Lv99_BixNood
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View: https://old.reddit.com/r/AsianParentStories/comments/1c0icw3/scared_of_marriage_because_of_my_ap/
Last weekend my AM began to show me suitors, showing me different Chinese men to consider dating. They’re all the usual types of Chinese men, bland, quiet, and older than me. I immediately got scared and started crying, I didn’t want to be forced into a relationship like this. Instead of being empathetic, my AM saw me crying and told me that I need to stop being slow with relationships and that my cousin one year young is already looking at suitors already. I felt like my cousin was doing it for the sake of pleasing her own mother too.
But the main point was, I was pressured into letting one of the guys get my number and talking to them. He is 27, born in China and moved in the U.S when he’s 17. I was born in the U.S, immediately I knew that our ways of thinking will be hugely different and he will be no different than every traditional Chinese man I’ve seen and heard about. Just texting him makes me want to throw up out of anxiety and stress, I hate every single second of it. He can’t even text me in English, and my mom knows I speak English more than I speak Mandarin!! Insane!! How am I supposed to marry someone that I cannot communicate fully with?!
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