Either you are an incel or you aren't. Its not like its a choice. Incel does not equal misogynist, they are two different terms.
You can scream all you want that you're not homeless when you're freezing in a cold dark alley without a roof over your head. It won't change the reality of your situation.
Just like an incel can cope and say how he's not an incel even though no woman has ever shown any interest in him. If you're over 20 and you're not celibate for a reason, you're an incel. Women don't want you. If they did, you would have gotten your dick wet already by that time.
But of course you can try to change your viewpoint and say "it doesn't matter to me" but the fact is that relationships and sexuality are important to people. Its not like you can just turn the wanting off. Even normies and people who have relationships grieve over the ending of relationships. Or the fact that they have been single for months or even years. But inkwell man bad if he wants to feel loved and wanted sexually.