I believe that femdom is just closet faggotry, any guy into that shit is a few years and suggestions away from getting fucked in the ass with a strap-on because "it's a woman doing it so it's not gay".
Also I wouldn't consider getting a blowjob "submissive". It's the woman who has to submit her holes to your usage. There's a reason why the default blowjob position is the guy standing and the woman on her knees looking up at him.
Normal sex roles inherently enforce men being the dominant and women being the submissive.
You really have to go out of your way to break that mold. You lying down to get a blowjob isn't an act of submission, it's just you getting comfy lol. We have to do all of the work in the bedroom anyways, the least she can do is let you rest a bit.
Submission to me would be the male emulating a female sex act, or the male letting the female emulate a male sex act on him.
For example, there's this cringe sex position call the "Amazon" (google it). It's the gayest non gay shit you'll see lol, and that's exactly what I'm talking about with femdom. It's "gateway faggotry", it's a slippery slope. It makes men normalize taking on the feminine role in sex, bit by bit, until those guys are rationalizing more and more feminine shit.
If a woman's finger even goes near by butt hole during sex I'm slapping the taste out of her mouth
. I'm not playing those games.