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RageFuel Why do people often give advice to people about male loneliness is to love yourself even if it is not working?

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I always hear that people tell me about loving myself because i really feel lonely for more than 10 years. I tried loving myself but it really doest work that people always hate me so much. I dont have any platonic friendships with women as i see other man like me and it really makes me jealous. Currently, i usually dont jump to any romantic relationships but women denying me friendships to them is very painful and unfair. Why is my life unfair?
 
the polite version of idc
 
they dont care about us :feelsbadman:
 
'Work on yourself/love yourself' probably works for foids and normies because their problem of 'loneliness' usually consists of not getting text from chad or friend group for a day, so the advice to introspect is possibly the only time these fuckers ever do it, ever.

If you're an incel that's endured sustained periods of isolation (the likes of which normies would fucking claw their throats out over) then there is no remedy to that isolation. They don't relate to you whatsoever and probably don't care to either. It's the polite version of 'yeah sure buddy uhuh just stop bothering me and go figure it out yourself'.
 
The same foids who say this go nuts when they're single and haven't had dick for over a month, I've seen this behavior with my own eyes. But when it comes to the likes of us it's all platitudes and "it'll happen, be patient". Why doesn't anyone offer to help or introduce us to people?
 
"love yourself" is the most vague advice ever. How can a love starved, intimacy deprived incel with no social circle, acquaintances or friends learn to love himself? Where will this love come from? It can't just be spontaneously generated out of thin air. The chronically isolated man slowly forgets what love is and how it feels like. He has no frame of reference to know and feel what love is anymore.
For normies it's like: Others give me love ---> I love myself ---> I spread that to others

For incels and truecels: others hate my guts, ignore me and see me as pathetic ---> I hate myself ---> (magically im supposed to start loving myself with no frame of reference of what love even is) ---> Spread the love, get bitches, get friends???

???
 
"love yourself" is the most vague advice ever. How can a love starved, intimacy deprived incel with no social circle, acquaintances or friends learn to love himself? Where will this love come from? It can't just be spontaneously generated out of thin air. The chronically isolated man slowly forgets what love is and how it feels like. He has no frame of reference to know and feel what love is anymore.
For normies it's like: Others give me love ---> I love myself ---> I spread that to others

For incels and truecels: others hate my guts, ignore me and see me as pathetic ---> I hate myself ---> (magically im supposed to start loving myself with no frame of reference of what love even is) ---> Spread the love, get bitches, get friends???

???
the lack of awareness and introspection from normies is massive
 
the lack of awareness and introspection from normies is massive
Because of our chronic isolation, we're basically forced to deeply look at our life choices and our past. We ask ourselves "how did it get this bad?" and "where did it all go wrong?" as we look at other people that are more successful in every way. If I was a normie and I was surrounded by people and had decent success romantically and financially then I'd see introspection as a waste of time and I'd live the normie life to the fullest.
Deep suffering is usually the catalyst for deep introspection anyway. Most normies don't suffer like that.
 
Because of our chronic isolation, we're basically forced to deeply look at our life choices and our past. We ask ourselves "how did it get this bad?" and "where did it all go wrong?" as we look at other people that are more successful in every way. If I was a normie and I was surrounded by people and had decent success romantically and financially then I'd see introspection as a waste of time and I'd live the normie life to the fullest.
Deep suffering is usually the catalyst for deep introspection anyway. Most normies don't suffer like that.
Yeah that’s true, but I expect at least some empathy from them but they just give empty platitudes and indirectly ask you to leave them alone
 
Yeah that’s true, but I expect at least some empathy from them but they just give empty platitudes and indirectly ask you to leave them alone
That's just the way most of them are. If it doesn't benefit them or provide future value, they don't have a reason to care. Subtlety and what's unsaid is the language of normies. There are some genuinely good normies that aren't as you describe and they try to help you out but for me these people are rare.

The other day I was contemplating how so many people have so many different, unique personalities and it made me kinda tear up because there's so many good people out there, it's just that I don't have the social skills or aptitude to socialise or communicate with them.

I know we like to generalize normies as this and that but some normies are pretty different.
 
Fuck normies. Love myself? I don't know what love is. If it's the opposite of hate or what I feel when I look in the mirror, then I haven't felt that shit. Feels like weakness. Feels like cope. Also, it will fucking end after a few minutes. Why should I pretend?
 
That's just the way most of them are. If it doesn't benefit them or provide future value, they don't have a reason to care. Subtlety and what's unsaid is the language of normies. There are some genuinely good normies that aren't as you describe and they try to help you out but for me these people are rare.

The other day I was contemplating how so many people have so many different, unique personalities and it made me kinda tear up because there's so many good people out there, it's just that I don't have the social skills or aptitude to socialise or communicate with them.

I know we like to generalize normies as this and that but some normies are pretty different.

I find that the nicest people are amongst extroverts, but such a large majority of them are assholes, it's not worth getting mogged and slighted socializing with them to find those rare good ones.
 
I always hear that people tell me about loving myself because i really feel lonely for more than 10 years. I tried loving myself but it really doest work that people always hate me so much. I dont have any platonic friendships with women as i see other man like me and it really makes me jealous. Currently, i usually dont jump to any romantic relationships but women denying me friendships to them is very painful and unfair. Why is my life unfair?
a human is meant to have attention and without attention they become mental and angry
 
I always hear that people tell me about loving myself because i really feel lonely for more than 10 years. I tried loving myself but it really doest work that people always hate me so much. I dont have any platonic friendships with women as i see other man like me and it really makes me jealous. Currently, i usually dont jump to any romantic relationships but women denying me friendships to them is very painful and unfair. Why is my life unfair?
Normie advice only works for normies because it's only aimed at normies.
Even if they COULD relate and give advice (they can't), they wouldn't want to.

It's just human nature: advance your own position, help your group, destroy all other groups.
To normies, we are the other group.

Whenever you read a normie's advice, keep in mind that he doesn't even consider you human and can't relate to you in any way whatsoever.
 

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