Mecoja
I'm at war with the world
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Good point, this makes sense.these are humiliation rituals, they take place when someone is higher on the hierarchy than you and feels like they need to enforce that, and they seem to be happening more often than ever because at some point they became a meme. look it up if you don't believe me.
there's no point trying to decipher a humiliation ritual because its purpose is to establish dominance, the content of it is not important.
i get them constantly from family and at work too, so i get it bro.
the fact that older men and boomers are out of touch... this only makes their humiliation rituals even more powerful, as they insist that everything works the way it did back in their time, and you just end up entangled in endless arguments.
unfortunately there isn't really a way to avoid humiliation rituals besides just keeping a low private profile, you don't let information leak out, you don't allow anyone to impose on your free time, and you stop bad interactions immediately when they start, or at least follow up very quickly if you were taken by surprise and failed to react appropriately.
once too much time passes you can't take people to task with "hey, the way you treated me wasn't ok" because they will act like you're crazy. at that point the only option is to stop caring and pay attention if they do it again so you can react immediately and tell them it's not ok and so on.
i am completely detached at this point because my stress went too high, i basically settled on the fact that i have to be at work but that doesn't mean i have to care about what happens there, and once work is over, no one is allowed to bother me for any reason, that's my time and everyone can fuck off.