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Long thread, but bare with me
I was recently cucked by a slightly above average looking dude facially, 6ft. This female was all over him as if he were chad, but had a super good "personality" by modern means - which carried him - as his looks were also pretty good. He had the typical extroverted, well spoken mannerisms.
But more recently, she was obsessing over another guy with the typical dark triad personality. So completely different to that of the other guy. It's like a "good" personality to females is anything that differentiates from the normal human standard kek.
So what I learnt from this, is that there is no typical "good" personality women desire, and that it is all a subjective measurement - autists like ourselves do not have the neurological pathways to understand or reciprocate this. So the "just have a good personality bro" isn't real.
Also keep in mind that this was a church girl, and she would lower her standards physically speaking. So I would also have a bias that differentiates from most modern girls I can imagine.
The grief from this occurrence made me delve into studies and articles regarding neurodivergence, such as it's impact on friendships, relationships, attractiveness, etc.
But before I go into that, I want to make a few things clear (from what I have noticed):
1. Neurotypicality β Personality
Neurotypicality is more of an objective measurement, whilst personality is more subjective.
A good way to put this is measuring across groups for example:
Japan good personality = introverted, whilst United States good personality = extroverted.
But then if we take a look at NT, that is generally extroverted anywhere, as we are naturally extroverted beings.
So someone can still be 100% NT, but still have a "bad" personality - as I mentioned with my own personal experience.
So I believe that Neurotypicality/Personality (however you want to look at it) matters, but only after you already have the looks (and it is just an added bonus that still can carry you heaps).
Now moving into the topic:
How disadvantages do I think ND is? Well it depends for each group of people. In western society it is a major set back, and if you are even slightly below average facially but super ND, you may as well be subhuman in a hypergamic society. I can speak from experience.
I feel like this is one of those topics where you kind of have to speak from experience about - there is only so much you can take from articles online that all contradict each other anyways.
But there comes a point, to where you are extremely ND and you actually get treated better than usual - as a form of pity.
Now this is my experience with ND - keeping it very brief:
I am not abominationally unattractive, maybe 3.5-4/10 facially, 5'10, olive skinned ethnicity brings me down in Australia - but not terrible physically right..
I have never been able to make any true friends in real life, never been able to even get a female my age to look at me in the eye when I am speaking to them, and have always been treated as an outsider since I was 3 years old in preschool.
I don't blame this on my looks, I blame with on my Neurodiversity. And why you may ask? Because I see everyone else who is way worse looking than me, doing better in all the aspects I mentioned above. This is without cherry picking.
But this makes sense of course, as people react negatively to ND factors such as:
- awkward timing
- low reciprocity
- unusual affect
- anxious/non-natural body language
- difficulty fitting group norms
And they do this instinctively, without realising it.
I also want to mentioned the Halo effect that people get from being attractive, to coming off more neurotypical. And an unattractive person coming off more neurodivergent.
But then again, whilst the Halo effect plays a part, this can still be true. As good looking individuals upbringings make them more likely to have been treated better - (where that environment + genetic combination comes into play) - and they develop more "neurotypical" than others.
And remember, looks and personality are generally not mutually exclusive
And why do I say personality/NT matters - whilst still being blackpilled?
Because I don't believe that you can change your personality (to an extent).
After further research, there seems to be an 80/20, genetics to environment split in regards to Neurodiversity and Personality.
Genetics provide the blueprint for potential, but the environment is the final dictator. This is the same both physically/looks, and mentally/neurotypicality.
And the 'environment' sectioned listened above is whilst your brain is still developing, especially during puberty.
So trying to change your personality after puberty has finished can be almost impossible - but at the end of the day it is all about genetic potential.
But remember, personality only matters if you have the looks to come with it.
And I have a bias as my interactions have been in Christian groups which differ from the rest of modern society.
Mentionable articles on the topic
Also, this article showed that lonely people technically have better "social skills" than the social people themselves:
www.psychologicalscience.org
NT people are less willing to interact with ND people, as a result of pre-thought judgements:
pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov
Great thread that ties in with social dynamics:
incels.is
Note: I am still learning about this so take everything with a grain of salt.
This post was first developed here:
incels.is
@InvoluntaryChigga @TheGrayWolf @mexicanascension
I was recently cucked by a slightly above average looking dude facially, 6ft. This female was all over him as if he were chad, but had a super good "personality" by modern means - which carried him - as his looks were also pretty good. He had the typical extroverted, well spoken mannerisms.
But more recently, she was obsessing over another guy with the typical dark triad personality. So completely different to that of the other guy. It's like a "good" personality to females is anything that differentiates from the normal human standard kek.
So what I learnt from this, is that there is no typical "good" personality women desire, and that it is all a subjective measurement - autists like ourselves do not have the neurological pathways to understand or reciprocate this. So the "just have a good personality bro" isn't real.
Also keep in mind that this was a church girl, and she would lower her standards physically speaking. So I would also have a bias that differentiates from most modern girls I can imagine.
The grief from this occurrence made me delve into studies and articles regarding neurodivergence, such as it's impact on friendships, relationships, attractiveness, etc.
But before I go into that, I want to make a few things clear (from what I have noticed):
1. Neurotypicality β Personality
Neurotypicality is more of an objective measurement, whilst personality is more subjective.
A good way to put this is measuring across groups for example:
Japan good personality = introverted, whilst United States good personality = extroverted.
But then if we take a look at NT, that is generally extroverted anywhere, as we are naturally extroverted beings.
So someone can still be 100% NT, but still have a "bad" personality - as I mentioned with my own personal experience.
So I believe that Neurotypicality/Personality (however you want to look at it) matters, but only after you already have the looks (and it is just an added bonus that still can carry you heaps).
Now moving into the topic:
How disadvantages do I think ND is? Well it depends for each group of people. In western society it is a major set back, and if you are even slightly below average facially but super ND, you may as well be subhuman in a hypergamic society. I can speak from experience.
I feel like this is one of those topics where you kind of have to speak from experience about - there is only so much you can take from articles online that all contradict each other anyways.
But there comes a point, to where you are extremely ND and you actually get treated better than usual - as a form of pity.
Now this is my experience with ND - keeping it very brief:
I am not abominationally unattractive, maybe 3.5-4/10 facially, 5'10, olive skinned ethnicity brings me down in Australia - but not terrible physically right..
I have never been able to make any true friends in real life, never been able to even get a female my age to look at me in the eye when I am speaking to them, and have always been treated as an outsider since I was 3 years old in preschool.
I don't blame this on my looks, I blame with on my Neurodiversity. And why you may ask? Because I see everyone else who is way worse looking than me, doing better in all the aspects I mentioned above. This is without cherry picking.
But this makes sense of course, as people react negatively to ND factors such as:
- awkward timing
- low reciprocity
- unusual affect
- anxious/non-natural body language
- difficulty fitting group norms
And they do this instinctively, without realising it.
I also want to mentioned the Halo effect that people get from being attractive, to coming off more neurotypical. And an unattractive person coming off more neurodivergent.
But then again, whilst the Halo effect plays a part, this can still be true. As good looking individuals upbringings make them more likely to have been treated better - (where that environment + genetic combination comes into play) - and they develop more "neurotypical" than others.
And remember, looks and personality are generally not mutually exclusive
And why do I say personality/NT matters - whilst still being blackpilled?
Because I don't believe that you can change your personality (to an extent).
After further research, there seems to be an 80/20, genetics to environment split in regards to Neurodiversity and Personality.
Genetics provide the blueprint for potential, but the environment is the final dictator. This is the same both physically/looks, and mentally/neurotypicality.
And the 'environment' sectioned listened above is whilst your brain is still developing, especially during puberty.
So trying to change your personality after puberty has finished can be almost impossible - but at the end of the day it is all about genetic potential.
But remember, personality only matters if you have the looks to come with it.
And I have a bias as my interactions have been in Christian groups which differ from the rest of modern society.
Mentionable articles on the topic
Also, this article showed that lonely people technically have better "social skills" than the social people themselves:
New Research Finds Lonely People Have Superior Social Skills
NPR:Intuitively, many of us might think lonely people are lonely because they have poor social skills. New research turns this thinking on its head and offers a potential cure for loneliness.A number of experiments find, β¦
NT people are less willing to interact with ND people, as a result of pre-thought judgements:
Neurotypical Peers are Less Willing to Interact with Those with Autism based on Thin Slice Judgments - PubMed
Individuals with autism spectrum disorder (ASD), including those who otherwise require less support, face severe difficulties in everyday social interactions. Research in this area has primarily focused on identifying the cognitive and neurological differences that contribute to these social...
Great thread that ties in with social dynamics:
Simping, Male on Male Aggression & Mating Cues
"Another rapid social-context effect shows men in some of their lamest moments. Specifically, when women are present, or when men are prompted to think about women, they become more risk-taking, show steeper temporal discounting in economic decisions, and spend more on luxury items (but not on...
incels.is
Note: I am still learning about this so take everything with a grain of salt.
This post was first developed here:
How disadvantageous do you guys think neurodivergence actually is?
As someone who's severely nd, I can attest to the horrors of this crippling condition and life circumstance. I haven't a single friend, I've been severely bullied since 7 years of age, verbally and physically, but what if I was chad? How much of a role do you think it would play then? Let's...
incels.is
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