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Theory Biological Response to a lack of Connection

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When we are lacking a factor that biologically we need to have to survive and pass on genes - our body is naturally going to find ways to account and fill the gaps.
When the brain lacks something essential (connection, intimacy, belonging), it doesn’t shut down - it compensates. Such as:

Being easily attached to someone - due to a lack of friendships.
Being involved in oneitis/parasocial relationships - due to a lack of romantic real life interactions



What this is actually due to:

1. Compensation vs substitution

  • The brain tries to replace what it’s missing with the closest available alternative
  • No close friendships → overvaluing a single person
  • No romantic interaction → attaching to the closest case of a romantic interaction, such as women online

2. Amplification effect

  • The less you have of something, the more intensely you feel it
  • Small signals (a reply, a glance, etc) get emotionally magnified

3. Reward system sensitivity

  • When deprived, your dopamine system becomes more reactive
  • This creates a loop similar to addiction

4. Emotional displacement

  • Unmet needs don’t disappear - they get redirected
  • Loneliness → romantic obsession
  • Unused time → constant checking of someone’s profile → fixation on a person
 
this is why i can never truly lead a normal life even if i ascended. the damage is already done.
 
honestly a good summarization of how fucked inceldom is
 
I’ve never been obsessed with online women. I can’t relate to any of this
 
Monks don’t desire any of these things
 
I don't care if you used AI for the list, these are all truth nukes. It's very easy to fixate on something when you don't have a lot of external forces counteracting it. It's why I became so neurotic because I was just stuck in my head 90% of the time with no inhibitions to the contrary.
 
I don't care if you used AI for the list, these are all truth nukes.
Thanks, and yes I'm too retarded to browse pubmed skimming through sources when AI can summarise everything.

It's very easy to fixate on something when you don't have a lot of external forces counteracting it. It's why I became so neurotic because I was just stuck in my head 90% of the time with no inhibitions to the contrary.
Same here
 
I wish my mind was full of schizomaxxing and created some imaginary friend; the world becomes less lonely for people with an inner world
 
I wish my mind was full of schizomaxxing and created some imaginary friend; the world becomes less lonely for people with an inner world
Yeah bruh inner world is based
 
When we are lacking a factor that biologically we need to have to survive and pass on genes - our body is naturally going to find ways to account and fill the gaps.
When the brain lacks something essential (connection, intimacy, belonging), it doesn’t shut down - it compensates. Such as:

Being easily attached to someone - due to a lack of friendships.
Being involved in oneitis/parasocial relationships - due to a lack of romantic real life interactions



What this is actually due to:

1. Compensation vs substitution

  • The brain tries to replace what it’s missing with the closest available alternative
  • No close friendships → overvaluing a single person
  • No romantic interaction → attaching to the closest case of a romantic interaction, such as women online

2. Amplification effect

  • The less you have of something, the more intensely you feel it
  • Small signals (a reply, a glance, etc) get emotionally magnified

3. Reward system sensitivity

  • When deprived, your dopamine system becomes more reactive
  • This creates a loop similar to addiction

4. Emotional displacement

  • Unmet needs don’t disappear - they get redirected
  • Loneliness → romantic obsession
  • Unused time → constant checking of someone’s profile → fixation on a person
This is why Galatea v3 and other robowaifus are so important
Galatea neocities

 
When we are lacking a factor that biologically we need to have to survive and pass on genes - our body is naturally going to find ways to account and fill the gaps.
When the brain lacks something essential (connection, intimacy, belonging), it doesn’t shut down - it compensates. Such as:

Being easily attached to someone - due to a lack of friendships.
Being involved in oneitis/parasocial relationships - due to a lack of romantic real life interactions



What this is actually due to:

1. Compensation vs substitution

  • The brain tries to replace what it’s missing with the closest available alternative
  • No close friendships → overvaluing a single person
  • No romantic interaction → attaching to the closest case of a romantic interaction, such as women online

2. Amplification effect

  • The less you have of something, the more intensely you feel it
  • Small signals (a reply, a glance, etc) get emotionally magnified

3. Reward system sensitivity

  • When deprived, your dopamine system becomes more reactive
  • This creates a loop similar to addiction

4. Emotional displacement

  • Unmet needs don’t disappear - they get redirected
  • Loneliness → romantic obsession
  • Unused time → constant checking of someone’s profile → fixation on a person
I really hate how accurate this is
 
Its bc we are ND and other people since our birth treated us like shit. We have oneitis and we are getting attached easily bc everyone in our life rejected us and treated like weird neurodivergent „aliens”.
Best thing about this, we couldnt prevent anything that happened to us.
 
I really hate how accurate this is
Its bc we are ND and other people since our birth treated us like shit. We have oneitis and we are getting attached easily bc everyone in our life rejected us and treated like weird neurodivergent „aliens”.
Best thing about this, we couldnt prevent anything that happened to us.
Truth, this was all predetermined, nothing we can do about it.
 
When we are lacking a factor that biologically we need to have to survive and pass on genes - our body is naturally going to find ways to account and fill the gaps.
When the brain lacks something essential (connection, intimacy, belonging), it doesn’t shut down - it compensates. Such as:

Being easily attached to someone - due to a lack of friendships.
Being involved in oneitis/parasocial relationships - due to a lack of romantic real life interactions



What this is actually due to:

1. Compensation vs substitution

  • The brain tries to replace what it’s missing with the closest available alternative
  • No close friendships → overvaluing a single person
  • No romantic interaction → attaching to the closest case of a romantic interaction, such as women online

2. Amplification effect

  • The less you have of something, the more intensely you feel it
  • Small signals (a reply, a glance, etc) get emotionally magnified

3. Reward system sensitivity

  • When deprived, your dopamine system becomes more reactive
  • This creates a loop similar to addiction

4. Emotional displacement

  • Unmet needs don’t disappear - they get redirected
  • Loneliness → romantic obsession
  • Unused time → constant checking of someone’s profile → fixation on a person
Fuck everything
 
When we are lacking a factor that biologically we need to have to survive and pass on genes - our body is naturally going to find ways to account and fill the gaps.
When the brain lacks something essential (connection, intimacy, belonging), it doesn’t shut down - it compensates. Such as:

Being easily attached to someone - due to a lack of friendships.
Being involved in oneitis/parasocial relationships - due to a lack of romantic real life interactions



What this is actually due to:

1. Compensation vs substitution

  • The brain tries to replace what it’s missing with the closest available alternative
  • No close friendships → overvaluing a single person
  • No romantic interaction → attaching to the closest case of a romantic interaction, such as women online

2. Amplification effect

  • The less you have of something, the more intensely you feel it
  • Small signals (a reply, a glance, etc) get emotionally magnified

3. Reward system sensitivity

  • When deprived, your dopamine system becomes more reactive
  • This creates a loop similar to addiction

4. Emotional displacement

  • Unmet needs don’t disappear - they get redirected
  • Loneliness → romantic obsession
  • Unused time → constant checking of someone’s profile → fixation on a person
Life sucks
 
Scientists absolutely refuse to do any real studies on the effects of loneliness on the brain.
 
Adult animal studies of the effects of social isolation on HPA and SAM activity are reminiscent of two findings in the human literature: (a) chronic social isolation is associated with relatively consistent increases in HPA axis activity but little alteration in SAM catecholamine activity, and (b) *******the effects of chronic social isolation appear to be more dependent on the disruption of a social bond between a significant social pair******* (e.g., as indexed by behavioral measures of partner preference in animals or rated quality of relationships in humans) than isolation from others per se. The experimental research in adult animals further demonstrates that social isolation can have a causal effect on neuroendocrine functioning.
 
Lol. All the studies either focus on foids and their social media use, ie feeling like they are being left out of some big celebrity psyop or party; some boomer alcoholic who needs "to be praised as self-esteem = mediation of loneliness," Covid-19 loneliness or boomer loneliness due to stroke.

Almost no studies on younger men.
 
It's very easy to fixate on something when you don't have a lot of external forces counteracting it. It's why I became so neurotic because I was just stuck in my head 90% of the time with no inhibitions to the contrary.
 
I wish my mind was full of schizomaxxing and created some imaginary friend; the world becomes less lonely for people with an inner world
Basically me as I have an imaginary gf and have regular daydreams. Works for me
 
Its bc we are ND and other people since our birth treated us like shit. We have oneitis and we are getting attached easily bc everyone in our life rejected us and treated like weird neurodivergent „aliens”.
Best thing about this, we couldnt prevent anything that happened to us.
 

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