I could find someone who'll at least try to love me.
Foids never love men.
What happens is that 30-something and 40-something foids that failed in getting Chad to commit, got one or two kids from deadbeat Chads, and failed in their attempts to divorce-rape a younger betabuxxer, now desperately try to approach older men with resources in order to acquire resources for themselves and for the kids she's made with Chad.
This is betabuxxing + desperate foids.
Moreover, male sex drive peaks at 25, and only shrinks with age -- especially if the guy has few or no sexual experiences. An old incel (40+) have much lower sex drive than an equivalent 40+ sexhaver. And the difference only grows with age.
As they lose interest in sex, these oldcels have little reason to waste their time ranting online about the pain of being sexless -- because that pain diminishes, and they get better hobbies to cope (fishing, motorbiking, travel, etc.) that were too expensive for a youngcel.
I'm 37. I'm starting several hobbies as copes that I didn't have money for when younger (motorbiking, local travel, kayaking etc.).
Also, the pain of loneliness also diminishes as the person gets used to living alone.
A 45yo incel with some free time will rather work on his garage than rant online because he is 20 years past the peak of his sex-drive (25yo).