Venting Why do I have no friends

[amiannoying]

I'm 18 and I haven't had a friend since I was 12. No one talk with, laugh with, play games with, share tik toks and don't even get me started on hanging out.
I've been to 4 different schools just thru this time and I never was able to make friends, I tried to act differently, more quiet, more loud but nothing ever worked and it makes me question what is truly wrong with me.
I believe due to this isolation I developed social anxiety I'm scared to go outside or have any social interactions, being fat and very insecure about it doesn't help too.
With each day I have less and less hope for my social future and I gave up at trying to make friends atp it seems pointless (like talking to randoms on discord or randoms in school)
Daydreaming about having connections all day has worked as cope for long time but It doesn't work anymore whenever I force myself into doing it reality immediately hits me that I'm coping.
This is my first post here idk if I chose the right prefix forgive me if I didn't.
Does anyone have any reccomendations on what should I do? Except for loosing weight which I plan on hopefully doing this summer onwards

 

[Animecel2D]

Brutal first post

you have no friends because you are ugly

 

[amiannoying]

Brutal first post

you have no friends because you are ugly

How is it that I see so many fat dudes having friends then

 

[Animecel2D]

How is it that I see so many fat dudes having friends then

They bribe everyone with food, that’s how they make friends

 

[amiannoying]

They bribe everyone with food, that’s how they make friends

Dont even joke lad

 

[Calamari Sun]

How is it that I see so many fat dudes having friends then

They're good at eating pussy

 

[cursed]

I'm 18 and I haven't had a friend since I was 12. No one talk with, laugh with, play games with, share tik toks and don't even get me started on hanging out.
I've been to 4 different schools just thru this time and I never was able to make friends, I tried to act differently, more quiet, more loud but nothing ever worked and it makes me question what is truly wrong with me.
I believe due to this isolation I developed social anxiety I'm scared to go outside or have any social interactions, being fat and very insecure about it doesn't help too.
With each day I have less and less hope for my social future and I gave up at trying to make friends atp it seems pointless (like talking to randoms on discord or randoms in school)
Daydreaming about having connections all day has worked as cope for long time but It doesn't work anymore whenever I force myself into doing it reality immediately hits me that I'm coping.
This is my first post here idk if I chose the right prefix forgive me if I didn't.
Does anyone have any reccomendations on what should I do? Except for loosing weight which I plan on hopefully doing this summer onwards

get drunk host small parties usually works just send out invites tell others so and so will be there show up that's my best guess eventually people introduce you to other people. I was doing that than i noticed i was spending all my paycheck on other people and not building a future or making genuine connection just leeches. keeping that in mind that and see if it works but don't provide all the booze and shit focus on people that is not demanding or if the party wont have this than im not going just beg if necessary. it worked for Epstein so this will definitely also work for u

 

[Xul]

I'm 18 and I haven't had a friend since I was 12. No one talk with, laugh with, play games with, share tik toks and don't even get me started on hanging out.
I've been to 4 different schools just thru this time and I never was able to make friends, I tried to act differently, more quiet, more loud but nothing ever worked and it makes me question what is truly wrong with me.
I believe due to this isolation I developed social anxiety I'm scared to go outside or have any social interactions, being fat and very insecure about it doesn't help too.
With each day I have less and less hope for my social future and I gave up at trying to make friends atp it seems pointless (like talking to randoms on discord or randoms in school)
Daydreaming about having connections all day has worked as cope for long time but It doesn't work anymore whenever I force myself into doing it reality immediately hits me that I'm coping.
This is my first post here idk if I chose the right prefix forgive me if I didn't.
Does anyone have any reccomendations on what should I do? Except for loosing weight which I plan on hopefully doing this summer onwards

"Hopefully" means you wont do shit. You are either going to do something or not, no being hopeful about it.

 

[Xul]

get drunk host small parties usually works just send out invites tell others so and so will be there show up that's my best guess eventually people introduce you to other people. I was doing that than i noticed i was spending all my paycheck on other people and not building a future or making genuine connection just leeches. keeping that in mind that and see if it works but don't provide all the booze and shit focus on people that is not demanding or if the party wont have this than im not going just beg if necessary. it worked for Epstein so this will definitely also work for u

Joined Apr 17, 2018 Posts 4

 

[amiannoying]

"Hopefully" means you wont do shit. You are either going to do something or not, no being hopeful about it.

I ain't saying I'm gonna do it with confidence cuz I did so 2 times in the past and failed each time
Saying beforehand ur gonna do it and succeed is just coping with words

 

[Xul]

I ain't saying I'm gonna do it with confidence cuz I did so 2 times in the past and failed each time
Saying beforehand ur gonna do it and succeed is just coping with words

K

 

[amiannoying]

get drunk host small parties usually works just send out invites tell others so and so will be there show up that's my best guess eventually people introduce you to other people. I was doing that than i noticed i was spending all my paycheck on other people and not building a future or making genuine connection just leeches. keeping that in mind that and see if it works but don't provide all the booze and shit focus on people that is not demanding or if the party wont have this than im not going just beg if necessary. it worked for Epstein so this will definitely also work for u

I Don't think im mentally prepared to host any kind of party I never even been to one the anxiety will get me + I don't even have anyone to invite really

 

[Emba]

Brutal first post

you have no friends because you are ugly

They bribe everyone with food, that’s how they make friends

I tried to bribe alcoholic folks with booze and failed ):

 

[cursed]

I Don't think im mentally prepared to host any kind of party I never even been to one the anxiety will get me + I don't even have anyone to invite really

if you have a job it might be easier. just invite people my house for instance wasn't a good place to invite people we have a pretty small house and its all a mess so i sued to plan stuff on other people's houses. just nag people until they accept i to have social anxiety and i tried i used to work at a supermarket and i invited myself to my colleagues houses. they used to clown on me for being a loner or the quite guy around but i was drunk and i didn't care so it try to explain myself and they kept egging me on if not drunk its uncopeable. perhaps you could buy a hookah has good potential for lodging people and making "friendships" drinks movie and hookah

 

[Animecel2D]

I tried to bribe alcoholic folks with booze and failed ):

Really? I guess they weren’t alcoholic enough

 

[Emba]

Really? I guess they weren’t alcoholic enough

Yeah, thats it

 

[Emba]

Maybe its because you're human?

Do you know any real humans? I dont.

i do not know of any real humans in my area! only NPCs... I remember a few real souled people from my far past, when I was younger and lived in the city and had to work... but after living rural for a few decades I don't seem to detect any real humans! they all act like NPCs!... ...as...

incels.is

 

[LUCK]

How is it that I see so many fat dudes having friends then

Most of the fat guys that I see with any noticable social circle are only tolerated because they're an easy target for normies to be entertained by. The rest just hang out with other sub5s, but at least they seem respected amongst themselves. I think that's the only decent route.

 

[ItsOverMan]

How is it that I see so many fat dudes having friends then

Lack of neurotypicality is a killer when it comes to having friends. You can be an ugly short fat dude and still have lots of friends if you're NT.

 

[all this time]

I'm 18 and I haven't had a friend since I was 12. No one talk with, laugh with, play games with, share tik toks and don't even get me started on hanging out.
I've been to 4 different schools just thru this time and I never was able to make friends, I tried to act differently, more quiet, more loud but nothing ever worked and it makes me question what is truly wrong with me.
I believe due to this isolation I developed social anxiety I'm scared to go outside or have any social interactions, being fat and very insecure about it doesn't help too.
With each day I have less and less hope for my social future and I gave up at trying to make friends atp it seems pointless (like talking to randoms on discord or randoms in school)
Daydreaming about having connections all day has worked as cope for long time but It doesn't work anymore whenever I force myself into doing it reality immediately hits me that I'm coping.
This is my first post here idk if I chose the right prefix forgive me if I didn't.
Does anyone have any reccomendations on what should I do? Except for loosing weight which I plan on hopefully doing this summer onwards

Looks + non nt , prob ur mental tbh. Ive seen many guys have friends even ppl who you wouldnt think would have friends jus by being associated with ppl. Connections is everything and this begins as soon as you enter the school system. If you had bad experiences growing up its gonna be rly hard to overdue that

Now if you had friends but now dont, its prob looks

 

[ItsOverMan]

Connections is everything and this begins as soon as you enter the school system. If you had bad experiences growing up its gonna be rly hard to overdue that

Yeah, if you're treated like shit as a kid in the formative school years, that's going to greatly affect how you interact (or fail to interact) with soyciety throughout adulthood.

 

[amiannoying]

Most of the fat guys that I see with any noticable social circle are only tolerated because they're an easy target for normies to be entertained by. The rest just hang out with other sub5s, but at least they seem respected amongst themselves. I think that's the only decent route.

Im trying to find a good vendor for GLP3-R and really lock in this year for weight loss. If after I loose the weight I start getting friends it's actually gonna be so sad that my loneliness was because I had excess fat in my body

 

[amiannoying]

Lack of neurotypicality is a killer when it comes to having friends. You can be an ugly short fat dude and still have lots of friends if you're NT.

I go to a therapist due to OCD and she did say she suspects I'm on the autism spectrum but I wonder if that's really the case or I'm just acting weird due to isolation and trauma in my teenage years

 

[amiannoying]

Yeah, if you're treated like shit as a kid in the formative school years, that's going to greatly affect how you interact (or fail to interact) with soyciety throughout adulthood.

Its over for me

 

[bruno eurich]

I have no friends - just my computer.

 

[shyloser]

you might be nd,

 

[ItsOverMan]

Friends are a childish childhood thing. We need to get over it. Real friends don't really exist after 18 or so (definitely after college). People have acquaintances and contacts.

 

[Autistic Uggo]

Brutal first post

you have no friends because you are ugly

And possibly on the spectrum.

 

[ropemaxxer90]

Probably because (like a lot of incels) you are neurodivergent

 

[SubhumanOldcel]

They bribe everyone with food, that’s how they make friends

 

[Freixel]

They bribe everyone with food, that’s how they make friends

can you give me an hamburger?

 

[nihilum]

I dont have any friends.

 

[amiannoying]

Probably because (like a lot of incels) you are neurodivergent

All I ask for is to be important to someone

 

[Animecel2D]

can you give me an hamburger?

Sorry, we’re all out of stock

 

[introvertloner]

because society is not made for us