I'm a 24 year old guy and I have been into the red pill since I was 17. I have constantly read RP literature, lifted weights, tried to utilize an understanding of female behavior to implement RP behaviors of my own. I was...unsuccessful to say the least. During college I largely failed at dating. In fact from 20 onwards I did not so much as receive a kiss on the cheek from a girl and I felt terrible about myself. I was also addicted to porn and masturbation.
When I left for army basic training last october (shortly after I turned 23) I instantly noticed that I was having a great time talking to all the females and they somehow seemed to be attracted to my skinny, pale, shaved head self. One girl I snuck away to make out with a few times, which is the first time I had kissed a girl in 3 years. Then in AIT (the training after basic where you have a little more freedom to get away with stuff) I hung out with two very pretty girls the whole time. One of them gave me blowjobs in a broom closet twice. At that point I still had a short buzz cut and didn't even look that great. But the girls liked me and it was an amazing boost to my confidence. I could have gotten into a lot of trouble if I was caught but it was 110% worth it.
When I returned from training the pandemic hit and I lost all the muscle I gained at basic training due to isolation and a resurgence of my depression. And even so, many girls have shown interest in me this summer. The girls on the dating apps love my army pictures. I have hooked up with 3 different girls over the summer until I started dating my new girlfriend last month. She works at the coffee place I go to and after we had been talking every day a while she wrote her number on my cup. obviously I promptly asked her out after that. I have fucked her 35 times in 5 weeks (I know because of the # of condoms I have used), more than all the times that I had sex before I met her. She says straight up to me "I love having sex with you".
My girlfriend is not a supermodel but she looks great to me. The fact that she 100% meets my standards in terms of looks blows my mind. I always thought that I would have to date a girl who is fat or asian (nothing wrong with asian girls, it's just a fact they tend to date white guys at a lower standard. But I am not attracted to them). But she is not fat, she's white (jewish like me) has a nice ass and tits and is cute. Also she is 18.
When I am with her I think about RP principles all the time. We talk a lot so when notice I am getting shit tested and I take care to say the right things and change the subject with her when necessary. I don't overshare with her. I don't compliment her too much. I don't text her too much and I don't act clingy. I pay for our takeout (thanks covid) a few times a week but otherwise don't spend money on her. Most importantly I am very physical with her whenever we are together, we fuck multiple times every time we hang out. All of these things I learned years ago on TRP but never had the opportunity to actually use them. Now it is all coming together.
The one thing I did against the RP doctrine was entering an LTR and I will address that. I have concluded this is the best strategy for me at this moment. For one there is a pandemic right now. I fully intend to fuck this one girl at least 1 thousand times, and I have no problem turning down other girls so that I can accomplish that goal. Also I feel very comfortable holding my frame in this exclusive relationship as she was the one who decided to get involved with me in the first place. So obviously she has to be in the relationship on my terms. She knows I have a bunch of female friends and whether it's true or not, probably thinks that I would have no problem dumping her and getting a new girlfriend. For that reason, this LTR seems to be working great so far. If everything goes according to plan, I will continue to fuck her all the time for the next year until she goes to college (she is taking a gap year right now). If our relationship ends at that point, I will be fine with it.
Lessons learned: Not much changed in my life except for joining the army. I am in the national guard (kind of like the reserves but with more opportunities to get involved) and I was lucky enough to land a full time national guard job within a few months (that was always my plan). Active duty is a pretty good gig too as you work full time right off the bat. Either way you go through the same 5-7 months of training depending on what job you have. This has many benefits like getting you off drugs/alcohol/porn/masturbation, taking your phone away so you develop social skills, dealing with stress and challenges so you become less of a pussy, and of course building muscle. Basic training was easily the best experience of my life so far.
At the end of the day, my efforts to be "red pilled" and "confident" were useless as I didn't have shit to be confident about. Girls can see through that and I just came off as a jaded autist. Girls certainly don't want to date unemployed guys, but they also don't want to date guys who make minimum wage or only 15 an hour (even if they themselves make minimum). Now that I make 50k a year girls look at me with more respect. It has nothing to do with gold digging because paying for a few meals is fucking nothing. If anything it actually has more to do with my personal confidence and feeling good about myself because I feel like I have a purpose in life. Girls notice.
For young guys out there who are feeling lost, joining the army is a great option. Active or reserve component, before or after college, it depends on what is right for you. But I can't stress it enough how enlisting has made me so much happier and more fulfilled.
Finally, never give up. It might take you a long time to actually benefit from the red pill. I am glad that I never gave into the idea that I was not attractive enough or I was doomed to be an incel forever. Everything you read here about your behavior, actions, and status being the key to attracting women is true and correct. As a man, you can change for the better and women will start to flock to you.
Hope you enjoyed my post, and thanks for reading.
