This is an text free of most incel terminology or humor. This text is written in good faith and an appeal to the humanity still left within the modern human. This text is an response to the increased interest in incels and the many young men who don’t see their place within modern society. This text can be considered and cry for help or the ramblings of a mad man who have lost the plot.
This text will be long, as such I have tried to make as descriptive titles for the various paragraphs as I could, pick and chose what interest you enough to read, or don’t read it at all that is also an option.
1.Sites like this and other similar incel sites are the result not the cause.
Incels and dissatisfied young men did not magically appear out of thin air, they have always been around but under different names, sperg, dweeb, loser, autistic and the list goes on. For this site to even exist the user-base had had to exist beforehand. This site would exist no matter what, maybe not with the same name, but it would still exist one way or the other.
As such blaming this site as the cause of incels is not only wrong, it is foolish. I would argue site likes this prevents incels even! Sites like this give an insight to a world of loneliness and despair, for many young men this site is an motivator to not end up here!
As an matter of fact, discovering this site after being called incel many times put me on a self-improvement frenzy, an mania of sorts. But yet here I am, among the very users I did not want to be a part of. Now I see the other side of these kind of sites, is an digital support group.
This site is used to vent and share experiences with like minded individuals, find comfort in not being the only one in this world like this. Sharing stories and experiences, sharing coping mechanisms and share laughs.
This site is the end of the line, if you are here the processes is already done, not begun.
To many users this site is their only social interactions. Would you like if the only source you had for social interaction was taken away from you?
2.The focus on lack of sex is due to society focus on sex.
As stated in point 1. , there is many users on this site that lack social interaction in any way, shape or from. Many have lived lives without ever having friends or experiences many of the social events that is considered the norm in many western countries.
Some users have never been invited to birthday paries, sleepovers or home alone parties later in their teenage years. For this mockery awaits and even further isolation.
Already pre-adulthood there is young men that have not experiences large portions of the socialization processes. But non of them as important and life changing as the sexual debut.
“you never forget your first time!”, “I remember how nervous I was.”, “the first time is something special!”. These are some of the many lines im sure many have heard. Sex-ed, sex jokes, sex in general is everywhere in society, and it is loud. Of course it is, is written in the human DNA, spread your genes! Now add an increasingly sexualized pop-culture on top of the inherit human desire to reproduce, now imagine you failed all of this, now imagine you got reminded of that and mocked for it often. Would you not be mad?
Many young men already failed on the most basic of the socializing process, living a life of sever social sanctions in the form of mockery. This is already horrible but then you got a sexed up society that mocks you on top of that for your failure to achieve the ultimate human desire.
For many young men socializing is associated with unending mockery, and sadly nothing else.
3. “Just get a job and go outside!” Most of us do, and it fix nothing.
Most young men partake in the work force, not all of us can live off welfare, that is impossible. Most users work ordinary jobs, you might have talked with an user from this site without noticing!
Most incels walk among the common man, walking the same streets, working the same jobs. We are human in the end, believe it or not.
There is nothing special about being outside or having a job. I would argue the ones forced to partake in the workforce is the ones that is more distressed and angry about their situation, but they are also the ones that hides it the best to.
But in the end this bottled up dissatisfaction and hatred often just end with the young man simply taking his own life, so there is no need for society to worry.
4. Many are indeed radicalized, but not to one singular incel ideology. There is no such thing as an Incel movement
The general isolation most incels and other angry young men experience is fertile soil for any extremist group to recruit from matter not communist or fascist. But one big difference is that incels don’t posses one singular political ideology, incels are bounded by their social status and nothing more.
On this site you will find political extremists of various kind, everything from communist to Neo-nazi, fundamentalist Islamist, to simple anti government sentiments. In the end there is no singular ideology that incels follow, the closest being the blackpill, but the blackpill is not really an ideology like lets say socialism.
Another aspect that must be considered, most users don’t genuinely believe in their ideologies, they rather just find funny and like to make socially unacceptable jokes.
In the end this site don’t cause the radicalization, there is other exterior groups that carry on the radicalization, many user on this site are just prime candidates. This site is to much of a chaotic mess to efficiently radicalize on its own.
Incels are scattered across wast number of sites and most incels don’t share all the same beliefs, the only belief in common is the blackpill. There is no overarching communication nor organization. There is no movement, only lonely men typing stuff at their computers.
5. The blackpill is not an ideology, it is Darwinism with a new name
The blackpill is simple, attractive traits makes you desired and gives you an advantage. Basically the theory evolution applied to humans. There is also a bit of social class struggle, in the sense of desired people get treated better than undesired people and as such gets a better standing in society.
There is nothing more to it. The only point of contest is what is the most important trait, but that I will leave to the many threads already on this site about that specific issue.
The blackpill is reality. There is actual proven facts on what makes a human attractive. There is an entire field of study on how to make humans more beautiful, cosmetology. In a way incels are just unpaid ,ugly cosmetologists giving away free advice.
Denying the blackpill, is denying Darwin’s theory of evolution.
6. Simple actions that can prevent young men from joining these kinds of sites
The main reason young men join these kinds of sites are due to loneliness, often said loneliness being since childhood. As such the most important aspect is to help young men integrate into a social group, a group around an hobby is the best since it generates a shared topic to discuss.
Keep in mind that many of these young men never truly experienced the socializing process as such will need continued aid and understanding within the group they attempt to join. Many of these men are either born with or develop various mental issues, along with general health issues.
A suggestion I have is that the government sponsor boardgames clubs, TCG clubs or wargaming clubs with an location with trained staff to aid these isolated men back into society. Keep in mind many of the young lonely men are not necessarily the most sporty guys and board games often involve a social element.
And for the staff, make sure there is several men, men have a easier time to understand other men and some men struggle to communicate with women for various reasons. (Not just misogyny. Can just be general anxiety or even trauma)
Something else to keep in mind. Do not meet potential incel lingo or manosphere terms or taught with imminent hostility, meet them with an understanding and talk it out. Patience is key and intimidate hostility will just make them isolate even further. The radical will often withdraw themselves socially and if their final attempts at rejoining the mainstream society is then met with hostility, they sure wont try again.
Do not say looks don’t matter. Looks matter, there is a reason we have terms for ugly and good looking people. Don't immediately attack personality, take it slow and gradually. Personality is a complex thing at is shaped by a lifetime of experiences, you never know why someone act the way they do unless they tell you.
The biggest of them all, just be nice and treat the ones around you with respect. Take bulling seriously in school. And don’t start to act when someone have fallen outside, start before they fall outside. And stop calling every man with a opinion you don’t agree with Incel, keep incel to sites like this.
This text will be long, as such I have tried to make as descriptive titles for the various paragraphs as I could, pick and chose what interest you enough to read, or don’t read it at all that is also an option.
1.Sites like this and other similar incel sites are the result not the cause.
Incels and dissatisfied young men did not magically appear out of thin air, they have always been around but under different names, sperg, dweeb, loser, autistic and the list goes on. For this site to even exist the user-base had had to exist beforehand. This site would exist no matter what, maybe not with the same name, but it would still exist one way or the other.
As such blaming this site as the cause of incels is not only wrong, it is foolish. I would argue site likes this prevents incels even! Sites like this give an insight to a world of loneliness and despair, for many young men this site is an motivator to not end up here!
As an matter of fact, discovering this site after being called incel many times put me on a self-improvement frenzy, an mania of sorts. But yet here I am, among the very users I did not want to be a part of. Now I see the other side of these kind of sites, is an digital support group.
This site is used to vent and share experiences with like minded individuals, find comfort in not being the only one in this world like this. Sharing stories and experiences, sharing coping mechanisms and share laughs.
This site is the end of the line, if you are here the processes is already done, not begun.
To many users this site is their only social interactions. Would you like if the only source you had for social interaction was taken away from you?
2.The focus on lack of sex is due to society focus on sex.
As stated in point 1. , there is many users on this site that lack social interaction in any way, shape or from. Many have lived lives without ever having friends or experiences many of the social events that is considered the norm in many western countries.
Some users have never been invited to birthday paries, sleepovers or home alone parties later in their teenage years. For this mockery awaits and even further isolation.
Already pre-adulthood there is young men that have not experiences large portions of the socialization processes. But non of them as important and life changing as the sexual debut.
“you never forget your first time!”, “I remember how nervous I was.”, “the first time is something special!”. These are some of the many lines im sure many have heard. Sex-ed, sex jokes, sex in general is everywhere in society, and it is loud. Of course it is, is written in the human DNA, spread your genes! Now add an increasingly sexualized pop-culture on top of the inherit human desire to reproduce, now imagine you failed all of this, now imagine you got reminded of that and mocked for it often. Would you not be mad?
Many young men already failed on the most basic of the socializing process, living a life of sever social sanctions in the form of mockery. This is already horrible but then you got a sexed up society that mocks you on top of that for your failure to achieve the ultimate human desire.
For many young men socializing is associated with unending mockery, and sadly nothing else.
3. “Just get a job and go outside!” Most of us do, and it fix nothing.
Most young men partake in the work force, not all of us can live off welfare, that is impossible. Most users work ordinary jobs, you might have talked with an user from this site without noticing!
Most incels walk among the common man, walking the same streets, working the same jobs. We are human in the end, believe it or not.
There is nothing special about being outside or having a job. I would argue the ones forced to partake in the workforce is the ones that is more distressed and angry about their situation, but they are also the ones that hides it the best to.
But in the end this bottled up dissatisfaction and hatred often just end with the young man simply taking his own life, so there is no need for society to worry.
4. Many are indeed radicalized, but not to one singular incel ideology. There is no such thing as an Incel movement
The general isolation most incels and other angry young men experience is fertile soil for any extremist group to recruit from matter not communist or fascist. But one big difference is that incels don’t posses one singular political ideology, incels are bounded by their social status and nothing more.
On this site you will find political extremists of various kind, everything from communist to Neo-nazi, fundamentalist Islamist, to simple anti government sentiments. In the end there is no singular ideology that incels follow, the closest being the blackpill, but the blackpill is not really an ideology like lets say socialism.
Another aspect that must be considered, most users don’t genuinely believe in their ideologies, they rather just find funny and like to make socially unacceptable jokes.
In the end this site don’t cause the radicalization, there is other exterior groups that carry on the radicalization, many user on this site are just prime candidates. This site is to much of a chaotic mess to efficiently radicalize on its own.
Incels are scattered across wast number of sites and most incels don’t share all the same beliefs, the only belief in common is the blackpill. There is no overarching communication nor organization. There is no movement, only lonely men typing stuff at their computers.
5. The blackpill is not an ideology, it is Darwinism with a new name
The blackpill is simple, attractive traits makes you desired and gives you an advantage. Basically the theory evolution applied to humans. There is also a bit of social class struggle, in the sense of desired people get treated better than undesired people and as such gets a better standing in society.
There is nothing more to it. The only point of contest is what is the most important trait, but that I will leave to the many threads already on this site about that specific issue.
The blackpill is reality. There is actual proven facts on what makes a human attractive. There is an entire field of study on how to make humans more beautiful, cosmetology. In a way incels are just unpaid ,ugly cosmetologists giving away free advice.
Denying the blackpill, is denying Darwin’s theory of evolution.
6. Simple actions that can prevent young men from joining these kinds of sites
The main reason young men join these kinds of sites are due to loneliness, often said loneliness being since childhood. As such the most important aspect is to help young men integrate into a social group, a group around an hobby is the best since it generates a shared topic to discuss.
Keep in mind that many of these young men never truly experienced the socializing process as such will need continued aid and understanding within the group they attempt to join. Many of these men are either born with or develop various mental issues, along with general health issues.
A suggestion I have is that the government sponsor boardgames clubs, TCG clubs or wargaming clubs with an location with trained staff to aid these isolated men back into society. Keep in mind many of the young lonely men are not necessarily the most sporty guys and board games often involve a social element.
And for the staff, make sure there is several men, men have a easier time to understand other men and some men struggle to communicate with women for various reasons. (Not just misogyny. Can just be general anxiety or even trauma)
Something else to keep in mind. Do not meet potential incel lingo or manosphere terms or taught with imminent hostility, meet them with an understanding and talk it out. Patience is key and intimidate hostility will just make them isolate even further. The radical will often withdraw themselves socially and if their final attempts at rejoining the mainstream society is then met with hostility, they sure wont try again.
Do not say looks don’t matter. Looks matter, there is a reason we have terms for ugly and good looking people. Don't immediately attack personality, take it slow and gradually. Personality is a complex thing at is shaped by a lifetime of experiences, you never know why someone act the way they do unless they tell you.
The biggest of them all, just be nice and treat the ones around you with respect. Take bulling seriously in school. And don’t start to act when someone have fallen outside, start before they fall outside. And stop calling every man with a opinion you don’t agree with Incel, keep incel to sites like this.
. We all know he gets no pussy while posting on IT daily. Absolutely pathetic. We’ve seen how many of them are virgins in a poll a while ago
