From elementary-university I am ostracized. Most incels can relate? I sat alone in my own corner at break. Nobody came close to me, but people point and laugh. This did not affect me past junior high when I stopped desiring social interaction and found solitary hobbies.
In freshman year, some sophomore with a social circle on the school's basketball team approached me sitting alone and asked me to be friends with him. I refused him, and he replied: "well too bad. you dont get a choice, we're friends whether you like it or not" and took me to eat with him and his friends and introduced me to them. He stopped his friends from laughing at me and told them to "give him a chance." I didn't say anything the whole time. When it was time for classes again he told me to "text [him] again if I'm sitting alone." One week later, he saw me sitting alone and asked why I didn't text him. He took me to his friends again. I told him I don't like being around people then he went on some lecture about how nobody should experience what I did and he knows what is best for me, he is doing a good thing by eating with me.
I don't really like when things like this happen. It feels dehumanizing to have your autonomy and humanity placed below some random kid's ideas of what is good. I was also fine being alone, and didn't like the idea of it being bad placed onto me. I want to know if similar things happened to any of you, and how you reacted to it? Then, do you think being alone is ok?
In freshman year, some sophomore with a social circle on the school's basketball team approached me sitting alone and asked me to be friends with him. I refused him, and he replied: "well too bad. you dont get a choice, we're friends whether you like it or not" and took me to eat with him and his friends and introduced me to them. He stopped his friends from laughing at me and told them to "give him a chance." I didn't say anything the whole time. When it was time for classes again he told me to "text [him] again if I'm sitting alone." One week later, he saw me sitting alone and asked why I didn't text him. He took me to his friends again. I told him I don't like being around people then he went on some lecture about how nobody should experience what I did and he knows what is best for me, he is doing a good thing by eating with me.
I don't really like when things like this happen. It feels dehumanizing to have your autonomy and humanity placed below some random kid's ideas of what is good. I was also fine being alone, and didn't like the idea of it being bad placed onto me. I want to know if similar things happened to any of you, and how you reacted to it? Then, do you think being alone is ok?
