I'm not talking about billions of dollars. I'm just talking about enough money that you never have to worry about food, housing, or medical care. And enough that you can afford whatever copes that you cope with (for me, vidya, alcohol, and pot).
I've done okay financially, and I'm in my 40s. Let me tell you what it's like.
First, I am undoubtedly an alcoholic. I drink every day, and I go to bars almost every day - and often two or three a night. My monthly budget for alcohol is $3k and most of that goes toward tips. I'm a good tipper. I tip for good service, but I also tip extra (always over 100% and often $100 or more) if the bartender chats with me. Like I said, this is a cope. I can afford it, so whatever.
I'm aware that there are whales tipping a lot more. One bartender told me that she worked at a strip club and there was a guy dropping $3k a week. So, I know I'm not on that level, but I'm giving them enough money that they all know my name and act (which is about to be my point) happy to see me when I come in.
Thought some people would like to know what that's like. Spoiler: bit of a black pill.
First thing: I'm not autistic, so I've never mentioned anything "pill-related" - I pretend to be a normie. I also don't ask female bartenders out; don't try to get their numbers or socials; don't flirt with them. But, if the bar is empty (and when you drink as much as I do, you're going to occasionally be the only one there) they'll chat with me, and it's very often very eye-opening.
I have 100 stories but one recent one was a girl at the start of her shift wearing a shirt with the bar's logo. Totally normal thing, but she felt the need to explain it to me. She had closed the night before and gone home with a guy. Then she ubered back to the bar for her next shift, and needed a clean shirt. So she took one from the back office. "har har" what a funny story!!
What jumps out to me about this is that chad is not expected to give her a lift to work, or better yet take her to her own house so that she can change. I bet he didn't even pay for the uber. And this is totally normal - or should I say, normalized. The men who get sex are not the men who are helpful or protective or committed. The only way that story could be better is if she had called a simp to come pick her up. There's a different group of men who are helpful and who provide, and they aren't in the group that gets sex.
Am *I* expecting to get sex?? Hell no! I'm not retarded. I'm like a Zen Buddhist. I accept things. I know how the world works. I'm just explaining to you, if you ever thought to yourself that having money would change things, that you're wrong.
Another story (and another bar): I got there at 7 which is right when the shifts change. A bartender I've known for literally years, and given thousands to in tips, is counting her drawer. Incoming girl gives me a drink and I say thanks and then dive into my phone. Outgoing girl finishes up and then comes around to sit at the bar. She sits by a guy - I've seen him before so he's a regular. They chat for a while, then she leaves (I half expected them to leave together).
Again, am *I* expecting anything?? No! I'm just pointing out that when I'm not a customer, they don't want to have anything to do with me. Not even to walk by and say "hi" on their way out the door.
In the interests of science, I have gone in earlier and stayed past her shift - several times in fact. When her shift is done, I cash out and tip a lot. I paid the tab (plus a tip) on credit card then dropped a $100 bill in for good measure. She comes back and says "thank you." I say "you're welcome, have a good rest of your night." Then I open a tab with the incoming bartender and wait. Twice this girl sits at the bar, has her post-shift drink, then leaves.
And again, that's totally fine with me. I still go in there. My behavior doesn't change. I'm just telling you guys what it's like.
One more story. This one is from last night. A bartender that I've known for almost 10 years. Often talks about feminist stuff. Has even talked about FDS. I'm smart enough to be able to play along (I'm actually very good at it). She tells me about going off on a guy who was "buying a girl drinks that she didn't want." I do my best shocked pikachu face and say, "that's pretty creepy huh?" She agrees that it is. Fortunately, I have never made the mistake of buying a girl a drink, and I've definitely never tried to pick anyone up.
Here's what's funny. I get pretty hammered (it wasn't the first bar I'd been to last night). I tried to flag her down to cash out, but she didn't see me, but she did see my drink was empty, so she makes me another one. When she brings it to me, I say (in slurred speech) "hmm, did I order this?" and she says, "lol no but I made it anyway." I say (thinking about the story she just told me an hour ago), "well maybe I don't want it!" She says, "you know you do."
I say "okay, but cash me out." She does. She charges me for the drink I didn't want. I pay (and tip well) but I physically can't drink the whole thing, so I leave. And I'm just stuck thinking about the irony. She tells a guy off for buying a girl drinks "that the girl didn't want" even though the guy paid for them. And then, on that very night, she gets me a drink that I don't want, and I still pay for it.
And so, I wanted to post this thread. It's a black pill. Whatever your social status is, my friends, it's not because you're poor. You could be significantly above the median in terms of wealth, and have lots of money to throw around, and it wouldn't change things.
I've done okay financially, and I'm in my 40s. Let me tell you what it's like.
First, I am undoubtedly an alcoholic. I drink every day, and I go to bars almost every day - and often two or three a night. My monthly budget for alcohol is $3k and most of that goes toward tips. I'm a good tipper. I tip for good service, but I also tip extra (always over 100% and often $100 or more) if the bartender chats with me. Like I said, this is a cope. I can afford it, so whatever.
I'm aware that there are whales tipping a lot more. One bartender told me that she worked at a strip club and there was a guy dropping $3k a week. So, I know I'm not on that level, but I'm giving them enough money that they all know my name and act (which is about to be my point) happy to see me when I come in.
Thought some people would like to know what that's like. Spoiler: bit of a black pill.
First thing: I'm not autistic, so I've never mentioned anything "pill-related" - I pretend to be a normie. I also don't ask female bartenders out; don't try to get their numbers or socials; don't flirt with them. But, if the bar is empty (and when you drink as much as I do, you're going to occasionally be the only one there) they'll chat with me, and it's very often very eye-opening.
I have 100 stories but one recent one was a girl at the start of her shift wearing a shirt with the bar's logo. Totally normal thing, but she felt the need to explain it to me. She had closed the night before and gone home with a guy. Then she ubered back to the bar for her next shift, and needed a clean shirt. So she took one from the back office. "har har" what a funny story!!
What jumps out to me about this is that chad is not expected to give her a lift to work, or better yet take her to her own house so that she can change. I bet he didn't even pay for the uber. And this is totally normal - or should I say, normalized. The men who get sex are not the men who are helpful or protective or committed. The only way that story could be better is if she had called a simp to come pick her up. There's a different group of men who are helpful and who provide, and they aren't in the group that gets sex.
Am *I* expecting to get sex?? Hell no! I'm not retarded. I'm like a Zen Buddhist. I accept things. I know how the world works. I'm just explaining to you, if you ever thought to yourself that having money would change things, that you're wrong.
Another story (and another bar): I got there at 7 which is right when the shifts change. A bartender I've known for literally years, and given thousands to in tips, is counting her drawer. Incoming girl gives me a drink and I say thanks and then dive into my phone. Outgoing girl finishes up and then comes around to sit at the bar. She sits by a guy - I've seen him before so he's a regular. They chat for a while, then she leaves (I half expected them to leave together).
Again, am *I* expecting anything?? No! I'm just pointing out that when I'm not a customer, they don't want to have anything to do with me. Not even to walk by and say "hi" on their way out the door.
In the interests of science, I have gone in earlier and stayed past her shift - several times in fact. When her shift is done, I cash out and tip a lot. I paid the tab (plus a tip) on credit card then dropped a $100 bill in for good measure. She comes back and says "thank you." I say "you're welcome, have a good rest of your night." Then I open a tab with the incoming bartender and wait. Twice this girl sits at the bar, has her post-shift drink, then leaves.
And again, that's totally fine with me. I still go in there. My behavior doesn't change. I'm just telling you guys what it's like.
One more story. This one is from last night. A bartender that I've known for almost 10 years. Often talks about feminist stuff. Has even talked about FDS. I'm smart enough to be able to play along (I'm actually very good at it). She tells me about going off on a guy who was "buying a girl drinks that she didn't want." I do my best shocked pikachu face and say, "that's pretty creepy huh?" She agrees that it is. Fortunately, I have never made the mistake of buying a girl a drink, and I've definitely never tried to pick anyone up.
Here's what's funny. I get pretty hammered (it wasn't the first bar I'd been to last night). I tried to flag her down to cash out, but she didn't see me, but she did see my drink was empty, so she makes me another one. When she brings it to me, I say (in slurred speech) "hmm, did I order this?" and she says, "lol no but I made it anyway." I say (thinking about the story she just told me an hour ago), "well maybe I don't want it!" She says, "you know you do."
I say "okay, but cash me out." She does. She charges me for the drink I didn't want. I pay (and tip well) but I physically can't drink the whole thing, so I leave. And I'm just stuck thinking about the irony. She tells a guy off for buying a girl drinks "that the girl didn't want" even though the guy paid for them. And then, on that very night, she gets me a drink that I don't want, and I still pay for it.
And so, I wanted to post this thread. It's a black pill. Whatever your social status is, my friends, it's not because you're poor. You could be significantly above the median in terms of wealth, and have lots of money to throw around, and it wouldn't change things.
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