Toxic Femininity Does your Mom badmouth you on the phone to relatives/friends?

[Koomersarj]

Happening to me as I write this thread JFL. I've always gotten the impression this was a brown ethnic trait, as I've primarily seen other brown ethnics complain about having this happen to them. I get the impression whites and Northeast Asians are less inclined to impose their problems on others and more about keeping home business within the home, though I'd bet a lot of white/NEA users' Moms are probably exceptions to this (or I might just be incorrect to racialize this behavior altogether lol)

 

[BurntIvoryKingcel]

used to brag about me. doesn't mention me anymore kek.

 

[Koomersarj]

used to brag about me. doesn't mention me anymore kek.

Brutal. At least she's not publicizing your issues, though

 

[Poopless One]

Surprisingly no. And I've said some awful shit to her out of alcoholic low inhib induced rage.

 

[Todd Thundercock]

used to brag about me. doesn't mention me anymore kek.

Same with my mom. It was stupid bragging like "Todd's so smart! Todd works so hard!" which really means I'm ugly and nobody cares about me.

 

[Koomersarj]

I would assume badmouthing to friends is likely an ethnic trait, but badmouthing to family members (since there's typically a higher level of trust there) is probably more just a narcy parent trait than anything

 

[psyop]

Yes and she’s too low IQ to understand the only person she’s making look bad is herself

 

[Diddy]

No because by making fun of me, she would be making fun of herself, and she wouldn't do that.

 

[BurntIvoryKingcel]

No because by making fun of me, she would be making fun of herself, and she wouldn't do that.

some parents aren't capable of realizing that trash doesn't make itself.

 

[PersonalityChad]

No (as far as i know at least)

 

[glutty]

I dunno nor I really cared if she did.
At least my mother is the only woman who ever did anything for me and i'm greatful for that.

 

[Rapistcel]

Happening to me as I write this thread JFL. I've always gotten the impression this was a brown ethnic trait, as I've primarily seen other brown ethnics complain about having this happen to them. I get the impression whites and Northeast Asians are less inclined to impose their problems on others and more about keeping home business within the home, though I'd bet a lot of white/NEA users' Moms are probably exceptions to this (or I might just be incorrect to racialize this behavior altogether lol)

Yes

 

[Paladin]

No clue tbh I never listen in

 

[Sonicfancel]

Yes. She always badmouths my education.

 

[Paladin]

used to brag about me. doesn't mention me anymore kek.

This used to happen but she'd exaggerate a good bit. There's definitely no semblance of anything to l brag about now though

 

[UnchargedSamsung]

My grandma from my paternal side does whenever I’m at a family meeting

Talks about how ugly I am and how much of a failure lazy no bum I am since I’m 19 and NEET lmao

Cool thing is that she thinks I dunno Spanish so she just badmouths me while speaking with relatives in front of me

 

[nullterror]

i learned when i was out of the country my immediate breadhaver told my relatives over the phone to pretend i’m not outwardly weird, up until that very point i’d thought it was okay to be myself in front of my family so that’s when i realized i really am hopeless.

people associated with me only care about how others perceive them in their embarrassment but to me this shakes me up the most off guard in a flight rotation and confirms the peeling i am of their wildest known mastery is bizarre to them, and have never met another of my kind to accept me as is. it’s when i realized there’s no point to somewhat ground down because my kind is hostile when i pull up on warranted notice and it’s made me question what’s so different when i’m not because i long gather patterns that tell me one difficult answer.

since i don’t relate to my kind i find myself in frequent disbelief. i remember shedding the most plain feelings from my eyes instead of keeping them back to spare for later bottled self-conscious rations until the spillover. of all things why did i have to be a critically far accountability figure to their objective cohesions in a situationally judgmental and frost prone intersected culture is what i thought then.

i don’t think much on it now just resigned myself to that fact not indued to anything anymore, there’s no predictably beneficial reason to take upon the extreme ends and accustoming gateway breadths limited yet in all too fully experimented between of how it would be when i exhaustively acknowledge my various reactions to them in order not to be disappointed

 

[Koomersarj]

Yes and she’s too low IQ to understand the only person she’s making look bad is herself

No because by making fun of me, she would be making fun of herself, and she wouldn't do that.

some parents aren't capable of realizing that trash doesn't make itself.

Yeah I wonder how so many don't get the concept that the parents who birthed/raised a kid are the people society will typically blame for how the kid turns out. If your kid is a trainwreck, that reflects poorly on your own genetics and child-rearing tactics

 

[Koomersarj]

Talks about how ugly I am

Is she cognizant of the fact that your genetics are partly hers?

 

[based_meme]

It happens to me too, but not often. There is certainly a racial component to it that increases the frequency and likelihood that his happens (South Asians and East Asians, I'd imagine), but judgmental and critical moms are everywhere.

 

[DarkStar]

used to brag about me. doesn't mention me anymore kek.

Same with my mom. It was stupid bragging like "Todd's so smart! Todd works so hard!" which really means I'm ugly and nobody cares about me.

This used to happen but she'd exaggerate a good bit. There's definitely no semblance of anything to l brag about now though

Yeah same here, my mom used to go on about how "smart her DarkStar" is, how I scored above most kids in most subjects at schools, how my teachers always praised my writing abilities, my curiosity, how i always asked good/unique questions, etc.

 

[General Franco]

Yeah same here, my mom used to go on about how "smart her DarkStar" is, how I scored above most kids in most subjects at schools, how my teachers always praised my writing abilities, my curiosity, how i always asked good/unique questions, etc.

Shit man, at least you got that. I achieved/did pretty much everything you listed and got no recognition for it.

 

[VoidTask]

My mother would use me as a shining example for my siblings until I proved to be her biggest failure.

 

[fakec3l]

I'd bet a lot of white/NEA users' Moms are probably exceptions to this

My mom is russian, over time shes settled the bad mouthing but its common for them to have no filter, especially when i was growing up

 

[Koomersarj]

Those who've voted on this poll are so far 50/50