A lot of men envy and admire players and bad boys(Chads, Tyrones), but little do they know that the player is not getting a good deal when he deals with women. The reason why most men see the player as a man who has an easy life with an endless supply of sex is because of the illusion that the player and the women that he deals with give society about the hook up culture.
What a player does is he usually boost to other men about all the different kinds of women he's having sex with. But what he doesn't tell people is what he has to do in order to sleep with women and keep them around. Trust me, it's a lot of work. The player gives off the illusion that he's getting easy sex and that he's "playing" the women he's involved with by seducing them to have sex with him for "free." But nothing could be further from the truth.
Let me break down what players and bad boys have to do in order to get and keep women.
1. They constantly have to entertain. Women get bored easily so you have to entertain them to keep them interested. This includes flirting, playing head games and being verbally abusive. If you want to keep women in your life you have to do this......always. The minute you stop, you no longer exist to her anymore. No man can sustain that kind of effort for an indefinite period of time, especially introverts. This is one of the biggest reasons why relationships fail between men and women. Dating coaches call this you being "complacent" or that you stopped "courting" her. They do this to make it the man's fault that the relationship ended and to take the blame off the woman being impossible satisfy.
2. They pay for everything. Any man who says he gets sex for free is lying. No man gets sex for free....usually. Yes, there are exceptions to everything. I don't doubt that a man can get it truly for free, but this is extremely rare and it's by luck, not skill. As of me writing this there was only one time in my life that I almost got sex for free, but again that opportunity came by complete chance but sadly I didn't score. Players like to brag that they aren't paying to pay. They're paying alright, more so than the nice guy. This is one of the reasons why they get want they want because they pay for it. Every man who gets sex, pays one way or the other.
3. They put up with a lot of crap. I don't have to say much here but we all know women are paradoxical and self destructive creatures. It takes a certain kind of man to put up with that......a desperate one.
When you see a man with a good looking woman on his shoulder, just remember the things that he has to do and put up with to keep that woman around. Kinda takes the shine off it, doesn't it?
What a player does is he usually boost to other men about all the different kinds of women he's having sex with. But what he doesn't tell people is what he has to do in order to sleep with women and keep them around. Trust me, it's a lot of work. The player gives off the illusion that he's getting easy sex and that he's "playing" the women he's involved with by seducing them to have sex with him for "free." But nothing could be further from the truth.
Let me break down what players and bad boys have to do in order to get and keep women.
1. They constantly have to entertain. Women get bored easily so you have to entertain them to keep them interested. This includes flirting, playing head games and being verbally abusive. If you want to keep women in your life you have to do this......always. The minute you stop, you no longer exist to her anymore. No man can sustain that kind of effort for an indefinite period of time, especially introverts. This is one of the biggest reasons why relationships fail between men and women. Dating coaches call this you being "complacent" or that you stopped "courting" her. They do this to make it the man's fault that the relationship ended and to take the blame off the woman being impossible satisfy.
2. They pay for everything. Any man who says he gets sex for free is lying. No man gets sex for free....usually. Yes, there are exceptions to everything. I don't doubt that a man can get it truly for free, but this is extremely rare and it's by luck, not skill. As of me writing this there was only one time in my life that I almost got sex for free, but again that opportunity came by complete chance but sadly I didn't score. Players like to brag that they aren't paying to pay. They're paying alright, more so than the nice guy. This is one of the reasons why they get want they want because they pay for it. Every man who gets sex, pays one way or the other.
3. They put up with a lot of crap. I don't have to say much here but we all know women are paradoxical and self destructive creatures. It takes a certain kind of man to put up with that......a desperate one.
When you see a man with a good looking woman on his shoulder, just remember the things that he has to do and put up with to keep that woman around. Kinda takes the shine off it, doesn't it?
