Unless you're good friends with the woman, a long-term relationship is pointless.

[Deleted member 7448]

Would you want to be in a long-term relationship with a person you don't really like being around?

Tbh for a good relationship you need to joke around a lot, feel good around each other, make each other happy.

And tbh in my many years on this earth I've never felt like that with anybody, never even had a friend like that, female or male. So what would the chances be of finding a woman that I get along with like that? None, zero to none. Call me cynical but people suck. And it's so hard to meet new people too, much less people you can stand to be around. Nevermind the million reasons why it's hard for me to be around people, didn't even include that in the equation, although it's very important.

That's why I really just want a relationship for a few months. Have a lot of sex, get all this shit out of my system. Cuddling, affection, the feeling of "love". Get it out in a few months then I can honestly say I'd never think about this shit ever again. I'd be single and content with that for the rest of my life. But it turns out I can't even get that.

 

[Deleted member 21219]

Youre fucked if you dont have a social circle though.

 

[Deleted member 7448]

Youre fucked if you dont have a social circle though.

Ohh yeah, totally forgot about that. Shit, I really am fucked. I don't even have acquaintances much less friends. All I have is a whole bunch of people I DON'T want to see.

 

[Deleted member 29003]

Would you want to be in a long-term relationship with a person you don't really like being around?

yes it's better than being completely alone. if they are inviting and not hostile why should I try and avoid them? but people actually being open/inviting to looser won't change anywhere.

 

[Sneepysqar]

Would you want to be in a long-term relationship with a person you don't really like being around?

Tbh for a good relationship you need to joke around a lot, feel good around each other, make each other happy.

If I'm fucking her and she's raising my kids, that's good enough. Modern relationships for the last couple of decades are just sitting around and watching TV/phone. No need to joke around and try to make each other happy.

 

[Deleted member 21219]

Ohh yeah, totally forgot about that. Shit, I really am fucked. I don't even have acquaintances much less friends. All I have is a whole bunch of people I DON'T want to see.

Likewise. My social circle is a dot. Never began

 

[PPEcel]

Unless you're good friends with the woman, a long-term relationship is pointless.​

that is all you needed to say

 

[ShiiOfTheSPLC]

I genuinely don't know what couples do together. some couples I know spend literally every moment of their free time together, hours a day just talking to each other and spending time together, and it fucks me up because I could never do that. I can't even relate to any women I know or have a serious conversation with them, let alone keep a relationship going and entertain her for hours a day indefinitely

 

[Deleted member 28148]

Youre fucked if you dont have a social circle though.

This.
I also have never felt true friendship with a foid, it's just pointless because i'm nothing but a toy to them.

 

[copeful]

only chad receives mutual affection
relationships as a sub-chad are one-sided
its over

 

[Deleted member 7448]

I genuinely don't know what couples do together. some couples I know spend literally every moment of their free time together, hours a day just talking to each other and spending time together, and it fucks me up because I could never do that. I can't even relate to any women I know or have a serious conversation with them, let alone keep a relationship going and entertain her for hours a day indefinitely

Huh, great point. What do they do together? Can't even imagine it, what the hell do they do?

 

[Mainländer]

If the foid's face doesn't give me a jumpscare, she's young and virgin and loyal and submissive, that'd be good enough for me. If she likes different type of music or something or is "boring" or whatever that's the least of my concerns.

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

Huh, great point. What do they do together? Can't even imagine it, what the hell do they do?

from observing normies irl it doesn't seem hard, lots of silence and wasted time

in working class couples usually the man is an asshole too, yelling at his bitch for petty reasons, you think it would be easier if you had a nicer attitude but if you can't even get your foot in the door that doesn't matter

honestly it just makes it even more ridiculous, hanging out and fucking and all that, it really is the easiest thing on the planet, you don't need a degree in self-love to do it, you're just not allowed to, and that's it

 

[Deleted member 7448]

from observing normies irl it doesn't seem hard, lots of silence and wasted time

in working class couples usually the man is an asshole too, yelling at his bitch for petty reasons, you think it would be easier if you had a nicer attitude but if you can't even get your foot in the door that doesn't matter

honestly it just makes it even more ridiculous, hanging out and fucking and all that, it really is the easiest thing on the planet, you don't need a degree in self-love to do it, you're just not allowed to, and that's it

Great point there. Actually it seems that if the man is not an asshole, somehow it inevitably ends with the woman walking all over him.

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

Great point there. Actually it seems that if the man is not an asshole, somehow it inevitably ends with the woman walking all over him.

think my favorite little scene that i've witnessed several times is the woman quietly saying something might fall or isn't done right or whatever, and the guy yells at her immediately that it's fine and to leave it alone

fuck knows, maybe this is the glue that holds relationships together

 

[Deleted member 7448]

think my favorite little scene that i've witnessed several times is the woman quietly saying something might fall or isn't done right or whatever, and the guy yells at her immediately that it's fine and to leave it alone

fuck knows, maybe this is the glue that holds relationships together

Jesus man, with the attitudes and focus on emotion and wellbeing I gained from my degree (you know what is), I can't act like that. I've become the exact opposite of what apparently is required for a woman to respect a man enough to maintain a relationship. I've become understanding, caring, emotionally supportive - and those just make you a pushover, someone that is walked all over and not respected.

 

[ShiiOfTheSPLC]

think my favorite little scene that i've witnessed several times is the woman quietly saying something might fall or isn't done right or whatever, and the guy yells at her immediately that it's fine and to leave it alone

fuck knows, maybe this is the glue that holds relationships together

Jesus man, with the attitudes and focus on emotion and wellbeing I gained from my degree (you know what is), I can't act like that. I've become the exact opposite of what apparently is required for a woman to respect a man enough to maintain a relationship. I've become understanding, caring, emotionally supportive - and those just make you a pushover, someone that is walked all over and not respected.

I relate too much. it's just not in my nature to do things that hurt people. I don't mean to sound pretentious or anything but it's always kind of scared me how much capacity the average person has for indulging in anger/violence/vindictiveness/etc without feeling any kind of remorse.

there were points in my life I actively received a lot of harassment and generally awful behavior from other people, especially during school years. sometimes it would come from people that I had been close friends with for years and I'd just think to myself "how does anyone have it in them to do that?". I just can't imagine exhibiting the type of pointless sadism that I experienced from some people, not even to my worst enemy, let alone someone who genuinely cares about me

I always figured that women stay with abusive/aggressive men despite their behavior, and that it's not a trait that women are attracted to at all. but as time goes on it becomes apparent to me that what makes you a "good person" is different from what makes you an attractive sexual partner, and I feel like my sentimentality and lack of "assertiveness" is part of why I can't ever maintain a relationship long term. it seems like we live in a hook up culture where women primarily want relationships that are "exciting" and "thrilling", and that's just something I can't provide no matter how much I love the other person

 

[RREEEEEEEEE]

Unless you're good friends with the woman, a long-term relationship is pointless.​

that is all you needed to say

Money is pointless too. Donate to incel charities now.

 

[Deleted member 7448]

I relate too much. it's just not in my nature to do things that hurt people. I don't mean to sound pretentious or anything but it's always kind of scared me how much capacity the average person has for indulging in anger/violence/vindictiveness/etc without feeling any kind of remorse.

there were points in my life I actively received a lot of harassment and generally awful behavior from other people, especially during school years. sometimes it would come from people that I had been close friends with for years and I'd just think to myself "how does anyone have it in them to do that?". I just can't imagine exhibiting the type of pointless sadism that I experienced from some people, not even to my worst enemy, let alone someone who genuinely cares about me

I always figured that women stay with abusive/aggressive men despite their behavior, and that it's not a trait that women are attracted to at all. but as time goes on it becomes apparent to me that what makes you a "good person" is different from what makes you an attractive sexual partner, and I feel like my sentimentality and lack of "assertiveness" is part of why I can't ever maintain a relationship long term. it seems like we live in a hook up culture where women primarily want relationships that are "exciting" and "thrilling", and that's just something I can't provide no matter how much I love the other person

Damn, sorry to hear you went through all that. And your analysis unfortunately seems to be true, it's weird. It should make no sense, and yet it's perfectly true based on observations. What's even the explanation? Evolution? The human female brain trying to reproduce with aggressive and assertive beasts?