The same applies probably also to other ethnic groups, but I can only speak out of the curry perspective.
One of the reasons why many curries (and probably other ethnics too) end up self-hating has to do with their upbringing and social background. Curry parents could unconsciously let their children to develop self-hate by teaching them to don't do certain things that will ruin their reputation or are associated with lower class people, to adapt to the white majority society and not attract negative attention, this can lead to behaviours that increases an obsession with your image and eventually lead to a twisted self-image. It is more prevalent among curries in USA and Canada because the majority of curries there come from middle and upper-class backgrounds, and the fear of "what will people say" is a distinctive feature of their culture and mentality, to differentiate themselves from those curries with traditional backgrounds like lower-class or village people. Self hate allows for others ethnicities to mock curries as a whole because it's easier to do it to a group that will not rebel or cause nuisance when provoked. Contrast this to curries in the UK whom come from traditional backgrounds and have less of the "what will people say" mindset allowing them to be less mocked and more feared.
One of the reasons why many curries (and probably other ethnics too) end up self-hating has to do with their upbringing and social background. Curry parents could unconsciously let their children to develop self-hate by teaching them to don't do certain things that will ruin their reputation or are associated with lower class people, to adapt to the white majority society and not attract negative attention, this can lead to behaviours that increases an obsession with your image and eventually lead to a twisted self-image. It is more prevalent among curries in USA and Canada because the majority of curries there come from middle and upper-class backgrounds, and the fear of "what will people say" is a distinctive feature of their culture and mentality, to differentiate themselves from those curries with traditional backgrounds like lower-class or village people. Self hate allows for others ethnicities to mock curries as a whole because it's easier to do it to a group that will not rebel or cause nuisance when provoked. Contrast this to curries in the UK whom come from traditional backgrounds and have less of the "what will people say" mindset allowing them to be less mocked and more feared.
