The loser trait of doing anything your parents tell you

[Pikacel]

I'M NOT SAYING YOU SHOULD BLAME YOUR PARENTS

The problem is this implicates a greater issue of always taking the easy way out and doing only what you find comfortable. By taking this strategy I end up being incapable of progressing in life because I will always immediately default to bedrotting and avoid any hardship. Encountering disagreement is just one of those hardships, which I deal with by always complying.

 

[TooSomething]

Actually, my parents, especialy discouraged me every time I've had a good idea for a profession or to make money.

I will not go into details as this surely could doxx me, but I've had a few sound ideas in my life and especially my father would discourage me, not support me, not ask how things are going.
In fact, he would belittle me and make fun of my efforts at anything other than he deemed good.

This way I ended up as just another wageslave looser.

Later in my life I have met people who have done exactly what I had wanted to do as a teen and they are doing very well for themselves, financially, being self employed even.
So, I wasn't a looser. I had the right mindset and the right ideas at the time.

It's just that I've had a father who, for whatever reason, wanted to sabotage my life.
Back then I took his words seriousely, and in a way I still do, I think.

It sticks with you when you experience it in your formative years.

I will write all these things down, one day, to read them to my father on his death bed, so he can croak with the greatest possible regret ever, in absolute pain.

 

[Dr. Butane]

holy fuck this is spot on

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

YOU SHOULD BLAME YOUR PARENTS

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

patterns for dysfunctional parent-child relationship:
- child was sickly or otherwise too dependent on parents early on, parents use this to immediately get "more power" in the relationship and the child will have trouble detaching later and doing things his own way
- parents want more leisure time for themselves, they will default to immediately yelling "CAN'T YOU SEE HE DOESN"T WANT TO??????" whenever the child hesitates about anything, especially a social activity that takes time and money from the parents
- child takes too long to develop friendships and ideally deeper relationships with peers, the gap starts to be filled by spending more time with parents and the child starts to worry less about connecting with peers his age

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

YOU SHOULD BLAME YOUR PARENTS because they were the adult and had more life experience and more power to act on it, but didn't do jack shit besides what led to them spending more time watching their color TVs

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

ALSO

if you get "rejected as a son" by your dad, then it's basically over already

if you're male then your dad, unless he is a ZERO-testosterone nerd, is going to carefully assess you very early on, when you're barely a tyke, and he is going to put you in one out of two boxes, one box is the one where you're a future MMA champion that is going to win every round by KO, and the other box is one where you are a weak hopeless runt that should be kicked around

if he picks the second box then it's over dude, you will be on your own during the hardest times of your life, and oh, you will still have to kiss your dad's ass when he's old and decrepit and needs your help, sorry

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

I will not go into details as this surely could doxx me, but I've had a few sound ideas in my life and especially my father would discourage me, not support me, not ask how things are going.
In fact, he would belittle me and make fun of my efforts at anything other than he deemed good.

parents have many ways of discouraging their offspring from going "off the rails" and picking the "wrong" profession.
the easiest one and one which i was exposed to a lot is to demand that the idea or occupation provide an income immediately.
that is you get an income from the idea as soon as you start, before it requires any time investment away from school or a day job, and before it requires any financial help from your parents, however small.
this "requirement" is not a requirement, it's just a way to shut the whole thing down. excessive demands are a way to make something impossible to accomplish.

the hilarious part is they tend to use kiddy gloves when dealing with daughters in this regard. they are allowed to try and make finger-painting as their job, but their sons who might have some actual talent can't try to make a tiny business or art project. very funny!

 

[TooSomething]

parents have many ways of discouraging their offspring from going "off the rails" and picking the "wrong" profession.
the easiest one and one which i was exposed to a lot is to demand that the idea or occupation provide an income immediately.
that is you get an income from the idea as soon as you start, before it requires any time investment away from school or a day job, and before it requires any financial help from your parents, however small.
this "requirement" is not a requirement, it's just a way to shut the whole thing down. excessive demands are a way to make something impossible to accomplish.

the hilarious part is they tend to use kiddy gloves when dealing with daughters in this regard. they are allowed to try and make finger-painting as their job, but their sons who might have some actual talent can't try to make a tiny business or art project. very funny!

I even offered my father to start a specific business together.
We would have been very wealthy, or even rich, with our expertise combined.

He declined.

That motherfucker legit declined and keeps working his fucking low-paying, back-breaking, wageslave job.

He'd rather work himself to death than combine forces with his own son and for example pass on his knowledge to me, like any proper father would want to do. Literally pass on the torch.

And then, these same vermin of parents wonder why their children, in some cases, end up even worse than them.

The neglect is real.

 

[turbocuckcel_7000]

I even offered my father to start a specific business together.
We would have been very wealthy, or even rich, with our expertise combined.

He declined.

That motherfucker legit declined and keeps working his fucking low-paying, back-breaking, wageslave job.

He'd rather work himself to death than combine forces with his own son and for example pass on his knowledge to me, like any proper father would want to do. Literally pass on the torch.

And then, these same vermin of parents wonder why their children, in some cases, end up even worse than them.

The neglect is real.

probably got rejected as a real son also

it probably would have worked better if you had big muscles and a hot gf before you asked to start a business, not even fucking joking

 

[TooSomething]

probably got rejected as a real son also

it probably would have worked better if you had big muscles and a hot gf before you asked to start a business, not even fucking joking

I used to have big muscles, but no girlfriend in sight.

 

[Cuckoja]

I blame my fucking parents for everything, they ruined my life and broken me as a person. Evil selfish manipulative idiots.

Actually, my parents, especialy discouraged me every time I've had a good idea for a profession or to make money.

Same.