Wishful thinking plays a huge role in the psyche of the everyday person and one of the types of wishful thinking - when it comes to dating - is of course the Bluepill and Redpill, both of which are bases on what might be pleasing to imagine while simultaneously ignoring reality, because they fears their lack of control of their situation.
1. Bluepill
When it comes to the Bluepill, it is a form of Pollyannaism, an extreme positivity bias where a person thinks that they live in the "best of all possible worlds" (a reference of Leibniz and his philosophy) and that they think a girl would be attracted to him on the grounds of personality alone.Keyword: He thinks.
When evidence is presented to him suggesting that women are instead motivated by superficial means (e.g. aesthetical appeasement or otherwise financial gain), he goes through a stage of denial as a defense mechanism. The evidence had contradicted his worldview of a just world and highlighted his lack of control when it comes to his situation. In other words, his wishful thinking was attacked by the indifferent reality.
An example of this is their dating advices. He thinks that by joining a hobby, working on your personality (or going to therapy) that a woman would drop onto his lap out of nowhere if he puts in the effort. He will tell lies that he knows a (usually "unattractive") guy that "slays" and gets all of the girls just by being confident. When data contradicts this view, he instead will either outright reject (e.g. "It's just ragebait.") or will admit the fact but downplay its seriousness (e.g. "You don't want those girls anyways, the real one will come alone."). It's not that he is horribly naive (or he could be), but deep down, he knows it is true but refuses to acknowledge it because it would either go against his overmoralized conditioning and/or it contradicts his positive worldview. He fears that his effort would be meaningless as it would go against his wishful thinking.
Conversely, the Bluepiller believes that incels did not try at all and are blaming their problems on everybody else. He wishes for this to be true because of several reasons but predominantly because he fears that the Blackpill is right and that women are indeed motivated by superficial means, which would once again contradict his worldview.
2. Redpill
As for the Redpill, they acknowledge that women are motivated by superficial means and actively decided to participate in the game in an attempt to obtain their goals at any means possible. What makes this a form of wishful thinking is the more-or-less the fact that they wish their effort will attract the attention of foids; By this I mean, they think that they can simply make themselves desirable by looksmaxxing and earning more money. (When I say desirable, I mean naturally attractive)For example, they commonly give the narrative that while women reject them in their 20s, they can simply max out their stats (e.g. looks, finances) and that by their 30s, women will crawl over them. Not only is this person is projecting their revenge fantasies in attempt to cope with the fact they were not desired, but this is also rooted in wishful thinking because he desperately wants to believe his effort vindicate him of his former unattractiveness as well as make him desirable. He flaunts his wealth by living the playboy lifestyle; In reality, all he did was attract a bunch of gold diggers that would leave him for the next richest man who mogs him. He once again fear his effort will be meaningless.
Very true
