Blackpill "You have to love yourself for others to love you"

[Balding Subhuman]

Thoughts? Why the fuck do normies say this always?

In all honesty all I ever hear is people saying this to men, I've never seen anyone saying this to a woman. It does seem a tad bit sexist. Almost like 'man up.'

I constantly see people, but especially women, having morbid self-esteem issues and they have no problems finding people to date. It seems like having a poor self-esteem, even when its an accurate estimation of yourself, is somehow blamed on you like its a moral failure. Oh, you're ugly and women don't find you attractive, just be delusional and just think you're good looking and women will suddenly like you. Like what?

'Just think you're attractive and likeable.' Like narcissists always think, even when they are total asses?

 

[DarkStar]

it's because foids get unconditional love, whereas for men we have to be gaslight into thinking we get it

 

[SuperKanga.Belgrade]

People forget to understand the effect of positive reinforcement. And typically that only comes from being born better looking.

How am I supposed to love myself if all my life I have been picked on and bullied?

 

[Epedaphic]

yeah, i hate to hear this

I think it's an easy way for people to dismiss men expressing concerns about not having romantic success. "You are complaining about not having a relationship, so you just don't love yourself enough." It's such a typical reddit platitude, that at first comes across as "deep" or "wise" but when you spend 5 seconds thinking about it, it makes no logical sense. When someone is assessing their desire for a stranger, how on earth would they know how that person feels about him or herself? Mind-reading? And not only that, but people in relationships are not allowed to have issues with self-esteem, or their relationship immediately terminates?

But, the usefulness of the phrase is that it catches the person off-guard with its absurdity, places blame on the man expressing the concerns, and allows for the conversation to shift to another topic that's more comfortable for the person saying the phrase, while re-affirming their ego and their belief that they are correct.

'Just think you're attractive and likeable.' Like narcissists always think, even when they are total asses?

This is a good point, there is an aspect of solipsism to it, which is very narcissistic.

 

[Mrocznykichajnik]

They say this when they have no arguments against blackpill. They're trying to look kind, in order to not lose their social standing.

As you said, issues with self-esteem are a problem... but only when it's an unattractive male that has them (how surprising). If it's a foid she just "needs some time", "needs extra attention and love"

I hate matriarchy

 

[chowasright]

A bunch of nonsense that I never understood but then again nothing normies say makes sense lol it's all cope.