Why would a 7/10 be on incel server wtf that absolutely makes no sense.
She came to talk to me.
But Kom never told me her Discord.
He seems to think he did (that's what he's told me)
But there's no record of that in my PM logs with either of his two accounts (Charon and Komesarj)
I was told tis week that she added me but that I didn't accept it.
I always accept incoming friend requests though, far as I remember.
Something doesn't line up.
I was never asked at the time "why didn't you accept her invite?" to indicate this had happened.
The most Kom-favorable theories I can up with where he was (at least initially on the 10th-12th) acting in good faith and did try to hook us up as promised:
1) he accidentally gave her the wrong Discord for me but typed the number in wrong or something
2) he gave her the correct discord and she's the one who typed it out wrong
3) she typed it out correctly but for some reason it didn't go through
4) my account was hacked and someone rejected the incoming request for me
5) I accidentally rejected the request in a tired stupor and didn't remember doing it
I try to keep an open mind, not give excessive weight to the pessimistic and suspicious theories which come into my head, so I do try to brainstorm ways things could have gone wrong unintentionally.
It's hard to imagine this being the case from the 13th onward though given the "kek" and subsequent ghosting.
At that point it feels like a sort of "you snooze you lose" response where I got iced out.
I can understand that - wanting to monopolize a girl, but I would've preferred to be told that's what was happening.
It feels like all interactions I had since, being ignorant of that, were based on deception-by-omission.
Whatever the initial happenings, what is clear to me is this timeline:
a) given details on September 11th by Charon
b) agreed September 12th to Charon
c) told she was 'gone' September 13th by Charon
d) I ask for screenshots of what she said (ie username) on September 14th to Charon
e) no response, I ask again on September 18th if he's online
f) no response from Charon so I also sent a PM on September 18th to Kom's main but do get a response, but this was about a ban inquiry
g) no response from Charon account until September 23rd when I'm sent on a red herring and that we're "even"
Back then and even now I get names mixed up, like there were times I didn't realize Charon and Komesarj were the same person and had to be reminded of it by him.
I didn't understand what had happened at the time. I know you can't PM a non-friend who doesn't share the same server so I figured something like she'd left Acheron and changed her username or that Kom had banned her due to anti-foid policies. No mention was made they were still in contact, that "gone" meant "dibs" rather than "inaccessible".
I just figured it must've been fake because if it was actually a girl who wanted to talk to me and not a troll then she would've persisted.
Even so, never having been shown those logs and being ghosted struck me as odd, and now apparently it can't be done because his Charon alt is deleted, so only accounts on the other end of that conversation (like if she maintains her old Discord) would have the logs.
I was told stuff like "you said she was too young" and "you weren’t interested cause she was too young" which was false.
I did make a "20 is preferable" quip when told she was 18 but this was obviously sarcastic and not a 'no'.
I said right after "gotta admit I'm curious" and "I'll still talk to 18-19" and "hook me up", all on Sept 12th.
I've been trying to hold this back four days to clarify things since finding out on the 27th she was never gone like I was told.
I really want to be friends with this guy but it can't be under the expectation that I bury the context.
If there's a way forward then it will have to be through honesty with this community.