Are you a self-fulfilling prophecy?

[D. B. Gooner]

A self-fulfilling prophecy is a psychological phenomenon where an initially false belief or expectation leads to behaviors that cause that expectation to come true.

I've always felt I was boring and unworthy of attention. I am deathly afraid of being listened to. I never speak for more than 20s at a time, because I feel as if I am stealing people's attention away and not rewarding them with an interesting enough thought as a return.

This has always haunted me. Back when I had outlets for socialization like school, I'd make a "friend", they'll be more extroverted than me, I'd start feeling as if I'm too boring for them, so I'll start shutting myself off, then I'll end up becoming truly boring as a result of this belief. I've lost many "friends" this way.

But the more I overhear what normal people talk about daily, the more I realize they're boring as fuck. Then I become infuriated with envy over the fact that these people who are more boring than me speak so much more and feel no shame over it.

Is this common?

 

[fokusin]

Yes because of employment issues

 

[fokusin]

I told myself I will have no future cause I don't work hard and it's coming true

 

[rxkrd72]

I told myself I will have no future cause I don't work hard and it's coming true

brutal

 

[superpsycho]

I've always felt I was boring and unworthy of attention. I am deathly afraid of being listened to. I never speak for more than 20s at a time, because I feel as if I am stealing people's attention away and not rewarding them with an interesting enough thought as a return.

same

brutal lack of positive reinforcement pill

 

[SlayerSlayer]

yeah because I was born genetic trash

 

[McFlurryCel]

I guess our thoughts will show in our behaviors too

 

[LeFrenchCel]

Yes

 

[Morbilius]

I told myself I will have no future cause I don't work hard and it's coming true

Same here

 

[Grodd]

It was over from the start

 

[hunter x atomics]

A self-fulfilling prophecy is a psychological phenomenon where an initially false belief or expectation leads to behaviors that cause that expectation to come true.

I've always felt I was boring and unworthy of attention. I am deathly afraid of being listened to. I never speak for more than 20s at a time, because I feel as if I am stealing people's attention away and not rewarding them with an interesting enough thought as a return.

This has always haunted me. Back when I had outlets for socialization like school, I'd make a "friend", they'll be more extroverted than me, I'd start feeling as if I'm too boring for them, so I'll start shutting myself off, then I'll end up becoming truly boring as a result of this belief. I've lost many "friends" this way.

But the more I overhear what normal people talk about daily, the more I realize they're boring as fuck. Then I become infuriated with envy over the fact that these people who are more boring than me speak so much more and feel no shame over it.

Is this common?

Not really tbh, i was very bluepilled for most of my life. i genuinely put an active effort into working out, talking to people and getting with girls. never worked out. i would read books like 'how to make friends' or watch videos about how to socialize and appear less neurotic. never got anything out of it. But who knows

 

[D. B. Gooner]

Not really tbh, i was very bluepilled for most of my life. i genuinely put an active effort into working out, talking to people and getting with girls. never worked out. i would read books like 'how to make friends' or watch videos about how to socialize and appear less neurotic. never got anything out of it. But who knows

But if you felt the need to read about socialization clearly you felt you were lacking in it. If anything, reading about it would only make you believe you're more of an outcast.

 

[hunter x atomics]

But if you felt the need to read about socialization clearly you felt you were lacking in it. If anything, reading about it would only make you believe you're more of an outcast.

True

 

[Shark]

yeah because I was born genetic trash

 

[VλREN]

I guess our thoughts will show in our behaviors too

 

[xek000000kk]

Yes because of employment issues

 

[DigitalWombat]

yeah because I was born genetic trash

 

[Paladin]

Probably to some degree especially within the last 2 years or so I have started expecting myself to fail at basically everything I try - that attitude didn't exactly come from nowhere but I honestly do think I have overly negative expectations when it comes to some things now, even in things I think I'm below average at I think I exaggerate those flaws in my head a little bit more now compared to what I used to.

 

[X-MALICUR]

Partly. However, this is categorically true of everyone who has a scant sense of pragmatism and realistic expectations of themselves. Self fulfilling prophecies don't happen in a vacuum either, they'll usually reactive of something real that you've experienced time and time again - reciprocation.

For example, 6'5 terachad is never going to have any self-fulfilling prophecies, neither would a transcendental genius like newton or tesla. Self fulfilling prophecies are the plight of the unexceptional and more so, the outcasted. It's all a cope - to think you would have ended up orders of magnitude different if you all ever did was just do a few different choices.

 

[D. B. Gooner]

Partly. However, this is categorically true of everyone who has a scant sense of pragmatism and realistic expectations of themselves. Self fulfilling prophecies don't happen in a vacuum either, they'll usually reactive of something real that you've experienced time and time again - reciprocation.

For example, 6'5 terachad is never going to have any self-fulfilling prophecies, neither would a transcendental genius like newton or tesla. Self fulfilling prophecies are the plight of the unexceptional and more so, the outcasted. It's all a cope - to think you would have ended up orders of magnitude different if you all ever did was just do a few different choices.

Well I just found out that self-fulfilling prophecies are common amongst avoidant personalities. I don't like psychological disorders as labels as I believe them to be massive oversimplifications of one's mental state, but if I had to use one, it would be Avoidant Personality Disorder, I'm literally perfectly described by it.

Just like that "disorder", the self-fulfilling prophecy thing comes from me being constantly shamed and undervalued as a child by my mom.