At the root of it all inceldom isn't simply the desire for sex, it's the desire for intimacy, for a relationship. But the common response "Women don't owe you sex!" often seems like a deflection meant to distract from the fact that there's more being withheld from us than sex, it's the fact that we're also missing genuine love in our lives.
It would be far less socially accepted for incel opposition to state "You don't deserve to be loved!" and so far their deflection seems to work well, with all incels attacking the idea that "Women don't owe us sex" instead of pointing out the fact that's it's not just sex we want (If that were the case we could all just escortcel). It's a good deflection too... Women owing us sex makes it seem like we're just viewing women as sex objects, it's easier to villainize incels as misogynistic with that perspective. But the truth is always more nuanced than one-sided characterizations like that. It almost seems universal among incels that we value being loved more than just the act of sex, but having sex is proof that you're able to be loved, hence our fixation on it.
So my question isn't really "Am I allowed to want sex", it's "Am I allowed to want to be loved?" I've put in my work. I'm in decent shape, I try to be a good person, i've looksmaxxed, I try to dress well... What exactly is the bare minimum for having a loving relationship? Most decently attractive people seem to get into loving relationships easily, so am I just less deserving of love because I was born less attractive?
It would be far less socially accepted for incel opposition to state "You don't deserve to be loved!" and so far their deflection seems to work well, with all incels attacking the idea that "Women don't owe us sex" instead of pointing out the fact that's it's not just sex we want (If that were the case we could all just escortcel). It's a good deflection too... Women owing us sex makes it seem like we're just viewing women as sex objects, it's easier to villainize incels as misogynistic with that perspective. But the truth is always more nuanced than one-sided characterizations like that. It almost seems universal among incels that we value being loved more than just the act of sex, but having sex is proof that you're able to be loved, hence our fixation on it.
So my question isn't really "Am I allowed to want sex", it's "Am I allowed to want to be loved?" I've put in my work. I'm in decent shape, I try to be a good person, i've looksmaxxed, I try to dress well... What exactly is the bare minimum for having a loving relationship? Most decently attractive people seem to get into loving relationships easily, so am I just less deserving of love because I was born less attractive?
