Sir Silentium
𝕮𝖍𝖗𝖎𝖘𝖙𝖕𝖎𝖑𝖑𝖊𝖉
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When we are lacking a factor that biologically we need to have to survive and pass on genes - our body is naturally going to find ways to account and fill the gaps.
When the brain lacks something essential (connection, intimacy, belonging), it doesn’t shut down - it compensates. Such as:
Being easily attached to someone - due to a lack of friendships.
Being involved in oneitis/parasocial relationships - due to a lack of romantic real life interactions
What this is actually due to:
When the brain lacks something essential (connection, intimacy, belonging), it doesn’t shut down - it compensates. Such as:
Being easily attached to someone - due to a lack of friendships.
Being involved in oneitis/parasocial relationships - due to a lack of romantic real life interactions
What this is actually due to:
1. Compensation vs substitution
- The brain tries to replace what it’s missing with the closest available alternative
- No close friendships → overvaluing a single person
- No romantic interaction → attaching to the closest case of a romantic interaction, such as women online
2. Amplification effect
- The less you have of something, the more intensely you feel it
- Small signals (a reply, a glance, etc) get emotionally magnified
3. Reward system sensitivity
- When deprived, your dopamine system becomes more reactive
- This creates a loop similar to addiction
4. Emotional displacement
- Unmet needs don’t disappear - they get redirected
- Loneliness → romantic obsession
- Unused time → constant checking of someone’s profile → fixation on a person





