I go outside a lot and have seen much. I think of course things are more complex and nuanced than any one simple description, but many of the tenants of the blackpill are more or less true in the most pure, theoretical sense. It's like physics, a mathematical model is simple but upon close inspection reality has many complexities and variables that push and pull and effect matter, so your measurements may not align perfectly without considering more and more variables. In a simple model we only consider gravity, but actually theres wind, drag, etc.
That being said, it is true that the average male has increasing difficulty compared to the virtually unlimited options the average female has in the modern climate. Many normies and failed normies arent aware that they are incels, or they dont consider themselves to be one, but they actually are. They maybe have success here and there but the odds arent good and the goods are odd. Even when they luck out and score, it's usually with low quality, and they probably dont see success at large. They maybe get laid one or two times in an entire year with some hideous low quality female, the rest of the time is long dry spells. They may have a girlfriend but I imagine many are not actually getting laid very often or maybe not even at all. A lot of the times their relationship is just a very advanced form of orbiting.
Mainly because foids dont like being single, so they will pick a guy and use him for the social aspect of not being single, but they dont necessarily respect or feel much (or any) sexual attraction to him. They keep him around out it convenience, maybe out of financial considerations, and most importantly because they detect he can be easily controlled.
It's less of a relationship and more like being a permanent emotional tampon, financial provider, and a pet. They are dating a girl. But the truth is their "girlfriend" is often still available to other men, and they are simply using him as a branch until they can monkey swing to a higher quality man.
Basically the truth of modern dating from what I've seen is that only the top 5% of men are having sex with 85-90% of women. However LtN and MTN occasionally get the crumbs. But only briefly.
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