Forbidden sex
Posted by sasha on 05.08.2012-02: 17Written by Osho (Bhagwan Shri Rajneesh)
- Why has sex been banned among all nations throughout the history of mankind?
And you've probably seen how it's done. If you need to harness an ox to a cart, what will you do? You will castrate him. You will deprive him of sexual energy. Have you ever noticed the difference between an ox and an ox? What's the difference? An ox is just a thing, a slave. The bull is beauty itself: the bull is glorious, he is so magnificent. Look at how he walks, look at how he steps like an emperor! And then look at the ox pulling the cart...
The same thing was done with man: the sexual instinct was broken, curtailed, crippled. Now the man no longer looks like a bull, he drags like an ox. And each one pulls a thousand and one carts, which you are all harnessed to. Why is it impossible to harness a bull? The bull is too powerful for that. If he suddenly sees a cow walking by, he will forget you and the cart and go to the cow. It doesn't care a jot what you want, it won't listen to you. It cannot be controlled.
Sexual energy is the energy of life itself and cannot be curbed. Politicians and priests are not really interested in your well-being, they need to divert your energy to some other space. They use a certain mechanism that you need to know well. Prohibition of sex, suppressed sex, is the foundation of human slavery. And a person will not be free until his sexual energy is allowed to grow naturally.
And here are five ways in which a person was turned into a slave, into a freak, into a cripple:
First, make the person as weak as possible if you want them to listen to you. In order for a priest or politician to control you, you must be forced to be as weak as possible. Exceptions are allowed only in certain cases, for example, when you are required to serve in the army to defeat enemies, and only in this case. Many things are allowed in the army that are not allowed among other people. In the army, people are facing death, so they are allowed to be powerful, strong. After all, they are needed to kill enemies.
Other people's energy is damaged. They are forced to be weak in a thousand and one ways. And the best way to weaken a person is not to give freedom for love. Love feeds. Now psychologists have discovered that if a child does not receive enough love, it weakens and dries up. You can give him the best milk, you can give him medicine, you can give him everything you can, but just don't give love, don't hug, don't kiss, don't let him near you, and you will see that the child will become weaker and weaker. There will be more chances that he will die rather than survive.
Why is this happening? It is enough to hug, kiss, give a little warmth and the child feels nourished, accepted, sees that he is loved, that someone needs him. The child begins to feel his own importance, he feels some meaning in life.
We don't get enough love from childhood, we don't give our children as much love as they need. And then we forbid a young man and a girl to love each other before they get married. At the age of fourteen, they become sexually mature, but the education takes much longer - ten years longer. They need to get their diplomas, titles, degrees, so we start forbidding them to love.
Sexual energy reaches its peak around the age of eighteen. Never again will a man have such potency and never again will a woman be able to experience such an orgasm, which is possible only at eighteen. But we forbid them to have sex. We force young men to live separately from young women, and between them we erect the whole mechanism of the police, rectors, principals, and school teachers. All of them are involved as intermediaries, restraining boys in their desire to go to the girls, discouraging girls from going to the boys. What for? Why does it take so much effort? All these people are trying to kill the bull, turning it into an ox.
When you are eighteen, your sexual energy is at its peak. But when you get married , you're twenty-five, twenty-six, twenty-seven... and the years go on and on. The more civilized the country, the more you have to wait, because you still have a lot to learn, find a job, and so on. By the time you decide to start, your strength is already in decline. You start making love, but your love will never be so hot again, it will never reach the point where two people melt into each other, it will remain cool. And if you haven't experienced full love, you won't be able to love your children, because you won't know how. If you haven't experienced it yourself, can you teach your children? How can you then help them experience it for themselves?
So, throughout history, people have been forbidden to love in order to remain weak.
The second way: Make sure that the person remains in maximum ignorance and illusions, so that he can be deceived without much difficulty. And when it is necessary to turn him into a kind of idiot, which is necessary for priests and politicians in their common conspiracy, do not allow the person to love freely. Without love, the human mind grows dim. You've probably seen it happen. When you fall in love, all of a sudden all your abilities are revealed as much as possible, reaching their peak, a crescendo. Only a minute earlier you were so gloomy, and now you have met a woman... and suddenly a great joy burst into your soul: you're on fire. When people are in love, they live at the maximum. And when love disappears or when it is not there, they live at a minimum.
All great, truly intelligent people were the sexiest people. Understand that the energy of love is the basis of intelligence! If you cannot love, if you are cold, closed, you will not be carried by life. But when you fall in love, your life starts flowing. When a person is in love, he gets such confidence that he can reach the stars. Women bring inspiration. When a woman is loved, she becomes more beautiful. Immediately! Just a minute earlier, she was an ordinary woman, and suddenly love poured over her, and it was as if she was bathed in a new energy, an aura appeared around her - she began to move more gracefully, a dance appeared in her steps. Her eyes radiate such beauty, her face glows, she shines. The same thing happens with a man.
When people love, they live a full-blooded life. Don't let them love-and they will remain at a minimum. Sitting at the minimum, they remain stupid, ignorant, they do not feel any need to learn something. And when people are ignorant and stupid, it is even easier to deceive them. When people are sexually repressed, deprived of love, they start looking for another life, they start looking for a life in heaven, they dream of paradise - but they don't even think about creating a paradise right here and now.
When you're in love, heaven is here and now. Then all this is not interesting to you. Will you go to the priest then? Will you then be bothered by the desire to go to heaven? You're not interested anymore. But when the energy of your love is suppressed, you start thinking, " There's no point, life is empty. There must be a purpose in life, right?.." And you go to the priest and ask if there is a paradise. And it reveals to you a magnificent picture of heaven.
Sex was suppressed in such a way that you began to strive for the afterlife. And when people start striving for the afterlife, it's only natural that they're not interested in this one anymore.
Tantra teaches: This life is the only possible one. Tantra is against renunciation of this world, it does not avoid this life, it teaches you to live here. Enter this life. IT's all here! Enter this life and you will find everything else here. God is hidden in this very life. God is hiding somewhere here and now. And if you fall in love, you will feel it.
The third way: Make the person as scared as possible. Again, the best way is to stop him from loving, because love dispels fear. Love takes away the power of fear. When you fall in love, you stop being afraid. Then you can compete with the whole world. When you're in love, you're strong enough to do anything. But when you're not in love, even small things scare you. When you're not in love, you care about your safety. When you fall in love, you are drawn to adventure, to exploration.
People are not allowed to love because that is the only way to intimidate them. And as soon as they are afraid, they are ready to get down on their knees - to bow down to priests, to bow down to politicians. This is a great conspiracy against humanity. This is a great conspiracy against you! Your politicians and priests are your real enemies who pretend to serve the people. They say: "We are here to serve you, to make your life better. We are working to make your life really better", and in the meantime they themselves are eradicating life.
The fourth way: Make people as gloomy and unhappy as possible, because the unhappy person is confused, the unhappy person has no sense of self - esteem, he is a self-reproachful person. An unhappy person feels that they must have done something wrong. Unhappy people in life are unstable, their lives can be put on the right track. And an unhappy person is always ready to respond to a command, waiting for something to be pointed out to him, for some discipline to be given to him, because he thinks that in himself he is simply nobody. Maybe someone else will help to improve his life. And he is ready to become a victim.
The fifth method is to make people as alienated and alienated as possible, so that they don't dare approach each other without asking the approval of politicians and priests. Keep people away from each other, do not allow them intimacy. And once people are strangers to each other, it's hard for them to agree on anything. Thousands of tricks are designed to maintain aloofness.
For example: you're a man, you're walking down the road, you're holding your friend's hand, you want to sing - you'll immediately feel guilty, because people start looking at you with judgment: "Probably homosexuals or something." Two men have no right to be happy together. They are not allowed to hold hands, they are not allowed to hug. And, in addition, they are called blue. You are filled with fear.
Remember, did your father ever hug you? Or did your mother hug you after you became sexually mature? Why not? Out of fear. A young man embraces his mother. After all, between them there may be sex, some thought, some fantasy. Fear appears. Father and son-no, father and daughter-no, brother and sister - no, brother and brother-no.
People live in separate vaults, each behind the Great Wall, where each is absorbed in his own duties, where each faces a thousand and one barriers. And then one day, after 25 years of training, your wife is in front of you and you are allowed to have sex with her. But by this time, the training has entered you so deeply that you suddenly don't know how to do it. How to love? It turns out that you didn't go through it.
This is similar to the situation with a person who has not spoken for 25 years, he has always only listened. For twenty-five years, he hadn't been allowed to say a single word. And suddenly they put him on the podium and told him to read the report. What will happen? He will struggle, he will stumble, he may be scared to death. 25 years of silence and suddenly they are waiting for this report from him. This is simply not possible.
This is exactly what happens. Twenty-five years of judging love, constant fear, and suddenly you are officially allowed, you are given a license, according to which you can love this woman or this man. Here is your wife, you are her husband, you can start loving her. But what about twenty-five years of live training? You can't throw them away.
You can easily love at the gesture level. There will be no flash, there will be no orgasm. You will get very little. That's why you get frustrated after making love. 99 percent of people are disappointed after making love, becoming even more disappointed than they were before. They really feel that there is nothing in it, everything that is said about sex is not true. Politicians and priests first keep you from loving, and now they come and preach that there is nothing in sex. And, of course, their message seems to be correct, they say exactly what you have experienced yourself. First you are allowed to experience futility and frustration, and then you are taught how to get rid of it. And everything looks logical - like a real teaching.
This is a great trick, the greatest that has ever been played on humanity. These five techniques are the result of a single taboo on love. You can do anything with a person, you just need to forbid people to love each other and this was developed in a scientific way, it was a top-level art. It was simply masterful. And we should be aware of this taboo.
First: it is hidden, it is indirect, it is not visible, because when the taboo becomes obvious, it loses its power. The taboo must be so hidden that you could not even imagine that such a thing is possible. Taboos should be placed not in the conscious mind, but in the subconscious. How to make it so subtle and indirect?
The following trick is used: first, they preach and exalt love, so that people will never think that priests and politicians are against love. They go and talk about the need for love for each other, and then they don't allow a situation to happen in which love could arise. They just don't allow it, they don't give you any opportunity. They teach you that it is necessary to eat, that only food gives you the highest pleasure: "Eat-eat as much as you want." And the table is not set. Keep people hungry by continuing to talk about love.
That's why all priests talk about love. They put love above all else, second only to God, but they cut off any possibility of it happening. They openly support love, but indirectly cut all the roots. Simply masterful... But the priest will not tell you about his destructive methods. Imagine saying to a tree: "You are green, you need to strive for the sun: bloom and rejoice," and start pruning the roots. The tree dries up. And when the tree is withered, you start jumping around it and yelling, " I told you so! And you don't listen. You don't do what we tell you to do. We tell you all the time to be green, to bloom, to rejoice, to dance...", meanwhile you continue to prune the roots.
Love is so shunned that it has become the rarest thing in the world - should it be rejected? If a man can love five, he must love five. If a man can love fifty, he must love fifty. If he can love a hundred, he must love a hundred. Love is so rare that the more you can share it, the better.
But there is a trick against this. You are led into a narrow, very narrow corridor: you can only love your wife, you can only love your husband, you can only love this, you can only love that, and there are too many conditions. Imagine if a law came out that allows you to breathe only when you are next to your wife, or you can only breathe when you are next to your husband. Then breathing will simply become impossible. You will die, and eventually you will not be able to breathe, even when you are with your wife or husband.
After all, you need to breathe twenty-four hours a day. And the more you breathe, living together with your chosen one...
Love it.
But again the trick: they talk about the highest love, crippling the lowest. They say that there is a low love that must be rejected, that physical love is something low, and spiritual love is something high. Have you ever seen a spirit without a body? Have you ever seen a house without a foundation? The lowest love is the foundation of the highest. The body is your foundation, and the spirit lives in the body, above the body. You are the spirit incarnate in the body and the body living in the spirit. It's the same thing. The lower is inseparable from the higher-they are different rungs of the same ladder.
This is what Tantra wants to show: that the lower should not be rejected, that it should be transformed into the higher. There is nothing wrong with the lowest. But if you're stuck at the bottom, then you're the problem, not the bottom. What's wrong with the lowest rung of the ladder? If you get up on it, then this is your stop, the problem is somewhere in you.
Move, don't stand still.
There's nothing wrong with sex. It's bad if you're stuck on it. Go higher. The higher is not against the lower; on the contrary, the lower enables the higher to exist.
All these tricks gave rise to a huge number of problems. Every time you fall in love, for some reason, you start to feel guilty: there is a sense of guilt, and you can't go deeper into love. Guilt stops you from being superficial. Even when you make love to your wife or your husband, there is still a sense of guilt somewhere inside: you know it's a sin, that you're doing something wrong: "The saints don't do that." So you are a sinner. So you can't do it completely even when you can - everything remains superficial. There is a priest hiding behind you, manifesting in your guilt. It repels you, dampens your impulses.
The resulting sense of guilt makes you think that you are doing something wrong, you lose your self-esteem, you lose your self-confidence.
There's another problem: feeling guilty makes you start pretending it didn't happen. Mothers and fathers hide from their children that they are making love; they pretend. They pretend that love doesn't exist, but sooner or later the children will find out that they have been deceived. And when your kids find out they've been cheated on, they lose all confidence in you. They feel that you have betrayed them, deceived them. And then fathers and mothers complain that for some reason their children do not respect them. You've never respected them yourself, how can they respect you now? You deceived them in every possible way, you were not open with them, you acted meanly. You warned them not to fall in love, you told them that it was dangerous, and in the meantime you continued to make love. But sooner or later the day comes when they realize that even their own father, even their own mother, is lying to them - how can they respect you now?
At first, guilt forces you to pretend. Pretending immediately makes people distrust you. Even a child, your own child, will feel distrustful of you. There will be a barrier between you - your pretense. And when you realize that everyone else is faking it, too... One day you will see that just as you pretend, so do others. When everyone is quarreling, is mutual understanding possible? What kind of friendship can there be when everyone is lying, when there is pretense and deception everywhere? When you find out about this, instead of stopping lying, you start to regret what is happening, you become bitter to see it all, and finally you come to the conclusion that all this is the work of the Devil.
Everyone has a fake face, everyone is not sincere. Everyone wears a mask, no one shows their real face. You feel guilty, then you pretend, then you see that everyone is pretending, that everyone feels like a sinner. Everyone experiences heartache, disbelief in themselves. Now it is very easy to make people slaves-to make them office workers, teachers, school teachers, educators, advisers, ministers, governors and presidents. Now it is very easy to break them, because they are already broken at the very root. Sex is the root, hence the name "mulajar". "Mulajar" means root power.
I've heard a story...
Wedding night. Young Jeanne was performing her marital duties for the first time. "My lord," she asked her chosen one, " so this is what people usually call sex?"
"Yes, that is it, my lady," Lord Reginald replied, still going about his business. After a while, Lady Jeanne sighed dreamily, " This is too good for ordinary people."
Ordinary people aren't really allowed to have real sex-that would be too good for them.
But the thing is, if you've poisoned all the ordinary people, then you've poisoned yourself. If the king poisoned the air that ordinary people breathed, then he will breathe the same air; everything is interconnected. The priest, after poisoning ordinary people, ended up poisoning himself. A politician, having poisoned the air of ordinary people, eventually breathes it himself - the air is the same for everyone.
Two clergymen - a deacon and a bishop-found themselves in the same compartment of the train. When the bishop entered the compartment, the deacon quickly put away the Playboy magazine and began reading the Church News. The bishop, without even looking at him, began to solve the crossword puzzle. There was a tense silence.
After a while, the deacon tried to start a conversation, but it didn't work out. When the bishop began scratching his head furiously for a word, he tried again: "May I help you, sir?" He replied: "Maybe. I'm stuck on one word. What kind of word can it be, in which the last three letters are "tka", and the question is: "feminine is inherent"? "Why, of course, sir," said the deacon, after a pause, "it must be' aunt.' "N, yes! So I say, young man, can you lend me a condom?"
When you repress something, it goes deep into the subconscious, but it doesn't disappear. Sex has not been eradicated - thankfully. It was not eradicated, but simply poisoned. And it cannot be eradicated - it is the energy of life itself. It is covered with a layer of dirt that can be removed.
This is what Tantra is: the process of great purification. All your problems come down to one thing-sexual. You can continue to solve one problem after another, but you will never solve them, because they are not the real problem. And if you solve your sexual problem, then all the problems will disappear by themselves, because you will solve the main one. But you are afraid to even admit that it exists.
But it's so simple. If you can drop all your conventions, then it's very simple. Just like in the next story.
One spinster was a curse to the police: she kept calling and complaining that there was a man hiding under her bed. In the end, she was sent to a mental hospital, but even there she continued to complain to the doctor that a man was hiding under her bed. She was prescribed a course of treatment, and finally, she declared that she had recovered.
"Are you saying, Miss Rusifan, that you don't notice a man under the bed anymore?" The doctor asked.
"Yes, he's gone. There are two of them now."
One of the doctors advised that there was only one remedy that could cure this patient, whose illness he called "malignant virginity." He offered to lock her in a room with a hospital carpenter named " Big Sir." They called Big Sir, told him about her complaints, and offered to lock him up in the same room with her for an hour.
He said it wouldn't take that long. A curious crowd had gathered in the corridor. From the room came the words: "No, Monsieur, stop; my mother will never forgive me for this!"
"Shut up, it's still going to happen sometime. This should have been done years earlier!"
"So you can use the force now, you brute!"
"That's what your husband should have done in the first place, if you ever had one!"
The doctors couldn't take it anymore and rushed into the room.
"I cured her," said the carpenter.
"Yes, he cured me," said Miss Rusifan, " but he sawed off the legs of the bed."
Sometimes the solution is very simple, and you continue to solve problem after problem. The carpenter knows what to do. Saw off the legs.
Sex is the root of almost all your problems. These problems are the result of thousands of years of bullying. Therefore, a thorough cleansing is necessary. Tantra can remove the dirt from your energy. Listen to Tantra. Try to understand it. This is a great revolutionary message. Against all the priests and politicians, against all the poisoners who have banished all earthly pleasures and turned man into a slave.
Give yourself some freedom. Give yourself the freedom to love. Let yourself live, and then life will stop being a problem. Life will become a mystery, an ecstasy, a blessing.
