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Venting The problem with a good cope is post-cope clarity

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When I'm absorbed in a cope I don't think about my shit life and feel at peace.

Then when I stop, not only do the thoughts come back, but looking at the cope, I realise how stupid it is. It's a substitution for reality. I don't really like it. I'm coping with it. In reality, I hate it. But I'll go back to it soon enough when the rest of reality gets too much.
 
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Relatable. My mind always reminds me of how miserable my situation is whenever the distractions fade. These distractions only offer temporary relief but they would never be able to fix the fundamental issues we face. Every game, movie, and show will come to an end, and I will be alone. The stories will fade, the characters will be forgotten, and all that will remain is the silence of the end.
 
When I'm absorbed in a cope I don't think about my shit life and feel at peace.

Then when I stop, not only do the thoughts come back, but looking at the cope, I realise how stupid it is. It's a substitution for reality. I don't really like it. I'm coping with it. In reality, I hate it. But I'll go back to it soon enough when the rest of reality gets too much.
Depends on the cope, what are you referring to?
 
The cope where this happens
Yeah alright, like I said it really depends on the cope you are referring to, I guess you don't wanna share it, but not all copes have the same afterwards effects.
 
It is brutal to be reminded that one's cope is still not reason enough to live. No matter how much positive impact the cope has it is still a cope.
 
Every cope will end someday. And the post cope clarity impacts you in a different way depending on the type of cope you indulge in.
 
I know it, I even remember being a kid and when that TV turned off I realized I was back in hell
 
Yes. I can have a relatively enjoyable day where I am deeply invested in my copes, and by the end I'll just return to feeling miserable and empty.
 
I disagree, music world makes me feel powerful
 
Relatable. My mind always reminds me of how miserable my situation is whenever the distractions fade. These distractions only offer temporary relief but they would never be able to fix the fundamental issues we face. Every game, movie, and show will come to an end, and I will be alone. The stories will fade, the characters will be forgotten, and all that will remain is the silence of the end.
Can't even cope w/ games and films anymore because all of them suck as and esoterically tell me to die.

Only thing worth it is gardening
 
Last week I found a good comic that I had not read yet. Reading comics has always been my cope. I binge read it all online, from the morning to the evening, without stopping.
When I finished it, I started crying, something that doesn't happen often to me nowadays. Reality hit me back all at once, after I had lost myself in the plot of a dumb comic and forgotten about my life for ten hours.
This is my life, I can't have adventures and feel emotions, I can only experience them vicariously by reading about them in comics. But at the end I am always back alone in my room.
 
It is brutal to be reminded that one's cope is still not reason enough to live. No matter how much positive impact the cope has it is still a cope.
Real. I can't even imagine what it feels like to live without copes. A life that is fulfilling on its own, that rewards further progression.
 
Every cope will end someday. And the post cope clarity impacts you in a different way depending on the type of cope you indulge in.
Agreed, but all copes, by nature, are not the thing one is really wanting and will always have a whiplash effect. I am very conservative and modest with my copes and still get intense emotions from the post-cope clarity.
 
I know it, I even remember being a kid and when that TV turned off I realized I was back in hell
Vidya for me. Play all day, bad thoughts stay away.
 
Yes. I can have a relatively enjoyable day where I am deeply invested in my copes, and by the end I'll just return to feeling miserable and empty.
It requires some degree of ignorance to indulge in copes. If I felt how I did after a cope but before it began, I wouldn't even bother.
 
Can't even cope w/ games and films anymore because all of them suck as and esoterically tell me to die.

Only thing worth it is gardening
Interesting cope, not stimulating enough for me.
 
Last week I found a good comic that I had not read yet. Reading comics has always been my cope. I binge read it all online, from the morning to the evening, without stopping.
When I finished it, I started crying, something that doesn't happen often to me nowadays. Reality hit me back all at once, after I had lost myself in the plot of a dumb comic and forgotten about my life for ten hours.
This is my life, I can't have adventures and feel emotions, I can only experience them vicariously by reading about them in comics. But at the end I am always back alone in my room.
:feelsbadman: That sucks bro. I try not to think about how I have no experiences. An outsider watching my life would just see someone sitting on their own, in a room, forever. I don't even have a life, but the stories I read and watch seem to trick me into thinking I'm living. I don't want to lose my copes.
 
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