What feeling is worse?**

[The Wolf]

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It never began: "there is nothing I could ever have done to improve my situation, and nothing I can do now. It is my fate, it is what it is. It sucks and it's devastating." aka. FATE

It's over: "had I done this or that, my situation would be better now. But now it's too late, ships has sailed. I need to live with the new reality. I'm too old now, and many other factors ensure that nothing can be done anymore. Had I only done more." aka. REGRET

 

[RealSchizo]

I feel like utter shit especially after hearing that a certain incel from this community I speak to on discord daily got diagnosed with cancer.
Cried irl too and can't seem to cope with it, just when shit gets worse for me it does for other people in this community.

 

[The Wolf]

I feel like utter shit especially after hearing that a certain incel from this community I speak to on discord daily got diagnosed with cancer.
Cried irl too and can't seem to cope with it, just when shit gets worse for me it does for other people in this community.

Brutal, cancer is horrible. Will he likely die?

 

[FuckYou]

I know it never began.

I can’t speak on the second option tbh.

 

[RealSchizo]

Brutal, cancer is horrible. Will he likely die?

I don't know, hopefully not because I can't afford to lose people that I am attached to.
Life is such a meme, how can I even take serious anything tbh this is a clown world.

 

[The Wolf]

I know it never began.

I can’t speak on the second option tbh.

But if you really try to imagine it, does regret or fate hurt more? For me, it also never began, but I think actual regret is worse. Because then, it is (at least partially) your fault. This is of course just a hypothetical.

 

[RealSchizo]

My situation is not looking good either, I am probably going to get charged with drug possession, I just don't know my fate and what is going to happen to me either.
I've been experiencing cortisol spikes at an all time high.
I got cucked by the law harder than I could ever imagine.
If my family finds out about this everything goes to shit, no I'll be completely destroyed.
It'll be the end of me.

 

[kay']

Regret is worse

 

[Rezecel]

Regret is worse

 

[andrej]

regret by far

 

[AtrociousCitizen]

I often oscillate between the two, and the latter is much more painful.

 

[Freixel]

it's absolutly over

 

[soft]

If it's over, it means you once had potential. You may have missed your mark, and it absolutely sucks. But you still have that potential, perhaps not to ascend, but to at least cope in meaningful ways.

If it never ever began, it just feels like being a worthless piece of trash. Not good enough to ascend, not even good enough to find meaning elsewhere. There is just nothing in life for someone like that

 

[The Wolf]

If it's over, it means you once had potential. You may have missed your mark, and it absolutely sucks. But you still have that potential, perhaps not to ascend, but to at least cope in meaningful ways.

If it never ever began, it just feels like being a worthless piece of trash. Not good enough to ascend, not even good enough to find meaning elsewhere. There is just nothing in life for someone like that

Fair points!

What if we specified it, to a gf.
- nothing I could have done could have gotten me a gf
OR
- I could have done this and that to get a gf in my late teens or 20s, but now I'm 30 and it's over

 

[Zionist]

Both suck, but I can only speak for myself, I did everything I could to escape inceldom but it's is just impossible tho

 

[soft]

Fair points!

What if we specified it, to a gf.
- nothing I could have done could have gotten me a gf
OR
- I could have done this and that to get a gf in my late teens or 20s, but now I'm 30 and it's over

I thought about it, and the regret might be worse.
If there was nothing you could have done, then it's out of your control - you are absolved of the responsibility.
But if you had a chance, and you squandered it, then the pain is on a deeper level. It's not your body at fault - it's you, the operator of the body.
So I guess it comes down to the question of free will and soul and stuff like that.

 

[The Wolf]

I thought about it, and the regret might be worse.
If there was nothing you could have done, then it's out of your control - you are absolved of the responsibility.
But if you had a chance, and you squandered it, then the pain is on a deeper level. It's not your body at fault - it's you, the operator of the body.
So I guess it comes down to the question of free will and soul and stuff like that.

Intelligent text

 

[Glassness]

At least with fate you know you didn't have a choice

 

[Wither]

Regret is worse

 

[The Wolf]

At least with fate you know you didn't have a choice

That's true, mine is fate but I tried to really imagine regret and that feels very bad. I do have regret that I didn't work out constantly (at home) over the last 2-3 years, not that it would have gotten me a gf, but still I regret it. My arms are skinnier than those of a 16 year old girl. I'm 5'4 and 29, making me look weird in addition to my face.