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Blackpill The Origin Of Incel Suffering And How To Live The Good Life

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I. You Will Never Be A Man (YWNBAM)

At the foundation of subjective experience is, of course, the subject. The subject is created not in conception, nor in birth, but when it first discovers it has or lacks a penis. A female child notices that she does not have a penis and assumes it has been cut off by the mother, while a male child fears that his father will cut off his penis (castration complex). The subject is first structured based on this lack.

At the heart of Being is our sexual position, with its fundamental incompleteness. Being necessarily presupposes a lack which does not have a biological cause. This is why it's low IQ when incels blame their desires on their biology. There is nothing natural about desire, we have to be taught how to desire. Desire is the result of our fantasies which structures reality to cope with traumatic structures.

II. Women Don't Exist

Sexual difference is quite binary. As was shown with the castration complex, it's either you have a penis, or you don't. The phrasing of this formula is important, because what's notably absent is the signifier for the female equivalent of the phallic function. Women can only be defined in terms of men. The binary signifier for a woman independent of man is absent even from our unconscious. If you want to read more about this, Saint BPP has a good thread about how female sexuality is just an imitation of masculine sexuality.

III. There Is No Sexual Relationship

Because women don't exist, sexual relationships are impossible. It is commonly thought that your sexual partner is your "other half" and that your sexual partner will "complete you" and you will fit together like lock and key and so on. But the reality is that men and women aren't complementary, they are just two subjects structured around a lack. When you put them together, they will not make up for the other's lack because there is no relationship between the two. Being is always incomplete. In fact, the whole idea of fusion with a sexual partner is just an illusory fantasy we employ to cope with the trauma of the impossibility of a sexual relationship. The same is true of "love".

Zizek writes "Imagine a gradual process of getting to know a thing, a process of approximation in which the thing ultimately always eludes us, and then imagine that this process of approaching a thing is immanent to this thing itself, so that this thing circulates around a void, an impossibility, in its very core. And it is here that what Lacan calls objet petit a, the object-cause of desire, enters: objet a gives body to this void."

Fantasy allows us to imagine what the Other (in this case the sexual partner) wants from you, in a vain attempt to bridge the fundamental gap of sexual difference. It structures and directs our desires onto an object, called objet petit a. However, this ultimately fails to provide a substitute to the sexual relationship, because it only exists so far as we put ourselves into it and structure it. No actual relationship is established, as it's only an interaction with your own image of the Other. For men (and a lot of women), sexual pleasure comes from this objectification of their sexual partner. Interestingly, for women the greatest pleasures of sex are not sexual in nature. Zizek suggests that the most enticing fantasy of sex for women is the fantasy of telling the tale afterwards.

IV. At The Root Of The Male Fantasy Is A Man Dressed In Drag

I have always wondered why incels and men in general talk about fags so much, when they really don't have anything to do with inceldom. They are not foids so I don't desire them, and they are not in competition with me for foids. They are basically just irrelevant to me. So what makes them so traumatic to people that they seethe endlessly about them? The image of gay people and trannies is so shocking to men because it forces them to confront the core fantasy which structures and directs their desires, that their ideal woman is a dressed-up man.

Freud once said that a dream come true is a nightmare. Zizek gives an example of this as women being raped. As we all know, all women want to be brutally raped by a chad. But when they actually do get raped, they never stop bitching about it. The reason for this isn't that rape is bad, but being forced to confront your fantasies, which structure your reality, causes a complete collapse of your subjective world and exposes you to the brutalism of reality.

The problem for many men is that our desires can't cope with female desire and agency which excludes us. We want these women's sexualities to cater to men, sustained by fantasies originating from the phallic function. When female desire is not denied and suppressed, you basically get what we have now where a bunch of chadsexual foids are forming massive chad harems, losing their virginities at young ages, and becoming total sluts and whores. In contrast, the women of our fantasies act with only you, the male viewer, in mind.

V. Conclusion

Our suffering is caused by the false hope our fantasies give us that there is something out there. Inceldom sustains this fantasy by telling us that human connection is possible, but we just aren't attractive enough for it. This is a cope. We are all helplessly alone in our own heads, and there is no possible way to reach out and establish connections with people. We only interact with images that exist in our own heads.

Once we confront our fantasies and see them for what they are, irrational and impossible, we can finally break the spell they have on us. Rather than despairing over our isolation and continuing to fall prey to the cuck/homosexual mentality of wanting a relationship, we should embrace that we are alone while maintaining emotional distance from the brutalism of reality, basically unlocking the psychopath mind.

All women and people in general are empty headed and nothing but worthless pieces of meat. Thinking that feeling "desired" "loved" or "validated" is nothing but an ego delusion that not only won't make you fulfilled, but also thinking that it will makes you a bitch. The only "love" that you need is also the purest and most fulfilling form of love, that of self-love. Self-love that is not dependent on your images of nonexistent people.
 
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Not letting the feeling of knowing you will never be considered worthy, in most cases, of a relationship or even normal, non-discriminatory treatment as a subhuman, doesn't mean you should give up on criticizing the current hypergamy, foid privilege, and degeneracy leading to such a state in the modern world, and it certainly doesn't mean you should start accepting it in any way as "justified" or the natural order of things simply because it is all you know... :feelshehe:

But I didn't get you claiming foids don't exist; at least biologically, though it may certainly be so for subhumans ignored at best by most of them as simply those to take advantage of, and mock. :feelsjuice:
 
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Extremely high IQ :bigbrain:
 
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why do you write so pretentiously
 
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doesn't mean you should give up on criticizing the current hypergamy, foid privilege, and degeneracy leading to such a state in the modern world, and it certainly doesn't mean you should start accepting it in any way as "justified" or the natural order of things simply because it is all you know... :feelshehe:
I agree.
But I didn't get you claiming foids don't exist; at least biologically, though it may certainly be so for subhumans ignored at best by most of them as simply those to take advantage of, and mock. :feelsjuice:
Within the framework of sexual differentiation, you are defined based on whether or not you have a penis. “Women” are defined as not having a penis. Lacan says women don’t exist because there is no feminine signifier that would be the equivalent of the phallus.
 
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Within the framework of sexual differentiation, you are defined based on whether or not you have a penis. “Women” are defined as not having a penis. Lacan says women don’t exist because there is no feminine signifier that would be the equivalent of the phallus. Women are defined in terms of men (the phallus).
What about XX and XY chromosomes? :feelshehe:
 
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What about XX and XY chromosomes? :feelshehe:
He’s not talking about biology. It’s more of like language structures, and he’s talking about the man and the woman as signifiers within this framework
 
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Inner and outer sexual organs unify to conceive new life.
 
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Desire is the result of our fantasies which structures reality to cope with traumatic structures.
I dissent. Fantasies are the product of subliminal desires manifesting in order to cope with the traumatic harshness of reality. Desire is not the consequence of delusion, desire is the cause of delusion.

"There is nothing natural about desire, we have to be taught how to desire."
While some desires are conditional, the most fundamental desires of life such as hunger and sexual feelings are absolutely necessary for the species to preserve itself and are consequently ingrained into the physiology of all animals--excluding those of some neuro-chemical (or possibly psychological) deformity.

"The binary signifier for a woman independent of man is absent even from our unconscious."
What do you mean exactly? Women do exist biologically, they are distinguished from men in that they possess vaginas, not penises. Are you arguing that the archetype of the "Woman" is an artifice contrived by the precocious imagination of man?


"The reason for this isn't that rape is bad, but being forced to confront your fantasies, which structure your reality, causes a complete collapse of your subjective world and exposes you to the brutalism of reality."
Fantasies do not structure reality, they obfuscate reality, thus one is exposed to reality and it's truths upon the annihilation of one's fantasy.
"Thinking that feeling "desired" "loved" or "validated" is nothing but an ego delusion that not only won't make you fulfilled, but also thinking that it will makes you a bitch."
I agree with this, the desire for acknowledgement is a futile endeavor; however, to be acknowledged is disparate to desiring acknowledgement.

"The only "love" that you need is also the purest and most fulfilling form of love, that of self-love. Self-love that is not dependent on your images of nonexistent people."
I refuse to deny the existence of universal love.
 
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The last time I've seen such a high IQ thread was when BPP was still here.
 
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Man do Not desire a females Mind but her body , If all females Had Male brains and Agency we would Be indefinitly better Off. Tbh
 
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Man do Not desire a females Mind but her body , If all females Had Male brains and Agency we would Be indefinitly better Off. Tbh
 
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In reference to point II, The irony is that from an evolutionary/biological point of view, the female sex is actually the original and principal organism and the male evolved later to assist in increasing genetic diversity.
 

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