who are similar level of attractiveness, but it will never make up the difference between you and someone who outright mogs you.
Women will almost always say that they always hold personality in higher regard than looks, but in practice this is simply not true. Almost nobody, man or woman, is likely to answer such a question honestly in a way that makes them seem shallow or vapid. I have enormous anecdotal evidence from my own experiences, and empirical evidence compiled by the incel community to suggest that appearance trumps personality 9/10 times. Exceptions exist as they always do in such large sample sizes, but they are effectively irrelevant in day to day life.
It's so hard to meet people. Using dating apps makes me want to cry. I am simply unremarkable in every regard. I am short, plain, and of middling intelligence. I try every day to be more kind, empathetic, and polite, but these qualities do not make you stand out. This does not diminish the importance of these qualities to me, but to women they are basically irrelevant for their selection process.
I think the desire to travel the world and own a home are the two primary things keeping me from suicide. The latter is unlikely, but I intend to see some interesting and beautiful places before my time on Earth comes to an end.
Always comes to collect.
