My Experience as a 200+ LB Woman on Tinder
Standing 5'7.5 and weighing in at 205 lbs, I have a BMI of 32. I am obese. In fact, I am so obese that my Primary Care Physician mentions this to me during every visit. I am also 37, way over the magic age of 25 that women are never supposed to age beyond. And on top of all that, I am U-G-L-Y. There are many ways to confirm this. Ugly enough that some of my friends even ask what photos I use when I show them some of my matches.
I also came up during the days of chatrooms and people would stop talking to me once we did a photo exchange. I wasn't even obese back then! That was an embarrassing, hurtful, and shameful time. However, now that I can readily accept being ugly and talking about it, it has really improved my outlook on dating apps. I am never going to get the A-Listers of dating apps. I do get some B-Listers though. Considering I am an F-Lister, I have nothing to complain about.
As an ugly AND fat woman I put up with a lot of disrespect, but I am happy to say there are a lot of men and women on dating apps that are not shallow. I have no idea what my match rate is, but I know it is low. I do get 1000s of likes, but I am only interested in maybe 3% which is very, very bad and feels like getting almost no likes. Anyway, the young millennials say "pic or it didn't happen" so I pulled a recent chat. It is redacted quite a bit to protect identifying information, but you get the general idea. I can swing a 6'2, fit, handsome man being the complete opposite.
Tinder sucks for me compared to average (weight or looks) women, but I don't let it get me down. I am grateful for the people who take a chance on me. I would like to end this narrative about how fat chicks are low quality, because we are all more than our bodies.
My three keys to success are: being older, looking poised, and being entertaining. I would get nowhere if it weren't for these things.
(It has been brought to my attention by Redditors that I use too many emojis. My matches don't seem to mind.)
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