Venting You guys don't yearn for "true love", you yearn for a sense of belonging

[Invalidusername]

Some of us are conditioned to think we need true love, however the issue arises once you consider the rate of divorces compared to the west vs the east. Why do more divorces occur with countries that allow you to freely pick, choose, date, or whatever with anyone (which unfairly give chad and femoids an advantage) as opposed to countries that establish arranged marriages and incorporate marriage with religion and family, if "true love" exists right?

But then again, why does this force of supposed love have devasting affects on people? For example, you see how MGTOW describes their divorces as being mentally, psychologically and even phsycially devastating? How does such affects happen over a supposed illusion?

Basically, the perceived notion of "true love" (that is found prominently in the west) can be broken down into 2 main things once you remove the societal drapes:

sex and belonging, which are human needs

the way you guys fantasise about a femoid giving you "true love" is you merely associating your need to belong to the societal illusion of "true love".

which brings me to the title, that we don't yearn for "true love" but instead we yearn for belonging.

I mean, is it a coincidence that the majority of this site has mental issues, and development issues? the majority of this site has depression, anxiety, social anxiety, autism, and so on- and its not even limited to that seeing there's a few members that even have schizophrenia.

How does a community attract so many mentally ill individuals?

It's also been established that the majority of this site has issues with socialising and have difficulty/inability to make friends of even communicate with other humans. This entire community was so depraved of human interaction that we created an entire community that makes complete losers feel like they belong.

So what I'm trying to say is, I feel we have less of a foid problem and more of a normalfag problem. I feel due to normalfags ostracising, socially excluding, mocking, embarrassing, neglecting, rejected (and so on), we have become disfunctional human beings that are unable to be compentant with everyday interactions that are necessary for our wellbeing.

Due to this harsh treatment, we are forced into isolation resulting in us becoming socially inept, which further reinforces our seemingly never ending nightmare, the nightmare of never belonging.

I mean it makes sense once you consider the effects of loneliness and isolation:

-be as harmful as smoking 15 cigarettes a day

-higher stress levels

-heart disease

-higher chance of developing a disability

-increased vulnerability to chronic illnesses (such as diabetes)

-increases a person's risk of death by 30%

-depression

-dementia

-social anxiety

-low self esteem

-and so on

And why do you experience all this life threatening effects? bc normalfags hate u for ur face and ur low status, that's why. We are hard wired to be accepted by the tribe, and being cast out usually meant death.

Which again leads me to my main point again, which is that I think we "misdirect" our need to belong to "true love" which is why we all badly yearn for a gf to the point that it makes this community suicidal. I feel if we were accepted by our peers, and wasn't forced to walk in the cold on our own, most of us wouldn't even be on this board (or on this board as frequent as some of us are), despite not having a gf.

And I feel this is why people like MGTOW experience the same feeling to which one feels when they're socially excluded and isolated. Because of this misassociation

(people need to go back to religious marriages tbh ngl ded srs)

Some sources n related shit:

Health Effects of Social Isolation and Loneliness – Aging Life Care Association™

www.aginglifecarejournal.org

The neurobiology of human social behaviour: an important but neglected topic

The brain opioid theory of social attachment: a review of the evidence

Abstract The psychology of close human relationships is increasingly well understood and our understanding of the neurobiology of the onset of pairbonding behaviour in a range of species has benefited from the use of rodent-based models. However, the human literature has suffered from a lack of...

brill.com

NYAS Publications

nyaspubs.onlinelibrary.wiley.com

(defo read this ^)

ded srs

 

[Deleted member 15752]

True love does not even exist in the first place. And you will never have a sense of belonging anywhere. And the only sense of sex you will have to resort to is paid.


In other words, it is devastatingly over and loneliness has severe impacts until you become numb.

 

[Invalidusername]

True love does not even exist in the first place. And you will never have a sense of belonging anywhere.

Normalfags belong to each other

And I was explaining how people misdirect the need to belong to "true love", which explains the similar symptoms

 

[Deleted member 14866]

>you guys

 

[Invalidusername]

>you guys

U can't deny that you've seen people on this board yearning for a "true love gf" now

In other words, it is devastatingly over and loneliness has severe impacts until you become numb.

 

[mcfroggy]

Agreed. Once you've been excluded from the tribe you can never live again, because your body and mind perceive it as death. When you are alone in the wild you're dead. The only ppl that can recover from mental illness or tragedy are the ones who have friends and family, or at least a good childhood. I've literally never heard of someone with a shitty childhood/excluded for a long time who have made a decent life for themselves.

 

[Handflappingcel]

the irony posting is actually starting to fuck with me ngl. you got cels ironically unironically irony posting and making a joke out of their own suffering.

I understand that nothing makes any sense.

 

[A10n3]

Over 9000 IQ post!
Everything make sense and is relatable.
To put it in a nut shell : inceldom isn't the cause of our misery, it's a symptoma of some much deeper problems, which are basically difficulties to integrate to society, ie social isolation, which directly leaves us with the feelin of "not belonging".
"Invalidusername" thx! This is one of the most interesting thread I have ever read.

 

[Deleted member 14805]

Jesus Christ another High IQ topic being shoved aside. Seriously everyone this topic needs more recognition.

As for the thread at hand, yes I can surely relate, being bullied, dealing with family issues and the like can have serious effects on one's mental and physical development, it's no surprise that many who post here would talk about being bullied, having family issues, loneliness and the like and develop issues from depression, anxiety, anger problems, hopelessness and suicidal feelings from being treated like an outcast your whole life, what makes it worse is not many people care for us or our problems simply because we're men, and sadly men have no value in society than be worker drones. It's really sad that it's come down to this.

The only good thing we're doing is not bringing genetic failures into this world for them to suffer and become jaded, hateful, cynical or worse turn into a mass shooter. So them's the works, the only thing we can do is just cope until we die, because let's face it, no matter how right we are, no matter what statistics or scientific data we present, no one will listen, nor care and no changes will be made.

So just find some good copes and endulge yourself in them until you die.

 

[Deleted member 8353]

That was probably why I initially became like this sure, but I don't really care about being accepted by normies anymore, I'm too disgusted with human behavior. Perhaps I could've been a societal boot licking, horizon chasing NPC had I not been treated like shit by people since I was a kid. While I'm not sure that it's much of a loss from my perspective, I guess I probably would've avoided going through years of depression and isolation.

 

[pp183]

true love does not exist

 

[Salustio]

-higher stress levels

Lower stress levels.

Also. Love does not exist. Santa Claus does not exist. God does not exist. Marriage is bad for men.

 

[Schizoidcel]

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True, I probably have unfixable brain damage from all those years of complete isolation.
You can LDAR/hermitmaxx for a few years, voluntarily or not, but in the end it turns you into even more of a vegetable and it's a hole that's very hard (or impossible) to get out of as a lone male with zero outside support.

 

[Invalidusername]

When you are alone in the wild you're dead.

Basically this

you got cels ironically unironically irony posting and making a joke out of their own suffering.

Laughter is therapeutic sometimes

inceldom isn't the cause of our misery, it's a symptoma of some much deeper problems, which are basically difficulties to integrate to society, ie social isolation, which directly leaves us with the feelin of "not belonging".

which is why we have this community yes

As for the thread at hand, yes I can surely relate, being bullied, dealing with family issues and the like can have serious effects on one's mental and physical development, it's no surprise that many who post here would talk about being bullied, having family issues, loneliness and the like and develop issues from depression, anxiety, anger problems, hopelessness and suicidal feelings from being treated like an outcast your whole life, what makes it worse is not many people care for us or our problems simply because we're men, and sadly men have no value in society than be worker drones. It's really sad that it's come down to this.

Fucking bang on, tbh (ded srs)

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I guess I probably would've avoided going through years of depression and isolation.

Cant forget that normalfags pushed you into depression and isolation for reasons that was beyond your control

Lower stress levels.

nope:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/24588822//

True, I probably have unfixable brain damage from all those years of complete isolation.
You can LDAR/hermitmaxx for a few years, voluntarily or not, but in the end it turns you into even more of a vegetable and it's a hole that's very hard (or impossible) to get out of as a lone male with zero outside support.

there's only so much isolation a person can go thru until they lose it

 

[Deleted member 101]

I hate yearning for love when it doesn’t exist
I’ve been sold a dirty lie

 

[StaroRavager]

This entire community was so depraved of human interaction that we created an entire community that makes complete losers feel like they belong.

It’s both beautiful and impressive but also sad at the same time

 

[Mystic]

That was probably why I initially became like this sure, but I don't really care about being accepted by normies anymore, I'm too disgusted with human behavior. Perhaps I could've been a societal boot licking, horizon chasing NPC had I not been treated like shit by people since I was a kid. While I'm not sure that it's much of a loss from my perspective, I guess I probably would've avoided going through years of depression and isolation.

 

[Invalidusername]

It’s both beautiful and impressive but also sad at the same time

 

[GreaseCel]

Can we stop with the projecting threads. We’re all looking for something slightly different, but we all have the same problems keeping us from achieving those things.

 

[Ronaz]

I do want "true love" in the sense that I want the love I give reciprocated but I do realize that's a waste of time with foids.