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The rise of female infidelity
Wednesday Martin spoke to married women who consider infidelity despite not wanting to give up on their husbands. Women are 40 per cent more likely to cheat on their husbands now than in 1990.
Who Cheats More: Women or Men?
More men and women are guilty of cheating and infidelity, according to a new study. Here, relationship advice for those considering cheating.
Read these 2 articles THE ENTIRE FUCKIN ARTICLE. WARNING: ERFUEL DO NOT ENTER IF YOU OWN A GUN IN CALL OF DUTY.
most ragefuel quotes from the first article:
“Women are now 40 per cent more likely to cheat on their husbands than in 1990.”
They looked for men with the physical attributes they desired, and avoided those who seemed emotionally needy or who were looking for relationships.
If a man’s performance didn’t match up to expectations or he started getting too close they would move onto the next one without a second thought. They did the same when the feeling of exhilaration about being in a new sexual partnership faded.
Having chosen a husband or partner who did not satisfy them sexually, they were not going to make the same mistake in their affairs.
As Heather, 43, who also took part in the research, observed:, ‘I try to find men who won’t be clingy, and just want great sex.’
So has there been a shift in the way women experience desire? After all, this contradicts what we’re told so often about a women’s sexuality — that it’s women who have lower libidos than men, or are the ones who go off sex in relationships.
But new research is now helping us rediscover the truth about the female libido that had been forgotten due to hundreds of years of social convention and strict morality codes that ostracised women who are unfaithful or merely sexual.
What I’ve discovered — by talking to women (aged 20 to93) who’ve either cheated on their partners or considered it, and investigating scientific and evolutionary theories — is that women’s libidos are far stronger and more adventurous than we thought.
Until recently, women have tended to blame themselves for a lack of desire. Psychologists and other experts are suggesting, however, that it’s not that women lose interest in sex per se — it’s that they simply stop being interested in sex with their other half.
Marta Meana, a professor of clinical psychology, is following 19 women in a long-term study about low desire. They are all in enduring relationships they describe as happy. She agrees the issue of a sinking libido isn’t one of hormone levels or because it’s a turn off if he doesn’t pull his weight at home, but the fact that women are just more likely than men to lose interest in the same partner.
She says: ‘Marriage itself tends to make routine what was once transgressive and sexy in ways that especially impacts women, “over familiarising” our spouses in a fashion that we struggle with.’ Meana’s work suggests we women long for and respond to lustful gazes from strangers.
Her findings and other data contradict everything we’re told about women needing intimacy and familiarity to feel sexy.
While none of her study group have actually been unfaithful she says: ‘So many women experiencing low desire in long-term partnerships know that if they did step out, their desire would probably be back “like that”.’
While we tend to assume that men like to ‘sow their wild oats’ but women search for ‘the one’ some scientists suggest that it’s women, more than men, who actually need “the new” when it comes to sex. A 2017 study of more than 11,000 British men and women, aged 16 to 74, found women who lived with a partner were twice as likely as cohabiting men to lose interest in sex.
And apparently promiscuity is evolutionaryAnother survey found that in the first three years of a relationship, women were roughly twice as likely as men to become sexually bored.
One experiment led by Bio-psychologist Dr Meredith Chivers, involved men and women being shown pornographic films while their physical responses were monitored.
Fascinatingly, the bodies of women who described themselves as heterosexual responded to just about everything they saw, whether it was straight, gay or lesbian sex. Straight men, meanwhile, had narrower tastes — their bodies more predictably turned on by men and women, or women and women.
Dr Chivers, told me that not only does recent work in this area suggest that women’s desires are broader than previously thought, but that their libidos are also stronger than we’ve been led to believe.
In another experiment male and female participants watched an erotic film and then assessed their inclination to have sex.
Men and women reported almost identical degrees of desire. Another test revealed that female participants were just as turned on by the prospect of sex with a stranger as straight men were. According to Dr Chivers, the key to understanding the difference between men and women, is understanding the difference between responsive desire and spontaneous desire.
And the next article (written on November 1st, 2012) which shows that it increased from 2010 to 2012:While men may experience more spontaneous desire — they can go from 0-60mph very quickly — when it comes to responding to erotic stimulation women show levels of passion that rival, if not outdo, the men.
But why would women crave variety? After all since Darwin it’s been accepted that a woman is biologically programmed to seek out one mate who can provide for and protect her while she brings up her babies.
Meanwhile men are designed to spread their genetic material far and wide. If they have affairs it’s because their evolutionary make up means they just can’t help it. Right? Yet, the latest evolutionary research turns that whole idea on its head.
In fact, some scientists now suggest that it’s women who need new experiences to keep interested because of how things went in our evolutionary pre-history.
It turns out, there are sound evolutionary reasons why we are are programmed to get bored making love to the same man and lust after others.
Forget the popular image of the fur-clad caveman going off to hunt while his woman looks after their baby, there is a growing theory among anthropologists that we evolved not as monogamous pairs but as ‘co-operative breeders’. In this way of life, loose bands of men and women raised their young collectively, and very likely mated with multiple partners.
For early humans, female promiscuity was, under certain circumstances, a smart reproductive and social strategy.
A way to increase the likelihood of getting high-quality sperm and maximizing the chance that numerous males might be willing to support her during pregnancy and protect and feed her and her offspring.
It makes a lot of sense. Sleeping with a number of men, hedged against a single partner with poor fertility, could increase chances of being impregnated at your fertile time.
There’s also a theory that the unpredictable nature of a woman’s orgasm, the female capacity for multiple orgasm, and the need for cumulative stimulation to have an orgasm (‘build up’) was biology’s way of encouraging us to have sex with a variety of men in rapid succession.
If one man couldn’t give us sexual satisfaction in a single copulatory bout, perhaps another or another few could get us there.
It may be a comfort to many despairing wives to learn that their ‘disinterest in sex’ is actually sexual boredom, and is a likely part of a woman’s biological make up — and not because they don’t love their husbands.
For centuries the script has been written for us: women — unlike men — are not meant to be sexually voracious and we’ve been brought up to believe sexual satisfaction is not something we should be actively seeking out.
As more and more women now start to assert themselves in this area of their lives, some find themselves breaking society’s taboos — whether through infidelity or exploring more open relationships
Researchers had 918 men and women fill out an online questionnaire on whether or not they’ve cheated on their partners and why they did it. The results: 19 percent of women admitted to straying outside their relationship—that’s up 5 percentage points from the National Science Foundation’s General Social Survey in 2010. Men aren’t much better: 23 percent of them reported cheating, up 4 percent since 2010.
And it doesn’t help that a new study published in the journal Hormones and Behavior found that certain points in our cycles make us even more likely to doubt the dude we’re dating—particularly if he’s not over-the-top sexy. In the study, women were significantly more likely to find fault with their partners and feel less close to them during the high-fertility period than the low-fertility period of their cycles.
it was already rising in the 2000s
Love, Sex and the Changing Landscape of Infidelity (Published 2008)
More people are cheating, new studies find, and younger women appear to be catching up with men.
But detailed analysis of the data from 1991 to 2006, to be presented next month by Dr. Atkins at the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies conference in Orlando, show some surprising shifts. University of Washington researchers have found that the lifetime rate of infidelity for men over 60 increased to 28 percent in 2006, up from 20 percent in 1991. For women over 60, the increase is more striking: to 15 percent, up from 5 percent in 1991.
The researchers also see big changes in relatively new marriages. About 20 percent of men and 15 percent of women under 35 say they have ever been unfaithful, up from about 15 and 12 percent respectively.
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