I mean, an incel means "involuntary celibate" but at the same time people here who have escorts are still considered incels. So it is more of like a shared experience or trauma?
So an incel are involuntary celibates + people who only got sex through escorts under this definition.
Men who were raped as kids can still be incel as it wasnt consensual and voluntary in a strict sense probably. There are many nuances to this.
under the circumstance that he doesn’t leverage his money or status,
- an incel is building a friendship to a foid,
Nothing wrong with that. Incel ≠ hikikomori. An incel could be extroverted (but very ugly and ND) perhaps but it seems most like me are socially disfunctional
- an incel hugs a foid consensually,
Nothing wrong as well, this can happen with female friends without implying attraction in many cultures. It is just a way to say hello but some cultures may not have this due to being more reserved.
- an incel kisses a foid consensually,
I mean, this is still technically an incel. But in practice, 99% of members here never kissed a girl including me (excluding family of course) and would call this person a fakecel.
If you can kiss a girl than you can probably have sex at her as well so it is weird you didnt ascend.
By the way, some cultures also use kissing on the cheeks as a casual greeting even for strangers or acquaintances so this breaks down even more.
- an incel goes on date without having sex (and without planned copulation),
Nothing wrong about going on a date, other users here have done it. No sex involved.
- an incel gets a blowjob consensually (but doesn’t experience sexual penetration, which is the only form of conventional sex; so he only experiences sexual activity without properly losing his v-card)
I mean, at this point what is preventing you from just having sex lmao. Still technically an incel you could argue but in practice this person has already left most common lived experience of inceldom. A guy who received a blowjob could most probably get sex so you could argue he is a volcel.
Also, there is such a thing as receiving pity sex or a pity blowjob, these are consensual. It seems rare but perhaps one could argue they are still an incel if they cant get laid otherwise.
Raping or being raped doesnt remove inceldom in my view. These dont involve consent.
Escorts also dont count as they are based on money, not on who you are. Escorts would fuck anything, even if deformed, for cash
